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Too Much Information - 10/30/2007 8:42:15 AM   
mistoferin


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Status: offline 		Do we as submissives unknowingly give dominants information that they store away for future use to torture us with?

As a dominant, do you file away little tidbits that get shared through the normal course of conversation? Things that make you go AHA!, I'm going to remember that!

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RE: Too Much Information - 10/30/2007 8:58:48 AM   
meticulousgirl


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Status: offline 		yeah i think in some cases we all do it whether we realize it or not.  Whether or not the other person uses it, is soley up to them.

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RE: Too Much Information - 10/30/2007 9:05:29 AM   
Rover


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ORIGINAL: mistoferin

As a dominant, do you file away little tidbits that get shared through the normal course of conversation? Things that make you go AHA!, I'm going to remember that!


Now what would give you that impression?  (makes note to self... be very careful, she's catching on).
 
John

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RE: Too Much Information - 10/30/2007 9:08:35 AM   
batshalom


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quote:

ORIGINAL: mistoferin

Do we as submissives unknowingly give dominants information that they store away for future use to torture us with?


I used to do it accidentally ... until I caught on. Now I do it on purpose. ~good-natured grin~

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RE: Too Much Information - 10/30/2007 9:11:27 AM   
RRafe


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Status: offline 		Empathy is a cruel weapon, and an artful top will lead you down the garden path in the most delightfully innocent ways.....you will let things slip-and he will keep changing the subject-making it hard to keep track of what he is after. And he will not let on-that you are dancing his dance-not yours.

All the while the gears will be turning, information-stored.

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RE: Too Much Information - 10/30/2007 9:14:07 AM   
GhitaAmati


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Status: offline 		My Sirs best friend is really awful about remembering little things. I always have to be very careful what I do or say around him, because he will pipe up with something I said two years ago while I was drunk and use it against me at the most inoportune moments.....(yea, I know I spelled that wrong, get over it)

ghita~

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RE: Too Much Information - 10/30/2007 9:20:57 AM   
mistoferin


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Status: offline 		You know, even when you think you have your guards up....the most innocent things.....

I once made mention during a conversation that I never buy eggs in those cardboard egg cartons. The feeling of that cardboard gives me the heebeejeebies in the worst way. Kind of like nails on a black board. I just can not touch the stuff. How could I know that would spark an idea in his mind for a spanking bench covered in egg crate cardboard?

You dominants are just twisted and wrong!

< Message edited by mistoferin -- 10/30/2007 9:21:45 AM >

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RE: Too Much Information - 10/30/2007 9:23:03 AM   
charlotte12


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Status: offline 		Now that Stephan knows exactly how much I hate ketchup I'm having nightmares of things like detchup enemas.

Seriously though, if a dominant couldn't use info that he learns about you to get inside your head and manipulate you, he wouldn't be much of a dominant would he? This is everything from whether bondage puts you in a happy giggly headspace, or a deeply objectified headspace, or what other circumstances influence that.  It is his job to know you and use all that information "against" you, in the best of ways ;)

~ J


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RE: Too Much Information - 10/30/2007 9:26:38 AM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		But of course I remember. All sorts of fun things.

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My twisted, self deprecating, sense of humour, finds alot to laugh about, in your lack of one!

Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!

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RE: Too Much Information - 10/30/2007 9:29:28 AM   
amelliagrace


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ORIGINAL: mistoferin

Do we as submissives unknowingly give dominants information that they store away for future use to torture us with? In a word, "DUH!!!!!!"

As a dominant, do you file away little tidbits that get shared through the normal course of conversation? Things that make you go AHA!, I'm going to remember that!

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RE: Too Much Information - 10/30/2007 9:34:28 AM   
HottLicks


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Status: offline 		I take great joy in extracting information for future use!  It could be in my top five favorite things to do.  But then, even when cringing, my submissive loves it and pleases me ever so much by coming back for more.  It does create a vicious cycle though... one that must be fed constantly.  Damn a 24 hour day and life demands!

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RE: Too Much Information - 10/30/2007 9:36:46 AM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		In fact, isn't our Misst very afraid of spiders? 

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RE: Too Much Information - 10/30/2007 9:46:03 AM   
mistoferin


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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

In fact, isn't our Misst very afraid of spiders? 


I refuse to answer that question on the grounds that I might.....

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RE: Too Much Information - 10/30/2007 9:49:26 AM   
TreasureKY


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ORIGINAL: mistoferin

As a dominant, do you file away little tidbits that get shared through the normal course of conversation? Things that make you go AHA!, I'm going to remember that!


Heck, I'm not a dominant and I do that. 

When we first started talking, FirmhandKY would off-handedly mention some piece of information that revealed a preference during a conversation, and I made a mental note.  Things like what kind of beer he drinks, what kind of soap he likes... anything that I felt might be useful to know in order to make his life more comfortable... I have in a file. 

I pretty much know his preferences now or can give a good guess, so my "radar" is always on the lookout for things I can do to please him or gifts ideas.  It's made it easy to decide what to get him for Christmas.  Plus it thrills me to surprise him and put a smile on his face.

But shhhhh... don't tell him. 

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RE: Too Much Information - 10/30/2007 9:57:59 AM   
thetammyjo


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quote:

ORIGINAL: mistoferin

Do we as submissives unknowingly give dominants information that they store away for future use to torture us with?

As a dominant, do you file away little tidbits that get shared through the normal course of conversation? Things that make you go AHA!, I'm going to remember that!


Of course I do.

What else would make a submissive think I must be magically able to read his mind because I can't honestly do either.

I try not to forget anything I'm told and in fact I'll write things down and review notes occasionally.

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RE: Too Much Information - 10/30/2007 10:19:14 AM   
SmokingGun82


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Status: offline 		I do that with everyone... I'm spectacular at remembering tiny details people give. Unfortunately, I'm really bad at more important things- names, birthdays, etcetera.

But I've found if you can remember some really minor detail someone gave you, they think you were really paying attention, even if you weren't. And if that minor detail happens to be exploitable... well, that's a bonus.


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RE: Too Much Information - 10/30/2007 10:22:01 AM   
RRafe


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ORIGINAL: mistoferin

quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

In fact, isn't our Misst very afraid of spiders? 


I refuse to answer that question on the grounds that I might.....


http://www.geocities.com/gannclan6/CamelSpider.JPG

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RE: Too Much Information - 10/30/2007 10:24:39 AM   
mistoferin


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Status: offline 		Oh now that was just....BAD!

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When you make a habit of playing on the tracks, you thereby forfeit the right to bitch when you get hit by a train.

"I did it! I admit it and I'm gonna do it again!"

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RE: Too Much Information - 10/30/2007 10:26:17 AM   
RRafe


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ORIGINAL: mistoferin

Oh now that was just....BAD!


I have friends in Iraq-shall we send you one for christmas? Isn't it CUTE?

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RE: Too Much Information - 10/30/2007 10:29:33 AM   
ownedgirlie


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Status: offline 		Unknowingly?  Probably.  We all give information away about ourselves simply by being.  However, I also knowingly gave him (and continue to give him) tons of information that he can later use on me.  How else can he know me well enough to manage me as he does?

This used to be rather difficult for me, coming from a manipulative mother who mis-used information.  The question here is, does the dom use the information wisely, or does he misuse it? 


Edited to add:  I just saw the "torture" part of your post.  Not sure how I missed that!!  But yes, he uses information to torture me with too, hahaha.  He knows all my triggers, and when to push each one. 

< Message edited by ownedgirlie -- 10/30/2007 10:30:46 AM >

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