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Struggling to find a Master - 10/31/2007 7:06:34 PM   
arjento


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Status: offline 		I have been a slave off and on for the last 20 years.  I love being a slave to men but I am really struggling to find a real Master to take part-time or full-time ownership of me.  Part of it is because I live in Iowa I am sure.  Any advice on how to attract a true Master. 

I also love to serve groups but cannot find any success in that area either.
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RE: Struggling to find a Master - 10/31/2007 7:09:28 PM   
therealboss


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Status: offline 		you are too far away from london

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RE: Struggling to find a Master - 10/31/2007 7:42:39 PM   
peppermint


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From: Montana
Status: offline 		Have you tried to find someone at munches?  I'm not sure how far you live from a city, but there appears to be groups in most of Iowa's larger cities. 

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RE: Struggling to find a Master - 10/31/2007 10:36:42 PM   
MasterFireMaam


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From: Charleston, WV
Status: offline 		Get out into your local community. Get out into your national community. Be prepared to move.

Here's the round of Master/slave events on a national level.
Southwest Leather Conference January, Phoenix
South Plains Leatherfest February, Dallas
Southeast Leatherfest June, Atlanta
Master/slave Conference July, DC
Great Lakes Leather Alliance Aug, Indianapolis

There's also one in the Northwest that's new, but I don't have info.

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RE: Struggling to find a Master - 11/1/2007 6:45:43 AM   
Dnomyar


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RE: Struggling to find a Master - 11/1/2007 1:46:20 PM   
batshalom


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Status: offline 		You've got a choice to remain at status quo or go find what you're looking for. Get out of Iowa and move to a larger, more open, more accepting place. Good luck.

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RE: Struggling to find a Master - 11/1/2007 1:53:04 PM   
arjento


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Status: offline 		Not sure what munches are.

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RE: Struggling to find a Master - 11/1/2007 2:40:50 PM   
IrishMist


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quote:

ORIGINAL: arjento

I have been a slave off and on for the last 20 years.  I love being a slave to men but I am really struggling to find a real Master to take part-time or full-time ownership of me.  Part of it is because I live in Iowa I am sure.  Any advice on how to attract a true Master. 

I also love to serve groups but cannot find any success in that area either.

Ummm... what does living in Iowa have to do with anything?

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RE: Struggling to find a Master - 11/1/2007 4:50:41 PM   
chellekitty


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quote:

ORIGINAL: IrishMist
Ummm... what does living in Iowa have to do with anything?


geographical isolation?


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RE: Struggling to find a Master - 11/1/2007 5:15:14 PM   
EbonyPhoenix68


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ORIGINAL: arjento

Not sure what munches are.


A munch is like a lunch meeting, but with a twist in that those who attend are Doms/Masters and submissives/slaves and they usually meet in a restaurant. Please note that depending where they meet, no fetish wear is allowed in some places, but also keep in mind that it is a good start in meeting other lifestylers.  So as some have said, get out and meet them! Good luck to you!

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RE: Struggling to find a Master - 11/1/2007 5:30:34 PM   
ehlovindom


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quote:

ORIGINAL: arjento

Not sure what munches are.


But you have been a slave for last 20 years?

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RE: Struggling to find a Master - 11/1/2007 5:54:03 PM   
chellekitty


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quote:

ORIGINAL: ehlovindom

quote:

ORIGINAL: arjento

Not sure what munches are.


But you have been a slave for last 20 years?


you don't have to be involved in the community or scene to be a slave for 20 years or any other amount of time....

edited to add: i was a slave long before i attended a munch...i found them helpful in finding other like minded people without quite so much BS...but it is still quite possible to engage in power exchange relationships your entire life without ever attending a munch...


< Message edited by chellekitty -- 11/1/2007 5:55:58 PM >

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RE: Struggling to find a Master - 11/1/2007 6:06:01 PM   
MissMagnolia


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Status: offline 		I'd like to say that looking for a "true" master is a problem. You mean the master for YOU. I have no idea of geographical problems where you are, but it sounds like the other posters do, so think about what they said very seriously.

I'd also add a whole lot more to your profile. Just saying you want to be used tells him nothing about what you have to offer and, to be honest, most subs/slaves put that same sentence. I know your interest list is extensive, but there isn't anything on there to catch a man's eye or tell him anything about who you are. If you are just looking for sexual slavery, say so. If you want more, tell him.

Good luck!!

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RE: Struggling to find a Master - 11/1/2007 6:36:08 PM   
peppermint


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From: Montana
Status: offline 		To find your local groups and munches, go to www.drkdesyre.com

Click on "Here"
Click on "Meeting People"
Click on "Organizations"
Then click on your state, in this case Iowa.  You'll find a list of groups, munches, and links to your local scene.
 
 

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RE: Struggling to find a Master - 11/2/2007 1:04:13 AM   
MercTech


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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

Join the Navy and ask for submarine duty.


Ahem... not all sailors on submarines form couples.  There are threesomes ya know!

After years on subs, couldn't let that comment lie.

Stefan

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RE: Struggling to find a Master - 11/2/2007 10:39:11 AM   
slaverosebeauty


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From: Cali
Status: offline 		I live in the 'Bible Belt' of California an I have found past partners in the area; I don't attend ANY lifestyle events for my own reasons, an I have found partners from here and other sites over the last few years.  Even MJ an I met here; we may have parted ways as Master and slave, but, we are still friends and neither of us attend lifestyle events or munches. For me, I go back over my checklist and look at things and contact people.  Top-types have never seemed to think I was too forward by adding them to my favorties or by contcting them first.  Take the first step and contact someone you might be interested in first.

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RE: Struggling to find a Master - 11/2/2007 6:53:53 PM   
ehlovindom


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quote:

ORIGINAL: chellekitty

quote:

ORIGINAL: ehlovindom

quote:

ORIGINAL: arjento

Not sure what munches are.


But you have been a slave for last 20 years?


you don't have to be involved in the community or scene to be a slave for 20 years or any other amount of time....

edited to add: i was a slave long before i attended a munch...i found them helpful in finding other like minded people without quite so much BS...but it is still quite possible to engage in power exchange relationships your entire life without ever attending a munch...


Of course you don't have to be involved in the community or scene to be a slave for 20 years. Of course it is still quite possible to engage in power exchange relationships your entire life without ever attending a munch.

Read my post again. You said it yourself. You were a slave long before you ever attended a munch. Do you suppose in 20 years, you one might have heard about a "munch?"

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RE: Struggling to find a Master - 11/2/2007 10:19:02 PM   
chellekitty


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Status: offline 		yes, but i had the internet, thats where i heard about a munch...funny as it sounds...many people are just now getting the internet...many people still don't have the internet...wait...was the internet widely available 20 years ago?

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RE: Struggling to find a Master - 11/3/2007 8:25:22 AM   
MrSpectacular


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Status: offline 		20 years and still looking  - Move to San Francisco you are going to have the time or your life!!

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RE: Struggling to find a Master - 11/3/2007 9:09:09 AM   
Vanatru


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Status: offline 		SF is so cliche. There's many places (usually larger cities) that'd work. South Beach, FL; parts of VT; NYC of course; etc etc

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