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Griswold -> RE: Am I The Only Frustrated Sub? (11/5/2007 5:19:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: laurell3 OP assuming you are still out there in some form, no you aren't the only frustrated one, in fact the number of first time posters of similar threads of this nature suggests the contrary. Be patient. Indeed....my post to the contrary....relax...take some time. You'll get there.

Dnomyar -> RE: Am I The Only Frustrated Sub? (11/6/2007 10:27:11 AM)
Im going to sue you Michael for reprinting parts of my book without my permission.

hsagnev -> RE: Am I The Only Frustrated Sub? (3/14/2008 12:00:19 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RUthe14me80 Do any other respectful subs (by that I mean those who actually read profiles and send well put together introduction letters to dommes) feel like it's just going nowhere? Tired of the no responses, or the short one word replies. Do dommes actually search for submissives, and are ther any out there that actually do it for fun? Wow, it seems everyone is in it for a buck these days. I know dommes have to put up with a lot of email crap, wankers, and the like, but jeeze...there are a few of us "good guys" out there. There, that felt better! I've been on here for five years now and haven't met one person. I think it is safe to conclude that CM just isn't the place to meet others.

petpete -> RE: Am I The Only Frustrated Sub? (3/14/2008 12:21:11 AM)
RU : Stop sending mail around and make your profile the way it reflects you as best as you can. Be sure that the ones who are interested in you they will let you know. Meantime jack back and relax.. If no responses, well there still wont be no skin out of your nose..

HCWT1 -> RE: Am I The Only Frustrated Sub? (3/14/2008 1:16:11 AM)
For most the search will be long,or allmost impossible,but isen't some of the fun in the chase.It would be fare to say nobody iv'e found on line lasted to long.The ones that worked for myself came from the other side(vanilla),but then i do show who i am and what im about to everyone,when out and about. Take it from someone thats been around a long time,complaining won't help!!!

Lashra -> RE: Am I The Only Frustrated Sub? (3/14/2008 4:53:00 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TravWill quote: ORIGINAL: CollegeConundrum When you read a profile and it says she doesn't want a doormat, be a doormat because she's lying. When you read a profile and it says she wants a smart, extroverted, intelligent sub, be the dumbest pile of rocks you can be because she's lying. When you read a profile and it says she wants a masochistic sub behind closed doors and a vanilla guy outside, well you get it, she's lying. And for god's sakes, whatever you do, if you come across a profile of a girl you find astoundingly beautiful and amazingly eloquent, don't even bother because she won't even give you the time of day. I feel the same way and act the same way you do man, women dont know what they want bro SOME women do not know what they want, just as SOME men don't know what they want. I have a male sub so I am very happy with what I have because I KNEW what I wanted when I was looking. OP As a Domme I get a bit of mail. I have stated plainly in my profile that I do not want to hear from: Doms/Goreans who want me to dominate them, Men coming into town for a weekend and want a "quickie" ass beating, nor do I want to hear from subs/slaves whose Masters have sent them to find a Domme for them to play with. Form letters also turn me off as I see that as very impersonal. These type of messages go unanswered, I do not feel they are worth my time to reply. What I do reply to is well thought out messages that ring of sincerity. These types of message are very few and far in between. So no you are not alone in your frustration, there are lots of people here that have the same stress. Good luck, ~Lashra

cjan -> RE: Am I The Only Frustrated Sub? (3/14/2008 6:01:32 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael Women are easy to understand. You must first understand yourself, a step few take because it is both scary and difficult. Realizing that you have issues that control/affect your needs and wants is the first step. Most people go through life unaware of the reasons they make most decisions or why one thing makes them happy and something else doesnt, they just think it "is". Then you must realize that your issues and thus your needs and wants are not universal and that everyone out there is unique. Its easy to mouth the words but far harder to recognize this at your core. Once you realize people are unique it is a small step to realize that within a broad spectrum there is not a "right or wrong" way to live. This next step is also not a huge stretch, learning to not only face your own issues and thus your needs and wants but to understand that someone else comes with their own needs and wants and that like you, they vary from day to day. Now, learn to make someone else happy through compromise without either of you feeling compromised is the step few ever manage. You need to realize that most people, no matter how flawless their tits or tight their ass, or how big their cocks are are just not suitable for you is terrifying. So afraid of admitting this they compromise on WHO they are with rather than finding the right person and compromising on WHAT/how they do things. Until you can do all that you can't recognize the "right" person for you, the one with whom they can truly build a life together rather than just achieve the next orgasm. True and clearly thought out point of view.. Great post. They apply to both genders,

LadyLynx -> RE: Am I The Only Frustrated Sub? (3/14/2008 6:24:45 AM)
hsagnev, it helps if you look in more then one place. like your local community.

humble75 -> RE: Am I The Only Frustrated Sub? (3/14/2008 6:27:29 AM)
This thing, like most online forums and such can be very hard for a man.. Hard to get noticed, hard to make meaningfull conections and so on. One way to make it less hard is to be ready before you start sending out your mail and start wanting the atention. Take some time to look at the profiles and get some kind of idea what the women like and so on. Then you write interesting things about yourself and you post your most atractive pictures, and "be the best you can" so to speak. I would like to thank the lovely Vents for helping me out with this.. Stay positive and dont let the desperation take over, cos then youl never make it.

