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Cant Control These Feelings - 11/3/2007 4:55:06 AM

silentfire

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I use to be able to turn them off and on at will...Think about it when I wanted to.Now they seem to consume my soul and every waking moment........Not sure what is happening

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RE: Cant Control These Feelings - 11/3/2007 5:06:05 AM

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What feelings? Can you elaborate on what you are talking about?

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RE: Cant Control These Feelings - 11/3/2007 5:07:07 AM

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I believe it's called sub-frenzy. It happens whe you're new. Are you new? Either way, you'll get over it.

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RE: Cant Control These Feelings - 11/3/2007 5:14:41 AM

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The desire to submit to One

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RE: Cant Control These Feelings - 11/3/2007 5:15:23 AM

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I believe it's called sub-frenzy. It happens whe you're new. Are you new? Either way, you'll get over it.

Oh you again. At least she's got a profile up on here. How you form your biased opinins I'll never know. Just because she is a newbie on here doesn't mean she is new to the life style.
And she may well not 'get over' it as you so inappropriately state. I will address the OP in a more supportive manner and simply hope that you keep your trite generalisations to yourself.

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RE: Cant Control These Feelings - 11/3/2007 5:20:05 AM

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I agree with sammie, silentfire, even though you included "the desire to submit to one." Are you in a relationship with this person or is it that you simply desire to submit to someone?

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RE: Cant Control These Feelings - 11/3/2007 5:21:19 AM

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Feelings are just that...feelings. They are not something to get over or dismiss...I too am new at this and the life style, and getting over something that takes you over is like saying that one day you will learn to not hurt, care or even breath...get real! As for the thoughts, desires and needs taking over your every thought...welcome to my world. It is okay...it does not mean that you are lacking anything etc...it means you have desires, and what is wrong with that?

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RE: Cant Control These Feelings - 11/3/2007 5:25:04 AM

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quote:

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The desire to submit to One

I think that desire grows over time and not diminishes. I thik my understanding of what submission really is still growing and therefore I also think about it...well all the time. I can multi-think and mutli-task so that's not a problem.
For me, and I am speaking purely from personal opinion here, the thinking about it only stops in the act of physically doing submission. Then I am not reflecting, deflecting, fantasising or dreaming about it but am in what others and myself call sub space. My sub space is my own sub space so I cI won't talk about that here because this is an attempt to focus on YOU.
I am masochistic, I grow physically tolerant quickly. You are not me and therefore dream, reflect fantasise about diffferent kinks.
The prefect match for me is a Dom who also thinks about it all the time. Actually the One who thinks about Me all the time submitting to Him. And for me He is the one that all the time I think is the one who dominates me.
It's mental as well as physical bondage.
Are you in a s/d relationship?

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RE: Cant Control These Feelings - 11/3/2007 5:27:54 AM

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The desire to submit to One

I'm not sure why you want to turn the feelings off. If this is who you are, then it is what it is.
I read your profile and your journal entries. You have had some disappointments online, as we all have. Don't let that make you doubt your submission. The One for you is out there. Just be patient and he will find you.

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RE: Cant Control These Feelings - 11/3/2007 5:34:37 AM

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Was in a relationship.........learned so much........

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ORIGINAL: batshalom

I agree with sammie, silentfire, even though you included "the desire to submit to one." Are you in a relationship with this person or is it that you simply desire to submit to someone?

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RE: Cant Control These Feelings - 11/3/2007 5:35:01 AM

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Being in a s/d relationship is a great thing. If it is good...you are always thinking about it. If it is not so good, you are always thinking about what can make it better. Sometimes things just don't work out just because you want them to. Once you find that Dom that works for you...you always think of them and what you can do for them. Think...think all the time, it means you are ALIVE!

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RE: Cant Control These Feelings - 11/3/2007 5:36:11 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Prinsexx
Beautifully Written...............

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ORIGINAL: silentfire

The desire to submit to One

I think that desire grows over time and not diminishes. I thik my understanding of what submission really is still growing and therefore I also think about it...well all the time. I can multi-think and mutli-task so that's not a problem.
For me, and I am speaking purely from personal opinion here, the thinking about it only stops in the act of physically doing submission. Then I am not reflecting, deflecting, fantasising or dreaming about it but am in what others and myself call sub space. My sub space is my own sub space so I cI won't talk about that here because this is an attempt to focus on YOU.
I am masochistic, I grow physically tolerant quickly. You are not me and therefore dream, reflect fantasise about diffferent kinks.
The prefect match for me is a Dom who also thinks about it all the time. Actually the One who thinks about Me all the time submitting to Him. And for me He is the one that all the time I think is the one who dominates me.
It's mental as well as physical bondage.
Are you in a s/d relationship?

