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RE: Am I The Only Frustrated Sub? - 11/5/2007 9:30:23 AM   
MystressDream


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Status: offline 		TravWill....

Then by all means, make arrangements so you and CollegeConundrum can meet!! 

With the obvious distrust and dislike of women, you two might be made for each other!!

Go out and get drunk together.... you can cry in each other's beers.

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RE: Am I The Only Frustrated Sub? - 11/5/2007 10:11:15 AM   
FullfigRIMaam


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ORIGINAL: CollegeConundrum
When you read a profile and it says she doesn't want a doormat, be a doormat because she's lying.

When you read a profile and it says she wants a smart, extroverted, intelligent sub, be the dumbest pile of rocks you can be because she's lying.

When you read a profile and it says she wants a masochistic sub behind closed doors and a vanilla guy outside, well you get it, she's lying.

And for god's sakes, whatever you do, if you come across a profile of a girl you find astoundingly beautiful and amazingly eloquent, don't even bother because she won't even give you the time of day.
Good thing you don't have too many issues to work out.   
I hope the frustrated OP doesn't take your advice because that'll make his frustration probably last many more years.   M

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RE: Am I The Only Frustrated Sub? - 11/5/2007 10:16:19 AM   
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RE: Am I The Only Frustrated Sub? - 11/5/2007 10:22:14 AM   
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ORIGINAL: TravWill

quote:

ORIGINAL: CollegeConundrum

When you read a profile and it says she doesn't want a doormat, be a doormat because she's lying.

When you read a profile and it says she wants a smart, extroverted, intelligent sub, be the dumbest pile of rocks you can be because she's lying.

When you read a profile and it says she wants a masochistic sub behind closed doors and a vanilla guy outside, well you get it, she's lying.

And for god's sakes, whatever you do, if you come across a profile of a girl you find astoundingly beautiful and amazingly eloquent, don't even bother because she won't even give you the time of day.



Ladies and gentlemen, I want you all to look at collegeconundrum...cause he is a real man. I feel the same way and act the same way you do man, women dont know what they want bro. Yo if I met you in person, Id buy you a drink my friend.



I hope this really isn't the case.  Sorry for the mini hijack there, but sometimes, you just have to point out the blatent bs.
 


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RE: Am I The Only Frustrated Sub? - 11/5/2007 10:24:30 AM   
MystressDream


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Status: offline 		Hmmm... well, boytoy4female...... You don't need to understand.... just obey.  <evil grin>

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RE: Am I The Only Frustrated Sub? - 11/5/2007 10:25:24 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		I might as well make some money off of this thread.  Guys send me $59.95 and I will send you my book on "Understanding Females". From it you will learn how females think. How to become a babe magnet. How to get them to beg at your feet. I have sold thousands of books to fools I mean men like you.

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RE: Am I The Only Frustrated Sub? - 11/5/2007 10:25:32 AM   
chellekitty


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

quote:

ORIGINAL: TravWill

quote:

ORIGINAL: CollegeConundrum

When you read a profile and it says she doesn't want a doormat, be a doormat because she's lying.

When you read a profile and it says she wants a smart, extroverted, intelligent sub, be the dumbest pile of rocks you can be because she's lying.

When you read a profile and it says she wants a masochistic sub behind closed doors and a vanilla guy outside, well you get it, she's lying.

And for god's sakes, whatever you do, if you come across a profile of a girl you find astoundingly beautiful and amazingly eloquent, don't even bother because she won't even give you the time of day.



Ladies and gentlemen, I want you all to look at collegeconundrum...cause he is a real man. I feel the same way and act the same way you do man, women dont know what they want bro. Yo if I met you in person, Id buy you a drink my friend.



I hope this really isn't the case.  Sorry for the mini hijack there, but sometimes, you just have to point out the blatent bs.



hey now...just because your reality (and my reality) doesn't match up with his reality doesn't make it bs....

chelle....who is being bizzarely tolerant today....