mnottertail -> RE: Am I The Only Frustrated Sub? (3/14/2008 6:28:11 AM)
I don't know about your situation OP, but I can assure you that I am the only frustrated Dom, so one of us exists on this planet. Ron

DesFIP -> RE: Am I The Only Frustrated Sub? (3/14/2008 7:22:09 AM)
You will have better luck if you join your community and make friends. Don't be desperate though as that is never attractive. Just be friendly and polite. But don't expect this to happen overnight, because it won't.

dawntreader -> RE: Am I The Only Frustrated Sub? (3/14/2008 7:35:20 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: hsagnev I've been on here for five years now and haven't met one person. I think it is safe to conclude that CM just isn't the place to meet others. Respectfully, i reccomend using your front door more often. Seriously, i have been here less than 2 years and i have met over a dozen folks from CM, either as potential relationships or friends. Ofcourse it required picking up the phone and making an appointment/date to meet...

Kitte9 -> RE: Am I The Only Frustrated Sub? (3/14/2008 8:03:46 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CollegeConundrum quote: ORIGINAL: MissMagnolia I can't be bothered with subs who email me an use text speak. r u n2 CBT?, etc. For gods sake, write to me as if I am a person, not a phone number. Your profile has gone, but maybe that was your problem? By the way, we ALL get frustrated. how r u 2day? r u n amurica? i m. i wud lik 2 b ur frind. It actually took me a bit to decipher that.

JerryFrankster -> RE: Am I The Only Frustrated Sub? (3/14/2008 9:09:19 AM)
I think the other posters that say you should stop trying so hard, make a better profile, and wait for them to come to you are on the right track. This process is still very slow, but there's far less wasted effort involved. Wasted efforts lead to dissapointment which leads to depression, which is unattractive. Don't count on the intarwebs. They don't love you. Go outside and meet some girls. For every female friend you have, your dateability factor increases exponentially. Finally, one simple equasion that will solve almost every jaded sub's problem... Fat Chick + Strap-on = Instant Service Top Why else do you think there are so many overweight Dommes here on CM/CC? Supply and demand my friend, supply and demand. They found a way to reverse the paridigm. So can you.

Stephann -> RE: Am I The Only Frustrated Sub? (3/14/2008 11:53:52 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: hsagnev I've been on here for five years now and haven't met one person. I think it is safe to conclude that CM just isn't the place to meet others. I've been here three years, and have met over a dozen wonderful people. In fact, I can safely say I've never had a bad experience meeting someone from Collarme. Why did you feel you needed to dredge up an old thread on the topic? The original poster doesn't even have an account here anymore. Stephan

kc692 -> RE: Am I The Only Frustrated Sub? (3/14/2008 6:50:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: dawntreader quote: ORIGINAL: hsagnev I've been on here for five years now and haven't met one person. I think it is safe to conclude that CM just isn't the place to meet others. Respectfully, i reccomend using your front door more often. Seriously, i have been here less than 2 years and i have met over a dozen folks from CM, either as potential relationships or friends. Ofcourse it required picking up the phone and making an appointment/date to meet... Some of us have been lucky enough to have you in our home too!!!![;)]

SteelofUtah -> RE: Am I The Only Frustrated Sub? (3/14/2008 7:26:10 PM)
The truth of the matter is CM is simply a way for people to be really picky and have a screen to hide behind because although crap like this DOES happen in local communities it is far and few between because doing things like what you are talkin about only get you a reputation in the Real World. On CM things like this behaviour disappear in a matter of days or weeks and then no one remembered who you were anyway. As Always Steel

hsagnev -> RE: Am I The Only Frustrated Sub? (3/14/2008 8:09:50 PM)
RU, usually what I do is pay for a pro. At least you'll be out having fun and your time will be better spent too. It's definitely better than reading 100 profiles very carefully and sending 100 meticulously written emails only to be completely ignored or worse, told to fuck off on a whim. Aside from occasional entertainment CM may provide it is an utter waste of time.

hsagnev -> RE: Am I The Only Frustrated Sub? (3/14/2008 8:22:11 PM)
RU I have no idea where you live, but if you're near SF then I'd recommend Natasha Princess Strange - She's way into it (highly recommended) Anna Dior Mistress Xia Vox (I haven't visited her yet, but we have exchanged a few emails) Basically, the good doms are the one's that really enjoy it and have started their own business professionally. You can just tell when you meet them for the first time if they're the one. It is total magic.

cjan -> RE: Am I The Only Frustrated Sub? (3/14/2008 8:36:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: dawntreader quote: ORIGINAL: hsagnev I've been on here for five years now and haven't met one person. I think it is safe to conclude that CM just isn't the place to meet others. Respectfully, i reccomend using your front door more often. Seriously, i have been here less than 2 years and i have met over a dozen folks from CM, either as potential relationships or friends. Ofcourse it required picking up the phone and making an appointment/date to meet... Front door works well and , in my experience, having been on CM for only a short time, so does this site, as far as "connections",and introductions are concerned. Oh, and it's well designed and moderasted, of course. I've met two wonderful, local, women recently as a result of being here. One a Domme, another a sub. ( I can't help it if I'm lucky ).. Both are real and a delight to know.And, , interestingly, neither of the ladies read or post in the forums. Ain't life interesting ? Maybe I'm just ...lucky. Good luck and best wishes in your search.

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