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NakedOnMyChain -> RE: Rating the sex (11/2/2007 12:01:33 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: dcnovice You could always send him a complete report card (making up your own numbers, of course): Appearance: 5.62341 Mechanics: 4.24671 Setting: 3.87432 Mood Maintenance: 3.66431 Attention to Erogenous Zones: 6.64529 Orgasm Coordination: 4.78435 Handling of Sub Drop: 0.97552 If he complains about any of the numbers, blame the Russian judge. LOL. That might be the funniest thing I've read all week.

taintedgypsy -> RE: Rating the sex (11/2/2007 1:51:06 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: dcnovice You could always send him a complete report card (making up your own numbers, of course): Appearance: 5.62341 Mechanics: 4.24671 Setting: 3.87432 Mood Maintenance: 3.66431 Attention to Erogenous Zones: 6.64529 Orgasm Coordination: 4.78435 Handling of Sub Drop: 0.97552 If he complains about any of the numbers, blame the Russian judge. absolutely wonderful, love it.

breatheasone -> RE: Rating the sex (11/2/2007 4:16:49 AM)
What a tacky question for him to ask... Sounds like he has ZERO class.

SweetSarijane -> RE: Rating the sex (11/2/2007 4:29:27 AM)
~FR~ <shakes head> What a moron! Wanting you to rate the sex! Berating you for taking 2 whole days to contact him?????? And he didn't/couldn't contact you why??? would be one of my comments to him and if I were particularly in a mood from his tude I'd comment on his less than adult attitude. Sheesh! If it were me, I'd move on. Gotta be better out there than that! Don't sweat the morons, they manipulate in bad ways to gain control of others.

Twicehappy2x -> RE: Rating the sex (11/2/2007 4:32:54 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: slave4urneeds . Now he as asked me how i would rate the sex on a scale of 1-10? Sorry but if you could think well enough afterwards to rate it, the sex could not have been that good.

RumpusParable -> RE: Rating the sex (11/2/2007 4:41:28 AM)
He sounds like an ass... or at least very immature. I'd roll my eyes and keep moving along haha. :)

dawntreader -> RE: Rating the sex (11/2/2007 4:55:51 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: dcnovice You could always send him a complete report card (making up your own numbers, of course): Appearance: 5.62341 Mechanics: 4.24671 Setting: 3.87432 Mood Maintenance: 3.66431 Attention to Erogenous Zones: 6.64529 Orgasm Coordination: 4.78435 Handling of Sub Drop: 0.97552 If he complains about any of the numbers, blame the Russian judge. dc, you are priceless!!!!!!!!!! i give you a 10![sm=biggrin.gif]

Dnomyar -> RE: Rating the sex (11/2/2007 5:04:32 AM)
Give the guy a break. He wanted to know so he could adjust his sex to fit her the next time. He didnt want her to be stressed out by being to good. As far as his IQ. He was smart enough to get her to have sex with him.

Celeste43 -> RE: Rating the sex (11/2/2007 5:32:10 AM)
I wouldn't rate him sexually but on a scale of one to ten with ten being polite and one being rude he's a minus five. He could just have easily have called you, and should have to see how you were doing. Ask him if he's ever heard of subdrop and checking in with the sub to see how bad it is, and that's what that need to curl up was.

missturbation -> RE: Rating the sex (11/2/2007 5:40:31 AM)
I'd send him something along the lines of:- We had sex ??? (accompanied with a confused face smilie) You have been weighed, you have been measured and you have been found wanting (line from a knights tale but i like it) I've had better

TheChauvinist -> RE: Rating the sex (11/2/2007 5:50:11 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: slave4urneeds of course i notice that you dont even have an active profile what does that really say about you That he is in a full filled relationship and is not seeking. Estring has a bit of a point, you're in your 40's. You shouldn't need to come to a public forum to ask how you respond to someone you "slept" with who says "How was I?". He was insecure for asking such a question, you're being immature for needing someone else to tell you how to respond.

Sweet1Maybe4U -> RE: Rating the sex (11/2/2007 5:50:43 AM)
Im a little confused.... Were you wanting to have sex with Him? Where was His aftercare? Did He ask another (if others were there such as a party) to make sure you were cared for? Did you have a "subspace" experience ? And if so, did you go right into the sex following the scene? I get the feeling you didnt even really want sex with Him but maybe you were doing it because you felt like it was the natural next step in the relationship. Were you thinking that the scening made you now "collared" to Him or that He even cared for that matter? I hate to be a downer here but Honey, let go of this man. It sounds to me (and afterall this is only an opinion from a girl that doesnt know you) that He isnt equipped enough to know what or how to handle a relationship but only sexual encounters. There's a huge difference in the two. Some are only into scening and sex. Maybe He was wanting to develop His skills with you and learn how to make Himself better without giving a thought to you and your needs. Thus, the questions about sizing Him up. OR maybe He saw that His performance wasnt making you orgasm and He IS concerned about your response. Only you can assess that moment in time. Afterall, we werent there and cant really judge for ourselves. And as far as giving a number to the experience. Well, that can be tricky. You hold this man literally with His balls in your hand. It depends. Do you want to caress them and give pleasure both because you care for Him and its naturally a part of your character or do you want to crush them and make Him pay for His lack of sensitivity? That's the thing about the BDSM world. What looks Black to some, others view as Pure White...*shrugs.....Only you can truly decide. To one girl, His lack of respect or care would be the Man of her dreams..to another it would be devastating. The human psyche is fragile in both~male/female...Dom/sub...M/s...doesnt it really depend on what you are looking for?