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RE: Cant Control These Feelings - 11/3/2007 5:37:54 AM

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The desire to submit to One

I'm not sure why you want to turn the feelings off. If this is who you are, then it is what it is.
I read your profile and your journal entries. You have had some disappointments online, as we all have. Don't let that make you doubt your submission. The One for you is out there. Just be patient and he will find you.

jen

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RE: Cant Control These Feelings - 11/3/2007 5:39:18 AM

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I use to be able to turn them off and on at will...Think about it when I wanted to.Now they seem to consume my soul and every waking moment........Not sure what is happening

Sometimes perhaps you think that being subisive is about being either passive? or reactive? I don't know.
But I can allow myself to be submissive and proactive as well....

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RE: Cant Control These Feelings - 11/3/2007 5:42:42 AM

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Oh you again. At least she's got a profile up on here. How you form your biased opinins I'll never know. Just because she is a newbie on here doesn't mean she is new to the life style.
And she may well not 'get over' it as you so inappropriately state. I will address the OP in a more supportive manner and simply hope that you keep your trite generalisations to yourself.

LOL, Princess, starting a fan club now? Why don't you try to read something into what I wrote other then your own negativity. My statement and question was about her being new to the lifestyle in general, not Collarme. And i didn't tell her to get over it, I said she will get over it. As they say: "This to, shall pass." Once again, I have to explain something to you. Just like a woman to prattle on without fully understanding.

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RE: Cant Control These Feelings - 11/3/2007 5:46:55 AM

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I use to be able to turn them off and on at will...Think about it when I wanted to.Now they seem to consume my soul and every waking moment........Not sure what is happening

...I remember feeling like a sponge with the worse case of hives and hiccups.

sponge> couldn't get enough information and just wanted to soak it all in
hives> scratching didn't help..just made me itch more, I felt enflamed and raw
hiccups> the more I tried to get rid of them(the feelings) the more/harder they seems to appear

I am not sure if you are in a relationship??....newly discovered your desires??....recently were able to "feel" them physically??>>>>but they are real and you are not crazy.

"what you can/should do about them?" depends alot on the above 3 questions..
so, maybe you could expand on that a little??

in the meanwhile..breathe and try to balance your life with your others interests and desires and well as these feelings/desires. There is nothing wrong with feeling the feelings : ) and no, they won't just go away...But we can temper them with balance and maturity.
Perspective is key right now..

looking forward to reading more about where you are coming from .. : )

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RE: Cant Control These Feelings - 11/3/2007 6:17:51 AM

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as much as i hate to say it, i am going to have to go with TheChauvinist on this one...This to, shall pass...

you either have to feel the feelings now, or feel the feelings later, but you are going to have to feel the feelings...just ride them out, hard and as difficult as they may be...they will pass...if anyone ever told you life was easy, they were lying to you...

life is a cycle of storms....preparing for a storm, going through a storm, getting over a storm, and start over to prepare for a storm again....sometimes it may seem like the storm will never end, but it will...anyone can be a sailor when the skies are blue, but when the water is churning and the skies are dark and grey...

did i give enough cliche's?

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RE: Cant Control These Feelings - 11/3/2007 6:20:34 AM

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Oh you again. At least she's got a profile up on here.

Well at least one other person on here bothers to look at the profile before writing. Is this do you think a strange English custom ?

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RE: Cant Control These Feelings - 11/3/2007 6:24:41 AM

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Having feelings is one thing, it's normal to have feelings.

Have those feelings become an obsession is something different and may indicate that you need to do some serious self-evaluation especially if it starts to interfere with other parts of your life in a negative way such as getting you in trouble at work or hurting your relationships with others.

Acting on your feelings is completely within your control but it takes work to achieve that ability and overcome the reactiving to feelings that most of us do routinely.

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RE: Cant Control These Feelings - 11/3/2007 6:33:06 AM

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When I first explored this part of myself I did so with someone that lived a couple of 1000 miles away from me, and I happened into the situation almost by accident. I discovered through him that this was who I am. My head was always in the clouds when I was exploring with him. I definitely had sub frenzy.

I thought that my submission was tied to him, but it really wasn't about him. I will always love this person because of what we shared, and I will never forget him, but he was not the "One" that I thought he was at the time.

From what you describe, perhaps you are dealing with the pandora's box of submission, because once it is unleashed it is hard to squash... In my experience those emotions are so intense that one would not want to live them for a lifetime.

You are not specific enough for me to know really what has happened with you, other than you have explored things by your profile. I do not have the intense longing to submit unless there is someone I feel submissive to around me. I have only felt that twice in my life.

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