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what have you done to please your Dom/me - 10/28/2007 7:43:53 PM

unsureslave

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what thing or things have you done to please your Dom/me? not including the run of the mill sexual service! did you do it on your own because you thought it would please Him/Her or were you told to do it? and most importantly was it appreciated or does it matter if was appreciated?

i'll start... these are things that i did to please my previous online Dom of over 10 months:
~~greatly added to my lingerie, shoe, & lipstick collection
~~set-up a website with my thoughts, pictures, videos, etc as tribute
~~was learning a foreign language
~~had nipple & clit pierced
~~made humiliating videos that repulsed me because He found it erotic and enjoyed them
~~set up a security cam that only He had access to so He could watch at any time whether i knew it or not
~~got large tattoo in His honor on my lower back

Most were my ideas on my own and a few He had planted seeds in mind to want to do... At the time thought it was appreciated, but now not so sure.

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RE: what have you done to please your Dom/me - 10/28/2007 8:00:09 PM

writergirl

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Most of the things I've done have been relatively small. I've bought Him small (and sometimes helped with large) ticket items (sometimes as a surprise, sometimes at His request). I've cooked Him breakfast in bed (His request). I've done household chores without being asked. I read to Him before bed sometimes (my request when He gave me a reward of anything I wanted - He was touched that I would use my reward to read to Him). Much of my service to Him is anticapatory. I try to do things I think He would want. I believe I usually do a good job.

He seems to always appreciate them, though I don't need Him to appreciate them. I get more gratification just knowing He's pleased. Perhaps that's the same as appreciation... I don't know.

wg

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RE: what have you done to please your Dom/me - 10/28/2007 8:04:44 PM

hejira92

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To better please Master, I have:
- grown my hair out
- changed my make-up
- taken to wearing at least 2 1/2 inch heels to work and 3 1/2- 5 inches when with Him
- bought lots of lingerie and made sure my bra always matches my panties
- learned to always sleep naked
- written a nightly journal for almost two years (entries not necessary the nights I spend with Him)
- learned to ride behind Him on His Harley
- learned to appreciate Metal and Hard Rock (I'm a jazz girl)
- started going to the gym 3 days a week (for over 2 months now- for toning rather than weight loss)

And probably most dramatically:
- had my breasts done (see female shape thread for details)

And all these things were done with an open heart and service in mind to please Him.
Now, if I could just get used to the fact that He is growing out His hair like it was in His rock days...... I hate the fact that this decision of His bothers me. I do not have the right to feel this way. But He is so handsome. And, I know I will get flamed for this, I think long hair is for boys, not men- IMO.

Sorry, got off topic there. I just wish my heart would open and accept so I could serve Him better in this, too.

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RE: what have you done to please your Dom/me - 10/28/2007 8:25:29 PM

Willowmoon

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To please my Dom/Master I have

Got my nipples pierced
Learnt to sleep naked
Learnt to make his perfect coffee and present it to him
Learnt to make his fav dinner so that I can cook it for him
Worn a gstring when I hate them
Got matching Bras to the gstrings
Given him long massages
Used my 'allowance' to buy him a present

Mostly though I have learnt what he needs and am able to do things that he needs/desires/enjoys before he asks me too. The next big thing that he wants me to do for him is to get my clit pierced but the idea of that terrifys me and I am scared of losing sensation down there.

Willow

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RE: what have you done to please your Dom/me - 10/28/2007 8:29:28 PM

batshalom

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Let's see. Tons of stuff. Grew my hair, didn't get another tattoo, took karate, got in better shape, got more rest, did girlie stuff for myself (which I never did learn to enjoy), stopped drinking, saw a therapist, learned to answer questions directly (still have trouble with this sometimes). These are from the past.

For Aba ... mm. Learning to speak Hebrew with an Israeli accent. Learning to write and read Hebrew letters. Still learning to answer questions directly. Learning to ask questions without qualifying them (i.e. "If you don't want to answer, or if it's too personal then you don't have to answer, but ..."), trying to figure out how to stay in Israel longer than 90 days at a time, learning to l-o-v-e pain, learning that I am perfectly acceptable ... there's more but I sure am sleepy and am nodding off at my desk.

