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a question about vanilla dating... - 11/2/2007 5:42:10 AM   
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Status: offline 		If a guy doesn't have his own ride, does that greatly decrease his chances of success in finding a date? 

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RE: a question about vanilla dating... - 11/2/2007 7:26:17 AM   
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RE: a question about vanilla dating... - 11/2/2007 7:56:29 AM   
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Status: offline 		No, but it does greatly decrease his chances of feeling her up on the way home and blaming it on looking for the gear stick

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RE: a question about vanilla dating... - 11/2/2007 10:47:11 AM   
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If youhave no ride because you are broke, then yes.  It makes it MUCH MUCH more difficult to find a partner.  Although, the ones ou DO find will more likely be keepers.

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RE: a question about vanilla dating... - 11/2/2007 11:24:01 AM   
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Status: offline 		depends...if you dont have expendable cash to buy a car or save up for one, then you probably shouldnt be romancing a girl who REQUIRES you to eventually have a car, as she will most likely be an expensive date. and yes, you will get footed with the bill, because its only polite when you ask someone out. try to find someone who doesnt mind and understands any money restraints that might keep you from having a car, and invest in some good walking shoes so you can take long walks ^_~

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RE: a question about vanilla dating... - 11/2/2007 2:05:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		In my book yes. I've done the whole bf who couldn't drive, and since I can't drive we had to depend on other people to go somewhere or a cab. Which ment inconvienceing someone when we needed to make a quick trip up to say walmart, or paying 20 bucks, or just not going. And it most certantly ment going out of town was a hassle and a  inconvienc, it was doable, not more stress.

Now if you have a liscence but your car died and you're like bussing and cabbing everywhere untill you can fix it or something, I might be more forgiving. If it was only a temporary thing.

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RE: a question about vanilla dating... - 11/2/2007 2:54:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		What makes it more difficult is I live out in the boons currently.

Ok, what if the girl I'm interested in DOES have a car, and its not a pile of junk? Does that make me look bad? Does it emasculate me(having to rely on her to drive us every time)? I know, I'm a sub. But I'm not really dealing in the world of BDSM here, as the title says.


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RE: a question about vanilla dating... - 11/2/2007 2:58:36 PM   
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Status: offline 		Get a job save for a hooptie...you look young I didnt check your profile so any car that is running would be sufficient and any working person in America would understand the value of a dollar and not wanting to shell out for a payment every month...I do think not having a car will hinder you....But then of course you can move to NYC no one has a car unless your a cabbie LOL

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RE: a question about vanilla dating... - 11/2/2007 3:17:27 PM   
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Status: offline 		Hooptie? Thats a new one on me...

I have a job, actually.


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RE: a question about vanilla dating... - 11/2/2007 5:00:57 PM   
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Status: offline 		sweetie youre a sub....are you really worried about being emasculated? honestly, just go with it.....give her gas money and be considerate, but seriously just relax. 

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RE: a question about vanilla dating... - 11/2/2007 5:26:57 PM   
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Status: offline 		Well I am worried about it, yeah. Things are different in the vanilla world. As a guy you're expected to be alpha and all that...

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RE: a question about vanilla dating... - 11/2/2007 5:31:55 PM   
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Status: offline 		Ok, my serious answer. If a girl aint interested in you just because you don't have a car then she aint worth your time anyway. Why would you want to date someone so obviously materialistic?

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RE: a question about vanilla dating... - 11/2/2007 5:41:40 PM   
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Ok, my serious answer. If a girl aint interested in you just because you don't have a car then she aint worth your time anyway. Why would you want to date someone so obviously materialistic?


I dunno. I don't know for sure whether or not it would make her not wanna date me. I'm fairly sure she likes me currently but she doesn't know that I don't have my own ride.

And perhaps its to do with the fact that this is the first good opportunity I have had... well, ever, really. : /

I mean, the last time I asked a girl out was my freshman year of high school. And she said no repeatedly(I asked more than once) and she was disgusted by me. Which hurt because I genuinely thought she was cool and she was by all rights within my league. Actually, looking back now, she wasn't a very attractive girl at all lol.
Yeah anyway, so now out of nowhere this pretty girl is acting interested me. And I'm usually the guy who women try to ignore when I smile out them, or look at me like I'm a rapist.


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RE: a question about vanilla dating... - 11/2/2007 7:29:48 PM   
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Status: offline 		well, first let me say youre adorable and she missed out! lol.....o.o honestly anyone who doesnt want to date you because of something like not having a car isnt really worth your time. i mean, yes, it makes things easier and more convenient, but hell.....thats something that can very easily be worked around. is there a particular reason you dont have your own car? like, you cant aford one(.....i saved for...2 years? ...yeah, 2 years before having enough to get my certified pre-owned car, and the damn thing is already falling appart..and that was all my money from work going to the car, with everything else taken care of by my parents...cars are EXPENSIVE these days..even getting a used car isnt cheap because when theyre used/old they start to fall appart quickly and you STILL need to shovel out money) or youre in the process of saving for a good one?

you know....the whole "vanilla" dating thing is over rated...personally, i like a guy with some testosterone, but im a sub...i never agreed with the whole gender roles thing...being a sub, do you think you could be in a relationship with someone who EXPECTS you to be dominant, in a way, to them all the time?

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RE: a question about vanilla dating... - 11/2/2007 7:37:35 PM   
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Status: offline 		Just rent a car for the night if you really think it's that big of an issue.

Or are you too young to rent a car?  That would suck, I guess.  I'm trying to remember what I used to do when I was that young.  I think I used to trade sexual favors for a ride home.  A few girls got pretty lucky in those days.

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RE: a question about vanilla dating... - 11/2/2007 7:39:24 PM   
InnocentYoungSub


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Status: offline 		Well I'm saving money in general right now. There are several things I'm saving it for...

I'm kinda thinking I want to make sure I buy a decent car. I'm not talking new..I'll probably look for something I can pay for all at once.


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RE: a question about vanilla dating... - 11/2/2007 7:45:16 PM   
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Status: offline 		then explain that to her..if she puts up a stink about it, then screw her....you dont need that kind of negativity weighing on you. 

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RE: a question about vanilla dating... - 11/2/2007 7:51:41 PM   
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If a guy doesn't have his own ride, does that greatly decrease his chances of success in finding a date? 


Yes. Cars are rough indicators of wealth, unless you live in a big city.  Since you don't, it can be a problem. 

I remember in college, putting money in a roth IRA instead of buying a car, then being known as the "poor kid."  I found that ironic, since most of them needed to take out hefty car loans to pay for a depreciating asset.  

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RE: a question about vanilla dating... - 11/3/2007 3:39:42 PM   
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RE: a question about vanilla dating... - 11/3/2007 3:54:08 PM   
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Status: offline 		I dunno I think I might just forget it. I don't think I can afford to date anyone. Even if she drives I'll need to put in on gas, and I'll still be expected to pay for dates. I just can't afford it. I barely make $100 a week. 

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