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RE: Am I The Only Frustrated Sub? - 11/5/2007 12:56:21 PM   
CollegeConundrum


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ORIGINAL: MissMagnolia

I can't be bothered with subs who email me an use text speak. r u n2 CBT?, etc. For gods sake, write to me as if I am a person, not a phone number. Your profile has gone, but maybe that was your problem?

By the way, we ALL get frustrated.


how r u 2day?  r u n amurica?  i m.  i wud lik 2 b ur frind.

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RE: Am I The Only Frustrated Sub? - 11/5/2007 1:08:43 PM   
LATEXBABY64


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RE: Am I The Only Frustrated Sub? - 11/5/2007 1:37:59 PM   
FullfigRIMaam


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quote:

ORIGINAL: boytoy4female
The only thing I understand about females is that I do not understand them.
MystressDream already answered perfectly, that if you simply obey rather than try to understand us, life will be easier for all involved.   M

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RE: Am I The Only Frustrated Sub? - 11/5/2007 1:49:55 PM   
pageturned


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Status: offline 		I don't have much experience, so I'm not here to give advice. I can tell you what it's worked for me (but at times it's still frustrating...). I select the people (Dommes) I contact, according to their interests, but mainly according to the impression I have: would I be glad to talk with them, outside of bdsm? Then, I put some effort in what I write. I read their profile, their journal, their posts. And I am myself. If they don't reply, it's ok. It means they're not interested. No need to be insistent. Mybe I can write once more, to be sure my mail wasn't lost.
Somehow, you have more chances not to be frustrated if you try not to be frustrating. It's like in other relationships. Respect, time, effort, connection. Then, rude and stupid people are in every category. Slaves, subs, Doms, switches. But you can find interesting people here. Nice ones.
My two cents.
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RE: Am I The Only Frustrated Sub? - 11/5/2007 1:56:59 PM   
pageturned


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Status: offline 		Ooopss... I forgot ... getting rid of all acting helps... But, again, it depends on what one is looking for.


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RE: Am I The Only Frustrated Sub? - 11/5/2007 3:46:46 PM   
CollegeConundrum


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LATEXBABY64

omg that is text messaging run amuk lol


idk my bff Jill?

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RE: Am I The Only Frustrated Sub? - 11/5/2007 3:54:34 PM   
forg0ttenclone


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Status: offline 		I can't tell you how many Dominants i've contacted over time and recieved no reply.  Funny thing, it wasn't a one liner, "i want be ur slave!" or wormish emails.   All of my emails were individually, well written, and intelligent.  Generally 1-2 paragraphs.  Each was more of a "looking for experienced friends in the lifestyle."  When you're an inexperienced sub simply trying to gather experience and information via friendship and chatting, it can help alot.  Needless to say, 99.8% of those emails were never responded to.  I finally got to the point of saying "screw this! I give up."  Give up i did.  Being eager to learn and serve as a genuine submissive gets you no where on here.  Well, it at least appeared that way to me.

I finally had luck after i had given up so to speak.  I would browse around, but would not email anyone unless it was in response to a journal entry that caught my eye.  Outside of that, nada.  But luck would have it, She sought me out.  I am happy to say i am now Hers.  It happens when you least expect it.  However; do not give up hope.  There is someone for everyone, vanilla or not.  Well, unless you're one of those pathetic "i am gud slave for u mistress! i be ur toilet!" that you see Dominants complaining about.  <laughs>


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RE: Am I The Only Frustrated Sub? - 11/5/2007 4:06:30 PM   
SimplyMichael


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Status: offline 		Women are easy to understand.