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RE: what have you done to please your Dom/me - 10/28/2007 8:41:03 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Willowmoon

The next big thing that he wants me to do for him is to get my clit pierced but the idea of that terrifys me and I am scared of losing sensation down there.

i know you wont believe this until you finally do it, but getting my nipple pierced was far far worse than my clit.... i got both done the same day. i already had the other nipple pierced (3x) so i knew what to expect. but i had never ever wanted to get my clit pierced and dreaded it more than anything. the fear and anticipation was worse than the piercing actually. i had to drive 6 hours home afterwards and my nipple hurt the entire way! i never even noticed the clit piercing until i went to the bathroom. i had actually hoped it would make me more sensitive but it didnt. but i do hope to get a vibrating clit ring soon---that might be fun.

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RE: what have you done to please your Dom/me - 10/28/2007 8:52:50 PM

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I think clit piercing is a very bad idea myself...hood fine...clit?...NO....alot of places wont even do the actual clit because of the potential of permanent damage

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RE: what have you done to please your Dom/me - 10/28/2007 9:51:44 PM

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A brief list: cook most of his meals, give him tons of snuggles, occasionally gather up the trash, laugh a lot, watch tv and read the paper together on the couch, be his gym buddy, enjoy spending time with his friends and family.

And tonight I baked him a special pumpkin pie.

We're boring, but happy.

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RE: what have you done to please your Dom/me - 10/29/2007 12:03:08 AM

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I have learned to do everything he desires me to do, anything that pleases him.
This includes, cooking better/healthier meals, following instructions including learning to not question Master, and answering his questions promptly and directly, piercing my tongue, writing a daily diary, growing my hair out, play games with him, sleep naked, just to name a few. Most of these things were my choice, Master just assisted me in finding the information on how to do it or encouraged me to follow what I felt I wanted.
Was it appreciated? It doesn't matter, if for even one moment he was happy with any of this, then how could it not be appreciated?

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RE: what have you done to please your Dom/me - 10/29/2007 2:24:07 AM

sweetestnettles

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lol I seem to be one of the few who posted with short hair whose Dom didn't want me to grow it out- I would if he asked but I don't think it matters much to him. However, unsureslave, I've done exactly the same and greatly added to my lingerie collection, out of my own desire to please&titillate him as he wouldn't care if I wore a potato sack to bed; I already slept naked before him, so didn't have to get used to that; getting a tattoo for him (my idea) in a few weeks when I return from NZ; and as TakenPet has already mentioned, (still learning!) to answer his questions promptly and directly and accept his will and control in everyday situations I wouldn't have usually.

N.B unsureslave; I have always maintained I would rather pierce my hood/clit than my nipples! I don't know what it is but I know how sensitive my nips are and the thought of having a needle shoved through them gives me the heebie jeebies. But for some odd reason, the thought of having a sharp implement driven through my hood/clit doesn't bother me as much!

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RE: what have you done to please your Dom/me - 10/29/2007 2:59:03 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sweetestnettles

N.B unsureslave; I have always maintained I would rather pierce my hood/clit than my nipples! I don't know what it is but I know how sensitive my nips are and the thought of having a needle shoved through them gives me the heebie jeebies. But for some odd reason, the thought of having a sharp implement driven through my hood/clit doesn't bother me as much!

i had my nipples pierced, everything was fine till i had the jewelry switched out and the rings were too small, and began to migrate.

i havent lost a *bit* of sensitivity.

kitten

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RE: what have you done to please your Dom/me - 10/29/2007 3:27:41 AM

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I have a huge (and when I say huge I mean fullblown panic attack huge) aversion to needles, however, I had my nipples pierced for my Dom once as a birthday present. He didn't ask me to, he didn't expect it, we were going on a trip to Vegas, when we got to the hotel he was pleasantly suprised by it. It was however difficult to not let the cat out of the bag when he kept grabbing me on the plane.
There are so many other things I did and changed for him it's amazing to look back on it now and realize the impact he had on my life, this is just my favorite memory because of the look of absolute suprise on his face.

