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RE: What's the point of a profile....? - 10/30/2007 12:25:36 PM   
subtee


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I didn't get one.

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RE: What's the point of a profile....? - 10/30/2007 12:34:55 PM   
probablyknowme


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Status: offline 		Okay, just for public record, I am in love with Domiguy!!!

To the OP, I personally take the time to respond to each and every email...really I do, because I have nothing to do with my time, other than working a full time job, a part time job, raising three UMs, keeping a home for said UMs, having some kind of three dimensional life away from my computer screen.

The mass mailings are of course my favorite...I have a special mass produced answer for those..."Buy a clue dude!" For the "I can mold you into the ideal slave" ones, I simply point out that I may be submissive but that does not mean that I am made out of jello!



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RE: What's the point of a profile....? - 10/30/2007 1:13:30 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		I had to laugh at this because it did happen to Me just today.
 
I consider My profile a brief (very brief) writing about My personal situation.  I don't have some ridiculously long profile where someone has to search for the major points.  I say, very specifically, that I'm interested in meeting local people only.  I mention both My husband and My submissive in My profie.  I'm pretty sure (unless something changed in five minutes) that My profile starts as "Female Dominant".
 
Yet, what do I find in My box?  A one liner from a dom (supposedly) from NY who wants to discuss ball busting.  In a subsequent email, he can't seems to understand why I might be rude.   Gee, can't imagine.
 
Anyway, block and move on.

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RE: What's the point of a profile....? - 10/30/2007 3:16:54 PM   
Prinsexx


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quote:

ORIGINAL: pgashlie

I tend to take the view that a profile is supposed to tell people about you, a kind of resume, so they can decide, quickly, if you're of interest.

So, I get this message from a guy who "wants to know me" (in the Biblical sense, probably)....  I read his profile, it says he's looking for a slave, who "must enjoy suffering..." , mentions "torture", and on...
My profile describes me as "sub, not slave" and specifically says I'm not inot pain.  So, I send him a nice no-thank you, explainig why... and he gets all pissy, even adding a note to his journal about "Gee, how come people take the profiles so literally?"

I'm afraid I interpret that as, "Oh, I didn't mean that really, it was a lie...  what would you like me to say instead?  "

Anyone else have thoughts on the subject?


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RE: What's the point of a profile....? - 10/30/2007 10:16:05 PM   
SteelofUtah


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Status: offline 		See and here is where I guess I show my feelings of society as a whole. Profiles where they are resume's I try to forgive them as much as possible because you know one of my favorite quotes is

quote:

The closest any mortal will ever make it to perfection is on thier resume. 


This is ment to mean that people try to put only thier BEST foot forward but that is not to say that there is not a calf, knee, and thigh attached to that foot and those things can carry some serious abilities to try different things and what-not.

I try to keep profiles to the important stuff. you know the "I am this" and "I like this" this does not always work however as some people like to read it as " I am This was ONLY and will be NO OTHER WAY" and " I want ONLY THIS for the REST OF MY LIFE!"

Now I have read some profiles that ACTUALLY say it that way, mine does not so I guess I just hope that people try to ACTUALLY get to know ME as a Person and not the "ME: The Profile"

Give people a chance everyone deserves to give thier own first impression, and a profile message shouldn't be it.

Just my two cents in a sea of pocket change.

As Always

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RE: What's the point of a profile....? - 10/30/2007 10:17:51 PM   
LATEXBABY64


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RE: What's the point of a profile....? - 10/30/2007 10:27:26 PM   
MsPleasure


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Status: offline 		Profiles only give a glimpse of what you are about, but most don't read them.  Some respond only to your picture or make an attempt to change your mind. 

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RE: What's the point of a profile....? - 10/30/2007 10:33:17 PM   
secretagentgirl


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Status: offline 		I know just what you mean.
If people state what they want, why do they then back down from it, just to possibly hook up?  It exudes desperation.

I have had the same thing happen where someone said they like women young and big.  Well, I am older and small.  So they then said that was fine too!  Well, then don't go on record saying you like young and big!

I guess my other pet peeve is people who say things like "I love blonds, but if you're not, that's OK too."  OK, so if I'm not a blond I already know that you like something else better...why would I respond to that?  (This happens more on other sites than here.  People here seem to be less specific and generally open to any female human.)


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RE: What's the point of a profile....? - 10/30/2007 10:40:27 PM   
unsureslave


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Status: offline 		profiles = starting point
 
you either start or don't.
 

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RE: What's the point of a profile....? - 10/30/2007 10:41:37 PM   
Lordandmaster


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You've been on this site since 2005 and are only discovering this NOW?

quote:

ORIGINAL: pgashlie

Anyone else have thoughts on the subject?

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RE: What's the point of a profile....? - 10/30/2007 10:56:00 PM   
simplyeli


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From: Panhandle of Florida
Status: offline 		ok, something similar to this was posted the other day (bout what makes a sub/slave respond to the first note sent)and i responded then that much of what is in that inital note is crucial and why....now..i wanna put my two cents in on this one.
profiles are very important...for one thing they tell me something of someones intelligence and how they think. if they want intimacy and if they can even spell it. i tells me (i hope) what this person is looking for and if i could fit that role or whether we would both be wasting our time.
so i think reading the profile is very important...unfortunately we just have to trust that what is written there is the truth. and eventually time tells all anyway, right?
AND ONE MORE THING...read the freakin journals people. they are just as important as the profiles, maybe even more so...
give me an example, you say???
my profile has quotes, because i collect them and because i like what they say, about me and the way i think. my journals, however, are alllll me, my words, my rants, my peeves, my bitches, gripes and moans.anyway...a Dom sent me a note the other day, His profile seemed intelligent and thoughtfully put together, seemed very nice...but His note...said..*ugh!*..."You use a lot of other peoples words. Tell me what YOU think."
HELLO! i did, on several occasions...and meant every word...You just didnt take the time to read them.
okay, whew...now that i have vented on that subject...next!!!


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RE: What's the point of a profile....? - 10/31/2007 5:37:42 AM   
Missokyst


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Status: offline 		Did you ever notice how many "doms are widowers"?  Considering that females still, in general, outlive men, I have to wonder how many poor subs met an early demise and from what cause..
hmm..
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quote:

ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl

use to get mail from "widower doms"


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RE: What's the point of a profile....? - 10/31/2007 5:45:59 AM   
Missokyst


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Status: offline 		HEY.. I got that mail the other day (so did every other submissive in my group) !  But it wasn't from you.  I think that guy stole your lines!  The only other thing he added was that he was a widower, and had a very nice house/dungeon in the middle of nowhere for lots of play.
Kyst
quote:

ORIGINAL: domiguy

"Hi! I read your profile several times and I was immediately taken by your intelligence, your writing style as well as your description....It's extremely rare to find a woman that possesses just one of these qualities and I was astounded to see that you encompassed exactly what I have been in search of....I would really enjoy starting up a conversation that might lead to some serious cocksucking, hard core ass play and bondage ....Please respond back to me...You are sooo special.  I feel you gurl!!!


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RE: What's the point of a profile....? - 10/31/2007 6:24:20 AM   
Celeste43


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Status: offline 		I remember getting an email from some guy who had a profile proclaiming his extreme sadism, mine honestly said no pain. In the email he tried to convince me that he could be whatever I needed. WTF!!!

If there's an obvious incompatibility, it isn't magically going to go away, even though we were close by mileage speaking. Of course, the fact that he overlooked the happily collared sub part had me scratching my head in confusion.

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