  1. You must first understand yourself, a step few take because it is both scary and difficult.  Realizing that you have issues that control/affect your needs and wants is the first step.  Most people go through life unaware of the reasons they make most decisions or why one thing makes them happy and something else doesnt, they just think it "is".
  2. Then you must realize that your issues and thus your needs and wants are not universal and that everyone out there is unique.  Its easy to mouth the words but far harder to recognize this at your core.
  3. Once you realize people are unique it is a small step to realize that within a broad spectrum there is not a "right or wrong" way to live.
  4. This next step is also not a huge stretch,  learning to not only face your own issues and thus your needs and wants but to understand that someone else comes with their own needs and wants and that like you, they vary from day to day.
  5. Now, learn to make someone else happy through compromise without either of you feeling compromised is the step few ever manage.  You need to realize that most people, no matter how flawless their tits or tight their ass, or how big their cocks are are just not suitable for you is terrifying.  So afraid of admitting this they compromise on WHO they are with rather than finding the right person and compromising on WHAT/how they do things.
  6. Until you can do all that you can't recognize the "right" person for you, the one with whom they can truly build a life together rather than just achieve the next orgasm. 

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RE: Am I The Only Frustrated Sub? - 11/5/2007 4:25:55 PM   
LatexHer


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Status: offline 		  Just as finding the right shoe, or glove that has that perfect fit takes time - so does finding the "perfect" slave or DOM!  Throughout our life we have found only a few women that were sincere enough to attempt to carve out a relationship with us as our slave.

  Just as a Dom seeks the "perfect" slave - slaves seek their "perfect Dom, Couple or Mistress. To all of our dismay "perfection" often eludes us ,and we either find that after every attempt is exhausted, we must release the slave to her desires, or excuse her from further service!

  We have found several slaves in the past - some of which we have married to later succumb to divorce, due to our individual needs. Perhaps as we age we begin to realize that "PERFECTION" will most often fail to be achieved! We must settle for less - in order to salvage the perfection we so desperately desire.  Not everyone is compatible by nature in life!

  The INTERNET has provided us with a unique opportunity as Tops and bottoms.  It is simple to gaze upon a less than "perfect' specimen of Dom/Me, or slave/sub, and with a click of our mouse dismiss the opportunity to converse!
However, as most of us over 40 already know - opportunity may knock only once, and than be forever gone in the dust of time.

Perhaps it is far better to acknowledge our personal faults and give ourselves a chance rather than to seek "perfection which may never come!  Potential owners and slaves - all take heed, because time has mercy on no one!

Master LatexHer

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RE: Am I The Only Frustrated Sub? - 11/5/2007 4:45:20 PM   
neph


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Status: offline 		It's partially a resource problem.  You see journal entries from people (all female, it seems) talking about having 298347 messages, 298322 of which will be crap.  They'll get tired of going through messages eventually, and N of those well thought-out mails will go unanswered.

The person who sent out the well-thought-out message will have sent out only a few messages, likely, given that they take actual time and effort to write.  They will receive few, if any, responses.  This will likely disappoint them.  Next time, they will send a slightly-less-thought-out email, figuring that they can put in greater effort if the person at least responds "Hi!".  They receive few, if any, responses.  Quality of their outgoing messages degrades until they either decide it's not worth the effort, or end up joining the 'omg u r hawt' hordes.

A third possibility is they will just troll the boards instead, and post things like this.





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RE: Am I The Only Frustrated Sub? - 11/5/2007 5:08:59 PM   
Griswold


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(Sorry....someone had to tell you).

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RE: Am I The Only Frustrated Sub? - 11/5/2007 5:14:15 PM   
kc692


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**makes notes even though she is old, takin names of whiny subs on this thread, and is assuming others are doing the same**

On a serious note, whining is unattractive, now asking questions is different, venting (whining) accomplishes nothing.

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RE: Am I The Only Frustrated Sub? - 11/5/2007 5:15:14 PM   
laurell3


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Status: offline 		OP assuming you are still out there in some form, no you aren't the only frustrated one, in fact the number of first time posters of similar threads of this nature suggests the contrary.  Be patient. 

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