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RE: what have you done to please your Dom/me - 10/29/2007 4:54:15 AM

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nothing much - merely sent them a picture of me from Saturday night however mostly being my "normal" self pleases them.

it's the simplistic things that please my Doms the most

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RE: what have you done to please your Dom/me - 10/29/2007 5:28:29 AM

BBWnNC72

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I for one do anything He asks of me, i do that because i know that He would never ask me to do something He knows i absolutly hate or would harm me emotionally or physically.
i am finding furniture for Him, He moved out of a furnished house into a one that wasnt. i get greatly rerwarded with every peice i find, and i dont have to pay for it, He just needs to like it. If i manage to furnish His whole house i get the force fantasy i have been wanting among other things. i also do other things, He loves for me to bathe Him and shave Him, rub his feet, legs and back. i love doing personal care for Him that is non sexual. Mostly we sit and He talks and i listen. i am also learning to be independant, He likes an independant girl but i have been dependant for so long with my ex, but now i am learning from Master to not be. He is most proud when i do something on my own, even the small things like getting the power switched to my name from my ex's. For that one i got a spanking, yay. LOVE the spankings so those are always earned.

huggs and purrs
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RE: what have you done to please your Dom/me - 10/29/2007 5:29:45 AM

BBWnNC72

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oh wow, i am now curious, not vanilla anymore, YAY for me!!!

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RE: what have you done to please your Dom/me - 10/29/2007 5:42:08 AM

handsoverhead

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a few things which come to mind:
cook all his meals
pack his lunch for work
make his morning coffee
learnt to embrace recycling & water conservation
changed television viewing habits
changed the type of soap & shampoo I use
changed the type of cleaning products I use
decreased alcohol intake
increased exercise
gave up smoking
I leave the bed when I wake up so I do not disturb him while he sleeps in.

a couple of things I am trying to do:
learn to embrace silence
learn to respond and not react

Most of the things I do for him are initiated by me because I think it would please him ... though I guess the reason I think this is because it has come up in conversation as an indirect request.

And yes appreciation matters to me. Like it or not my motivation is to be pleasing to him ... appreciation shows me I have succeeded.

And the list above? It would be more than matched with a list of what he does for me and gives to me, albeit in different ways ....

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RE: what have you done to please your Dom/me - 10/29/2007 6:54:21 AM

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I have: cooked his favorite meal, bought his favorite cheese ( limburger), baked fresh bread or breakfast muffins so when he woke up he could smell it cooking.. Grown out my hair, giving up the choice of hair color I prefer to his choice, shaving all my body hair off except my head and including arm hair, and the big one is learning to keep my opinions to myself when I knew the choice he made was wrong but not a major booboo in order to keep peace..Sometimes you have to over look things.

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RE: what have you done to please your Dom/me - 10/29/2007 7:16:34 AM

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Well for us everything I do is to please him. From little things to big things. I aim to please him because that is what I am expected to and what I want to do. I do don't do things for him to get appreciation and admiration. He shows his appreciation all the time for me.

So everything from daily stuff to everything else I do to please him.

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RE: what have you done to please your Dom/me - 10/29/2007 7:57:51 AM

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I find it interesting so many who've surprised their doms with body modifications. I think Master would be very upset if I had a mod done without His permission. Not because He has any issues with mods at all (He has a brow piercing Himself and we have talked about my getting a tattoo to symbolize what and who I am), but because my body is His. If I make a mod without His permission, I believe He'd have an issue with that.

I'm not judging anyone who's done it, please understand. I think anything done with the intention of pleasing one's owner/dom is a very nice thing. Just in my case, this particular thing wouldn't fly, I don't think. Maybe I'll ask Him what He thinks about it ;)

Wellwishes,
wg

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RE: what have you done to please your Dom/me - 10/29/2007 9:08:51 AM

Mercnbeth

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this slave is grateful to Master to have been given the opportunity to serve, in whatever capacity He desires, for as long as He desires.

this slave has done things she has never done, gone places she has never been, and participated in things she previously would have ran, screaming away from, specifically for His pleasure, because Master's happiness is this slave's "job".

this slave doesn't have a list handy of specific acts, mainly because keeping score is not one of her duties.

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