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camille65 -> RE: What do you think when you hear Switch? (10/30/2007 9:50:19 AM)
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ORIGINAL: undergroundsea
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ORIGINAL: camille65
It is the D type or s type switching which in my teensy brain makes no sense. I couldn't top no matter what, if commanded by my dom to top I would probably dissolve into a puddle of confusion. It isn't often that I am confounded by a mindset but this one does it every time.
When I refer to switching towards topping and bottoming, I refer to switching that is done for sake of physical sensation and not for sake of exchanging power roles. Ahhhhhhh now that, I can understand. It is the exchange of power roles that eludes me.
Let's take for example doing sensation play on a dominant which involves using bunny fur, and then something cold, and then something hot. All that is almost like a massage. The point I wish to convey is that when a submissive switches in this manner, she is providing physical sensations that are pleasurable and desired by the dominant as a service to the dominant. These sensations can come from sensation play or a flogging. I hadn't put that into the catagory of switching before. So maybe my definition is totally flawed.
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It is a bit like how I don't get how someone can be submissive in some parts of life but not in all parts. I am, in all parts.
For switching with respect to D/s I refer to the KinSea ( :p ) scale, which basically says that there is a continuum between submission and dominance, just as the Kinsey scale defines a continuum between homosexuality and heterosexuality. Everyone falls somewhere along this continuum. Attending a Jack Rinella presentation added to my perspective that where one falls on this continuum depends on the other person involved.
I know a woman who is hard to imagine in a dominant role. And then I saw her with her dog and I tell you I almost hit the ground when she told the dog to sit with such authority ;-) My sweet mutt is the one in control [8|], she is without a doubt the alpha in the house and that does cause problems.
I am sure you can imagine yourself exercising authority or dominance over one person or another--be it by virtue of age, job roles, or personality interaction. The point here is that every person has the capacity to be dominant but perhaps not the desire. The desire sometimes changes with time, sometimes it does not.
I have sometimes seen subs switch simply because of attraction to another sub, and wanting to engage with the sub and provide the type of pleasure they experience when submitting.
Perhaps you lie at the end of the spectrum towards submission where you will never have an interest to switch, and that's fair enough. You are so correct on this. I do not have the desire or interest in switching/topping. The very thought makes me uncomfortable. I do however have a strong interest in understanding it and you have helped that.
Thank you Sea for taking the time with your post.
Cheers,
Sea
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