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hammerthrower -> RE: Proactive vs. Radioactive subs (11/8/2007 6:00:15 PM)
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This topic reminds me of the "all dommes want the same guy" thread.
When the OP made that claim, he was denounced. How dare anyone make generalizations about women!? That's a territory that's sacred!
But bitch about "radioactive" subs, and we get a chorus of voices chiming in to compile a laundry list of faults, all of them males. Aren't there any female subs who aren't perfect? Is "radioactive" synonymous with "male?" What sexists are supporting this concept?
It's just that old double standard again. Bitch about women and you're a sexist. Rail against men, and it's comedy.
This is not healthy for our community. Do you people WANT this all to be true? Have any of you pointed out errors a way that was anything other than bitchy, snotty, derisive, or whiny?
I'm sure it makes you feel good to belittle someone in a non-consensual way. You're immune in your little ivory towers, casting rocks down upon those who would cherish you.
Nice work, everyone!
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ORIGINAL: AAkasha
Subs have to walk a fine line between proactive and being pushy or annoying. They also walk a fine line between being "open" to something, being helpful, vs being a pushy bottom. I'm interested to hear what other femdoms see as proactive (good, positive ways to be proactive) vs. "radioactive" (toxic, dangerous, warning flags, things that make you want to stay away). Here's my initial list:
Proactive: Is generally always ready to serve
Radioactive: Is always saying "Can I serve you now?" or "What do you want me to do now?" or "I am awaiting your orders."
Proactive: At a kinky party where he doesn't know anyone, he tries to be helpful by cleaning up, asking if someone needs a hand, etc.
Radioactive: At a kinky party where he doesn't know anyone, makes his introductions by using the line, "Hello Mistress, I am a slave. How can I please you?"
Proactive: When he knows his femdom is having a bad day, makes sure her favorite drink is ready when she gets home, tunes the radio to her favorite station and offers to run a hot bath
Radioactive: When he knows his femdom is having a bad day, he puts himself into bondage, adds toys to his private parts, and leaves a note next to him that says, "Take it out on me, Mistress."
Proactive: For his new femdom's birthday, he gives a gift certificate to a kinky outlet if he feels a toy is appropriate
Radioactive: For his new femdom's birthday, he buys the dildo he wants in his ass
Proactive: In a new online relationship, he sends a vanilla, "thinking about you" type of email when he has not heard from her
Radioactive: In a new online relationship, he sends an instant message every time he sees her online and asks, "When are you going to answer my email?" instead of "Hello, how are you doing?"
Any others?
Akasha
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