TheLioness
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Hmmmm... speaking as a woman who started bottom up 25 years ago and gained considerable experience through professional Dominas who would blow most of today's gals out of the water for pure skill and evil, and has worked on and off as a professional herself, I'm always disconcerted by the trend in thinking about the mindset of professional dominants. I maintained a loving 6 year relationship with a live in slave throughout my busiest time as a professional, and I have two pro friends I consider outstanding and admirable women in their own right, let alone their skills as pros and lifestyle dominants, who both remain in long term relationships to this day even as they maintain very healthy professional careers.
I think, perhaps, what many folks are experiencing as professional dominants, if their experience is limited to these kinds of sites and commercial porn, are poser wannabees looking for "easy money" who care little about the clients and even less about personal toys or lovers. Having said that, there are a few very successful professional FemDoms who specialize in female supremacy for an apparently rather large client base, I just don't think they're in the majority among professionals. The ones who advertise on personals sites like this one, whose profiles are so obviously filled with clueless crap I call hookers with whips and they're a fairly new phenominon within the leather community. I think if you could get the straight poop on these women you'd find that they have little or no success maintaining anything like a clientele, with the exception of those clever girls doing on-line domination .. an easy, safe way for a person to get their BDSM fix without "cheating" etc. At any rate, I'm very reluctant to throw a "bad" label on anyone's personal kink, as long as the result of that kink has a healthy outlet. Abusive assholes with low self esteem and a chip on their shoulder can be found among both sexes, as well as whiny, needy hangers-on calling themselves submissives who think abuse is hot, no question about it, but I certainly don't think that assholes are limited to one kind of practitioner or another. The scene has become rife with abusers since the advent of the internet.
It's interesting that I have received SO MANY inquiries on various BDSM personals sites from men who call me goddess right up front, or describe themselves as worms, that I've had to actually put in my profile "I don't consider myself the goddess type. I don't find women any more worthy of that kind of worship then men. It's substance, not gender, that counts." It's important to me that people understand what I do is partly a skill I've honed over years of careful and dedicated play and practice, not some "natural" ability as a "goddess".... that's just pure crap.
I don't know which has come first, the women who "advertise" themselves as superior to men, or the vast number of men who appear to be looking for just that. It would seem to me that there's a jump in the number of women self-describing as supremacists in response to the number of men asking for it, but that's just 25 years of anecdotal evidence ... my personal experience in other words.
Domina Katrina
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When you are aware of your pain and suffering, it helps you develop your capacity for empathy, the capacity which allows you to relate to other people’s feelings and sufferings. This enhances your capacity for compassion towards others. Dalai Lama
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