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slave4urneeds -> Rating the sex (11/1/2007 8:59:42 PM)

Recently i did a scene at a local club with a Dom that was introduced to me.  The scene was great and really pushed my limits, which i truly enjoyed!!  Afterwards that evening i did end up having sex with the Dom that i did the scene with.  3 days later i sent him an email and told him what a great time i had and i hoped to get to scene with him again.  I got an email back saying that he was disappointed that it took me 3 days to say thank you.  I responded back with how busy i had been and to forgive my lack of respect.  Now he as asked me how i would rate the sex on a scale of 1-10?  Ok obviously it wasn't mindblowing but hey what first times are especially with someone you met recently.  Let alone that i know my performance sucked severely after such an intense scene.  All i could think of at the time was how i wanted to just curl up in a corner for about 2 days of total darkness.  So how do i respond and save what little face i have left with this Dom? help me, please!!



twistedwillow -> RE: Rating the sex (11/1/2007 9:10:06 PM)

I don't think you need to 'save face' he is a big boy he could have just as easily rung you to ensure you fine in the days following the scene.
As for rate the sex? phhht! please! very sad of him.
And if you lie, then as far as that goes, your not doing him a service.  But seriously needing your sexual performance rated smacks to me of insecurity in a big way and your rating be it good or bad won't help the core problem.

twisted



slave4urneeds -> RE: Rating the sex (11/1/2007 9:14:50 PM)

Thank you twisted!!  i truly felt the same way, but was really torn about what to do and how to handle it.  Of course then i figured that by posting here i would really get judged and ripped so i am sure that is yet to come. 

Thanks again for sharing your thoughts with me, sometimes you just need a friend to bounce a thought off...[:D]



LATEXBABY64 -> RE: Rating the sex (11/1/2007 9:16:01 PM)

ah yes a me thing not a we t hing see ya by use the dom be gone spray and find one with class that will spank your ass and with out puting you through massive hell and draging you down the well  just so you wear his collar that he got for a dollar   



Estring -> RE: Rating the sex (11/1/2007 9:16:24 PM)

Boy oh boy. You know, you read these posts and it seems like high school age people asking these questions. Then you see that the op is 42. I don't get it.



DiurnalVampire -> RE: Rating the sex (11/1/2007 9:20:24 PM)

That sounds like a very immature thing to ask.
I dont know, Id answer that it wasnt ladylike to rate sex, but thats me.
Or something like "After such a great scene, its not fair to judge sex.  I never feel like I was at my best when I am coming down from that."

DV



dawntreader -> RE: Rating the sex (11/1/2007 9:25:05 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LATEXBABY64

ah yes a me thing not a we t hing see ya by use the dom be gone spray and find one with class that will spank your ass and with out puting you through massive hell and draging you down the well  just so you wear his collar that he got for a dollar   

WTF?
 
 
To the OP:  i never rate sex~



DarkDaddyZ -> RE: Rating the sex (11/1/2007 9:26:04 PM)

Sounds like the dom is "ego trippin'" rate the sex..... that's truly HMDS! [:D]



slave4urneeds -> RE: Rating the sex (11/1/2007 9:32:46 PM)

Thank you everyone!!  i am so glad to see that i was not the only one thinking about what an ego stroke this was for him. 
DV thanks for understanding the coming down after the scene too!  Good gosh i can barely put a full sentence together after a scene let alone have olympic sex!!    Well there was that one time  LOL
Thanks again to everyone so far for being really cool and understanding with my thoughts...have a great weekend.



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Rating the sex (11/1/2007 9:59:26 PM)

Asshole alert totally.  I hope next time you realize that an asshole calling you disrespectful doesn't actually MEAN you've been disrespectful or had anything to apologize for.

You say thanks and he gives you grief, wow.



dcnovice -> RE: Rating the sex (11/1/2007 10:10:02 PM)

You could always send him a complete report card (making up your own numbers, of course):

Appearance: 5.62341
Mechanics: 4.24671
Setting: 3.87432
Mood Maintenance: 3.66431
Attention to Erogenous Zones: 6.64529
Orgasm Coordination: 4.78435
Handling of Sub Drop: 0.97552

If he complains about any of the numbers, blame the Russian judge.




MasterFireMaam -> RE: Rating the sex (11/1/2007 10:13:57 PM)

If he wants an honest answer, tell him exactly what you told us. If you want to play with him again, I'd tell him that you don't compare partners. If he orders you to do it, well, your choices are to lie, or to be honest. He may or may not appreciate the honesty...you may or may not be able to live with the lie. In the end, we can't tell you want to do.

Master Fire



MissMagnolia -> RE: Rating the sex (11/1/2007 10:15:20 PM)

Rate the sex? What is he, like 12?[8|]



dcnovice -> RE: Rating the sex (11/1/2007 10:17:27 PM)

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What is he, like 12?


No, no, MM, he can't be a 12. The scale is only 1-10.



MissMagnolia -> RE: Rating the sex (11/1/2007 10:18:21 PM)

I meant his IQ[;)]



dcnovice -> RE: Rating the sex (11/1/2007 10:20:15 PM)

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LadyLegs -> RE: Rating the sex (11/1/2007 10:22:58 PM)

When a man asks how the sex was, I always give the same answer: "You have potential"  LOL



slave4urneeds -> RE: Rating the sex (11/1/2007 11:45:13 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: dcnovice

You could always send him a complete report card (making up your own numbers, of course):

Appearance: 5.62341
Mechanics: 4.24671
Setting: 3.87432
Mood Maintenance: 3.66431
Attention to Erogenous Zones: 6.64529
Orgasm Coordination: 4.78435
Handling of Sub Drop: 0.97552

If he complains about any of the numbers, blame the Russian judge.




i love this one!!  sounds perfect thanks!!  LMAO



slave4urneeds -> RE: Rating the sex (11/1/2007 11:51:02 PM)

You are the reason real people don't post and ask for opinions and help.  If i had said i wanted a sarcastic answer i would have asked for one..

of course i notice that you dont even have an active profile what does that really say about you




FullfigRIMaam -> RE: Rating the sex (11/1/2007 11:57:37 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam
If you want to play with him again, I'd tell him that you don't compare partners. If he orders you to do it, well, your choices are to lie, or to be honest. He may or may not appreciate the honesty...you may or may not be able to live with the lie. In the end, we can't tell you want to do.
Master Fire
I think the above is the classiest answer in my opinion, but if he's so insecure he insists, tell him that after such an intense scene, it's difficult for you to get into sex enough to appreciate what potential he may have as a lover.   M



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