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ORIGINAL: TheChauvinist

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ORIGINAL: laurell3


What's your deal was it you in the dungeon? If so....sorry you have to hear the sex wasn't all that great here. 

Thanks for proving my point about hostile reactions to perceived grievances.

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I said "it seems"  "which would be a problem FOR ME".  Like almost every other poster here that gives us a snippet of a story, you're right we don't know many things. 

I'm not on the "Burn the Dom" bandwagon, but you do seem to jump on anyone that has any thought of the sub having any rights.  Chill out, aftercare, for me is much more important and that would be my priority over stroking his ego.  I have found for me personally aftercare is a huge necessity and a lack of contact for me would be a very big issue.

I didn't say you were on the "Burn the Dom" bandwagon. You should really try to read a statement as it is written. Instead of with a negative slant to it. And which "sub rights" am I jumping on you about, exactly? The right to aftercare? Aftercare isn't a right. It's a courtesy the sub/slave/bottom may or may not ask for and the Master/Dom/Top may or may not give. Maybe it's you that really need to chill here.

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However, you still seem to be missing my point. For me aftercare IS a right, not a courtesy and not subject to interpretation and a dealbreaker if not given. Dealing with negative feelings that could have easily been avoided with some attention is not something I will compromise on personally.

I honestly have to question your assertion that it's up to the Dom/me to give aftercare. I can't conceive of a reason why they would withhold it where they had the opportunity to give it. That might be a topic for a whole new thread, however, enlighten me if you will.

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ORIGINAL: twistedwillow

I don't think you need to 'save face' he is a big boy he could have just as easily rung you to ensure you fine in the days following the scene.
As for rate the sex? phhht! please! very sad of him.
And if you lie, then as far as that goes, your not doing him a service.  But seriously needing your sexual performance rated smacks to me of insecurity in a big way and your rating be it good or bad won't help the core problem.

twisted

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ORIGINAL: agirl

I'd feign shock, and ask..... * We had SEX??*....

agirl

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ORIGINAL: slave4urneeds

Recently i did a scene at a local club with a Dom that was introduced to me.  The scene was great and really pushed my limits, which i truly enjoyed!!  Afterwards that evening i did end up having sex with the Dom that i did the scene with.  3 days later i sent him an email and told him what a great time i had and i hoped to get to scene with him again.  I got an email back saying that he was disappointed that it took me 3 days to say thank you.  I responded back with how busy i had been and to forgive my lack of respect.  Now he as asked me how i would rate the sex on a scale of 1-10?  Ok obviously it wasn't mindblowing but hey what first times are especially with someone you met recently.  Let alone that i know my performance sucked severely after such an intense scene.  All i could think of at the time was how i wanted to just curl up in a corner for about 2 days of total darkness.  So how do i respond and save what little face i have left with this Dom? help me, please!!