batshalom -> RE: Rating the sex (11/2/2007 6:29:34 AM)
Although his behavior is off-putting, repaying immaturity with negative energy isn't worth the effort. If you don't plan on seeing him again, be straightforward, tell him the mix doesn't work for you, and be honest (without being hostile - there is no need for it) as to why. If you're kind of drawn to him and wouldn't mind seeing him again, be up front with him now about his behavior, tell him the "SuperDom" thing doesn't work for you, and see if you can come to an accord. It could simply be a case of his being an inexperienced Dom (who thinks he has to act this way in order to be Domly) but a really great fellow underneath.

bipolarber -> RE: Rating the sex (11/2/2007 6:31:11 AM)
Ok, I'm not going to harp on how his request for a "sexual rating" was a little tacky. I think everyone else has pretty much covered that. What bothers me is the fact that three days went by, and he didn't check back with you, to make sure you were still okay (mentally, physically, emotionally) after he put you through a scene? Somehow, he expected YOU to call him, yet he is the (alleged) dominant here? He was the one in control of you, but suddenly you're the one who has to see to your own aftercare? I'm glad the sex was good. I'm glad you thought the scene was pretty outstanding. But obviously, this guy does NOT have the etiquette, or the responsibilities down at all.

TheChauvinist -> RE: Rating the sex (11/2/2007 6:39:50 AM)
Not everyone believes that aftercare is a neccassary part of scenes. It obviously is not a point of contension with the OP. I find it interesting that you decide to focus on part of the post that is clearly not the reason why she is posting. You even go so far as to make assumptions just because the OP did not go into any detail about it.

laurell3 -> RE: Rating the sex (11/2/2007 7:14:07 AM)
Whether aftercare is necessary in that sitution or not, it's still interesting to note that he seems to have made no attempt to ensure it was or was not necessary, which would be a problem for me. Instead she reaches out to him and he insults her for it. Honestly, I'm not sure the sex rating thing is as much of a big deal as his response to communication is. Was he being immature/insecure? Maybe. Do we all have those moments? yes.

TheChauvinist -> RE: Rating the sex (11/2/2007 7:29:02 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: laurell3 Whether aftercare is necessary in that sitution or not, it's still interesting to note that he seems to have made no attempt to ensure it was or was not necessary, We actually don't know this. Since the Op has left out the details, people are assuming that it wasn't given. That may very well be. But that assumption may also be wrong. Instead of jumping on the "Burn the Dom" bandwagon. I'd rather get the information that is missing. And then make an informed decision. quote: which would be a problem for me. Instead she reaches out to him and he insults her for it. He might have felt slighted by her lack of appreciation. People tend treat a precieved greivence with hostility. Even the Op does so in this very thread. quote: Honestly, I'm not sure the sex rating thing is as much of a big deal as his response to communication is. Was he being immature/insecure? Maybe. Do we all have those moments? yes. Touche`

sophia37 -> RE: Rating the sex (11/2/2007 7:34:16 AM)
To me, this ones easy. If you want to be with him again, you tell im it was good enough to try it again! I dont think he was asking for a 1-10. Was he? If so, like I said, tell him it was good enough to try again..and on his scale, what number would that be? Just turn the whole thing around on him. In life, it helps to be swift on your feet.

IrishMist -> RE: Rating the sex (11/2/2007 7:39:38 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: slave4urneeds Recently i did a scene at a local club with a Dom that was introduced to me. The scene was great and really pushed my limits, which i truly enjoyed!! Afterwards that evening i did end up having sex with the Dom that i did the scene with. 3 days later i sent him an email and told him what a great time i had and i hoped to get to scene with him again. I got an email back saying that he was disappointed that it took me 3 days to say thank you. I responded back with how busy i had been and to forgive my lack of respect. Now he as asked me how i would rate the sex on a scale of 1-10? Ok obviously it wasn't mindblowing but hey what first times are especially with someone you met recently. Let alone that i know my performance sucked severely after such an intense scene. All i could think of at the time was how i wanted to just curl up in a corner for about 2 days of total darkness. So how do i respond and save what little face i have left with this Dom? help me, please!! He wants you to rate the sex you had with him? Are you serious? What a wuss.

laurell3 -> RE: Rating the sex (11/2/2007 7:41:42 AM)
What's your deal was it you in the dungeon? If so....sorry you have to hear the sex wasn't all that great here. [8D] I said "it seems" "which would be a problem FOR ME". Like almost every other poster here that gives us a snippet of a story, you're right we don't know many things. I'm not on the "Burn the Dom" bandwagon, but you do seem to jump on anyone that has any thought of the sub having any rights. Chill out, aftercare, for me is much more important and that would be my priority over stroking his ego. I have found for me personally aftercare is a huge necessity and a lack of contact for me would be a very big issue. Dom, sub, switch, slave, purple headed giraffe, we all make mistakes we are all human, and we are all different. To ever say there's any one answer or set of rules or dogma that should be followed is just bad advice. It's never my attempt to do so.

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