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DarkDaddyZ -> RE: Need advice about a subs family and the issues they are causing (11/2/2007 6:08:26 PM)

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ORIGINAL: RumpusParable

At this point I'm stating firmly that his entire story is bullshit.  And frankly, from your posts here I'm starting to wonder about yours.

I was thinking the same thing Rumpus.

While we know that many are here for shits and giggles don't assume ALL of us are into scat with some of these threads.

Z-



DeviousDaddy -> RE: Need advice about a subs vanilla family and the issues they are causing (11/2/2007 6:57:41 PM)

wow, christie. so sorry to hear of this happening to you. this has always been my biggest fear of sharing my lifestyle with my family. mine is a slightly different situation but still....I hope you all can work this out, give him some time to get his family off his back possibly that will help.



WantCuck4BBW2Use -> RE: Need advice about a subs family and the issues they are causing (11/2/2007 7:26:53 PM)

I just wanted to see what others had to say..sorry if you feel my posting isnt worthy of believing. I am still rather new to this and felt it would be helpfull to hear what others thought.



WantCuck4BBW2Use -> RE: Need advice about a subs vanilla family and the issues they are causing (11/2/2007 7:29:53 PM)

Thank you Devious..I am going to do that and see what happens. I dont have close family to worry about knowing..and I know some think this sounds made up..on his end it could be..at this point I honestly dont know.



crouchingtigress -> RE: Need advice about a subs family and the issues they are causing (11/2/2007 7:36:27 PM)

he gets to be victim...
what do you get?



asubmissiveheart -> RE: Need advice about a subs vanilla family and the issues they are causing (11/2/2007 9:39:05 PM)

I don't see whether it matters if this was made up or not.
The point is, you need to see that you need to give up thinking
you will have a relationship with this person.
Sometimes things don't work out, this is one of those times.
If you continue to stay in this relationship, you now are bringing a situation
on yourself.
You have been given the red light, if you want to keep driving, don't be upset
when you crash.



Celeste43 -> RE: Need advice about a subs vanilla family and the issues they are causing (11/7/2007 7:08:05 AM)

They are keeping him locked up in a closet? Assuming he's old enough to have a job and an apartment, this just doesn't wash.

You don't say if you had ever met for real or if this is just online. Personally if someone I was talking to online demanded that I pick up and leave to live with them, I'd block them in a minute.  He's a little nicer, in that he told you he can't. Next time meet as friends for coffee first and then take it slowly, developing a relationship.



Siona -> RE: Need advice about a subs vanilla family and the issues they are causing (11/7/2007 8:20:44 AM)

How old is David?



sweetdemure -> RE: Need advice about a subs vanilla family and the issues they are causing (11/7/2007 9:09:22 AM)

Well , this is what I have to say about it ......sounds like he has aready made up his mind, I mean his family is contacting you ! what is to be said about that ? if the man is over 18 he should be stable enough to make his own dicisions .....weather good or bad ...he needs to speak up for himself ....!!! this may be a wake up call ...think about it ? the relationship has barely taken off ...and the family has there mitts in it ....



CalifChick -> RE: Need advice about a subs vanilla family and the issues they are causing (11/7/2007 9:16:43 AM)

Let's recap and see if I'm getting this right...

1.  You have never met this person.
2.  You have never spoken to him on the phone.
3.  He decided to move to another state to be with you.  (did you not hear the clanging of the warning bells?)
4.  You have only been communicating for a few weeks.  (clang clang clang)
5.  He gives notice to quit his job.  (clang clang clang)
6.  He goes to stay with friends.
7.  His family kidnaps him and holds him hostage.  (clang clang clang)
8.  You cancel plans to go meet him.
9.  You are wondering if he is going to contact you again.  (helloooooo???)
10. You think you have a relationship with this man. (Man? Woman? who knows)

Did I get all that right?  Welcome to the internet.  There is no relationship.  There is a false sense of intimacy from the anonymity of the computer.  He can be anything he wants to be, and apparently, has done so.

Maybe read an article or two to put things in perspective.  Here is one: http://www.menarelikefish.com/Internet_Dating.html

I like this statement from that article:  IT’S LIKE BUYING SOMETHING “SIGHT, UNSEEN”:  Don’t be fooled by the words punched out on your computer screen.  Real human interaction is done face-to-face with your eyes and ears.  Don’t get too carried away with your computer.  It’s not even a first impression.

