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RE: Relationship Status & Honesty - 10/30/2007 6:17:09 AM

wintersbreath

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I don't understand why someone would think that being "honest" with me about their relationship status would earn them any points if they are still being dishonest with their partner

I would agree with this. I had a conversation with a man once who was very honest with me about being married; yet could not find it in himself to be honest with his wife about his activities.

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RE: Relationship Status & Honesty - 10/30/2007 6:47:05 AM

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Relationships, even friendships are often different with someone who is in a relationship. For me i only want someone who is available for me when i want/need them. I'm not willing to play the "don't call my house, oops someone walked in the room i can't im you now" game. I don't do married unless they come as a couple. That's my personal choice and if you have made the same choice then why is he pushing you? Seems he is judging you for making that choice. Definately not worth the time to continue with even as a friend in my opinion.

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RE: Relationship Status & Honesty - 10/30/2007 11:43:22 AM

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Women dont cheat??????

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RE: Relationship Status & Honesty - 10/30/2007 2:46:25 PM

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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

Women dont cheat??????

Did someone say that they didn't? Of course this is a two way street, and women who are dishonest about their connections are equally culpable.

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RE: Relationship Status & Honesty - 10/30/2007 2:54:07 PM

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The only time I'll meet someone that is married (or involved in a commited relationship) is if I meet both (all) of them. I will not get involved with someone that wants to cheat on their SO.

Being dishonest about relationship status is a deal breaker as well.

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RE: Relationship Status & Honesty - 10/30/2007 3:12:49 PM

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I think that if your being knocked back, because you are married, then some will be motivated to omit that piece of info in future. That's called a learning curve.
And a naturally occurring one to boot.
He is allready being dishonest, by chatting you up in the first place, unless of course, it is with his wifes consent. But i find that is rare.
As for why i do not wish personally to become involved with someone allready taken is:
You dont shit on someone else. (the wife/husband/fiance/their kids)
I want 100% back, in return for 100% in, marrieds cant give that.
I want honesty, if they are here without partners knowledge, there's your answer to how much can i trust this person?

And with all the fish in this sea, why bother with dishonest, uncommitted, liars?
Lifes tough enough, without bringing heartache into it. Where could such a relationship go? Someone, will end up hurt. And part of that hurt would be my repsonsibility.
Plus, i was once in a bdsm-less, dead end marriage, i had the balls to get out, so should they!
in my opinion admittedly.
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RE: Relationship Status & Honesty - 10/30/2007 4:57:32 PM

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If they were so honest then why did he/she not reveal they were married in their profile so that whomever responded would know from the start and would make the concious decision that they would get involved with a married man. There are a lot of married people on here why dont they seek each other out and allow the single submissives and Dominants/Dommes who have had the courage to not settle for vanilla seek each other out. I have heard the comments about well you cant pick your Oone well i have lived this lifestyle since i was 19 and yes you can if you have a fair chance without being distracted by lies and can deal with the realities of the lifestyle. And when did lies foster trust? One of my first questions is are you married? If his answer is yes then i end it imeediately and even go to the point of blocking him. I have no patience for lies or deception!

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RE: Relationship Status & Honesty - 10/30/2007 5:09:15 PM

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I don't care for deception, because I sometimes experience it as a block that I can't get around. But it has been my experience that some married men are far less deceptive than single ones. It is more a matter of how much they have to shut down to maintain their lies.

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