Sharon



YourhandMyAss -> RE: Need advice about a subs vanilla family and the issues they are causing (11/7/2007 10:11:14 AM)

I agree. And you can bet that half the time if they're controlling in the beginning of  this relationship they will ALWAYS be in the mix trying to control it. Control freak families don't butt out as the relationship progresses, and they can even sink a relationship with their meddling. 
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ORIGINAL: sweetdemure

this may be a wake up call ...think about it ? the relationship has barely taken off ...and the family has there mitts in it ....



WantCuck4BBW2Use -> RE: Need advice about a subs vanilla family and the issues they are causing (11/7/2007 9:25:36 PM)

No never had met him..we live across the country from each other. We did talk on the phone before he moved out of where he was staying. I know that seems insane to move so fast..and looking back I wasnt being clear minded in even entertaining the thought of letting him do it. I know now it was stupid of me to belive someone would up and quit there job that soon..either they were lying or just crazy. The family thing took the cake..even when I agreed to go along with there said plan for us to be together then I ended up getting blocked, and the only reason I went along was to see what reaction I would get not that I would have done what was asked and see if I could talk to him. Looking back it was wishfull thinking..he was one of the more sincere seeming people I had chatted with..and I let things go way too fast even if the whole thing would have been sincere on his end. Yes I do agree about the false sence of intimacy and the computer world.

I have stopped trying to contact him..not worth my time or effort. Whatever it was be a game..crazy people..what have you..I dont need the drama of it. From now on I will go Much slower and have someone come visit me if they live far away.

Christie




dcnovice -> RE: Need advice about a subs vanilla family and the issues they are causing (11/7/2007 9:41:06 PM)

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From what I gather they went into his computer and read all the emails and chat logs on yahoo thus finding out about the lifestyle.


His computer doesn't have a password? His e-mail account? His chat account?



MzMia -> RE: Need advice about a subs vanilla family and the issues they are causing (11/7/2007 9:45:12 PM)

I think he is lying, there are some incredible liars online.
You will be better off without him
Good luck Christie



CalifChick -> RE: Need advice about a subs vanilla family and the issues they are causing (11/7/2007 9:46:20 PM)

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ORIGINAL: WantCuck4BBW2Use

From now on I will go Much slower and have someone come visit me if they live far away.



Sounds like an excellent plan, Christie.  I'm sorry things didn't turn out the way you hoped, but I also hope you find what you are looking for.

Sharon



MaamJay -> RE: Need advice about a subs vanilla family and the issues they are causing (11/7/2007 10:45:13 PM)

Some harsh words here and there ... but a lesson learned hopefully. Christie, sorry this happened, but truly, there's probably not too many of us here who haven't been suckered at least once by someone who sounds so sincere and raises hopes that fly instead of walk! The internet's a bit like that ...

Take it more slowly in future, no definite plans until you have met them more than once ... and good luck!
Maam Jay aka violet[A]



Aceton -> RE: Need advice about a subs vanilla family and the issues they are causing (11/7/2007 11:12:08 PM)

It does indeed sound like you got played, and my sympathy to you. Just be glad that it ended a few weeks into things, and not months or years later. You may be hurt and confused now, but you are not out a significant chunk of your life, and possibly a great deal of money.

It is possible to meet genuine people online, but as everybody has already pointed out, this guy does not fit that criteria.





Dnomyar -> RE: Need advice about a subs vanilla family and the issues they are causing (11/8/2007 7:17:37 AM)

I agree with batty. His story isnt original at all. Im betting he is a minor that got called out.



Michaelsangel -> RE: Need advice about a subs vanilla family and the issues they are causing (11/8/2007 9:24:06 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

I agree with batty. His story isnt original at all. Im betting he is a minor that got called out.



I gotta agree....it sounds like he is a minor who got caught playing games on the computer and phone(long distance bills can be a bitch!), then when his parents found out, he bailed. Too many times kids get found out then make excuses or blame it on the person they are writing to or calling....you are far better off without all the drama....

Michaelsangel



meticulousgirl -> RE: Need advice about a subs vanilla family and the issues they are causing (11/8/2007 11:31:38 AM)

sorry but no family member will get in the way of any relationship that i have with anyone.  That's crap

~meticulous~



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