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tade -> RE: "play-partners" (8/9/2005 12:38:41 PM)
I think Sultry hit it right on the head with that post. There is a huge difference between being submissive and being someone's submissive. Tade

Hallittlelolita -> RE: "play-partners" (8/11/2005 9:35:54 PM)
It takes awhile to find the guy of your dreams, believe me. I met my husband four years ago, and we are just getting into bdsm now. He is my Master, my best friend. I wish you the best of luck on your search, and remember there are other fish in the sea.

MtPleasantsubAsh -> RE: "play-partners" (8/12/2005 7:45:36 AM)
thank you A/all once again..smiles...I'll keep on keepin on

IronBear -> RE: "play-partners" (8/13/2005 8:55:40 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MtPleasantsubAsh I have known him for over two years...we've been talkign and meeting for only a month and a half....but i assumed we were in that sort of relationship. I was wrong to. And i suppose i just have to be more careful. Although my experience in “real life” has been exclusively with Gorean slaves, kajirae, and not with subs, I can understand how easily it is for a sub/slave to become emotionally involved with his/her Dominant. I strongly suspect that the newer sub/slaves in the lifestyle are more vulnerable to this that some one who has been around for some time and understand the psychological dynamics better from experience. To that add that some people are more ready to fall in love or get emotionally attached than others. On a generalization basis, and I hate generalising usually, it does appear that the female species has a greater propensity to become emotionally attached than her male counterpart. If sex has been added to the mix, then this too is a powerful binding force. Be assured that out there is the right Master for you. The secret is not to try to seek too hard.

krazysubbiekat -> RE: "play-partners" (8/21/2005 10:21:58 AM)
As i read your OP, i wondered if the two of you need to speak about this some more. Reading on, i found out that y'all have known each other for two years. i personally think that, unless you are ready to walk away from that two years, you need to speak to him further about this. Ask him what his expectations are, where he sees this going...say 6 months from now. Tell him about your expectations from TTWD, tell him that you will eventually need a deeper emotional commitment. If this discussion is not satisfying, then it would not only be okay, but better for you to walk away, to look for someone who will fulfill all your needs.

Fawne -> RE: "play-partners" (8/21/2005 11:07:46 AM)
Hugs to you, sweetie. Seriously..... You do seem sweet, in a sexy innocent way as well as good natured (hope you don't mind me saying so) and seem to have a lot of qualities that are valued. (likely more than you would give yourself credit for.) So, you have learned a really lot about yourself and now know what type of situation you need to be happy. That means a lot! By having found yourself a bit more.. find someone who would be pleased to have all of you in the way you dream of.

MtPleasantsubAsh -> RE: "play-partners" (8/29/2005 3:57:57 PM)
TY TY kitty and Tawne....you two are sweet, and ty for the nice things you said....I..i am going to discuss it with him, b/c i know i need more than a casual relationship. i need stability however cliched.ty A/all for your support and comments.. sighs the only hard part is talking....sniffles and hugs to you A/all.

OscarHargraves -> RE: "play-partners" (9/3/2005 10:15:14 AM)
Hi Ashley, There are several married couples on here that are also Master/Slave or Dom/Sub. Why don't you contact them and find out what worked for them? Maybe they could give you some insight that the rest of us don't have.

Lacey123 -> RE: "play-partners" (9/3/2005 10:40:09 AM)
So sorry..and, boy, can I relate! I believed that what I had with my "play partner" was something special- the deep trust, honesty(well, at least on my part), submission, domination (I'm a switch)- baring my soul, sharing my secrets, opening myself up, trotting down roads previously unsearched because I did not trust. Then, the "couple" thing came up and I was quite blatantly told "It was only sex". My heart reeled, I curled in pain, I didn't (and still don't) understand. I guess that's why "negotiation" and honesty in feelings is a must right from the start. What made me "starry eyed" just made him "horney". I will survive and I will find someone to adore just me. Maybe......... Lacey123[&o]

OscarHargraves -> RE: "play-partners" (9/3/2005 12:49:18 PM)
I guess this is one of the advantages of being married and playing. I tell my Sub upfront that I'm married and have no intention of changing that. She KNOWS that we are not 'a couple' and she should never be hurt since she knows this is supposed to be fun and sex for BOTH of us. Of course communication is still the key, and I still watch closely to be sure she doesn't get any wrong ideas. I don't want her hurt unneccessarily.

MtPleasantsubAsh -> RE: "play-partners" (9/3/2005 4:15:38 PM)
UPDATE: SO...i decided it was time to talk to my play-Dom...and alas...he told me i was jsut immature and too needy for him...and that it was my fault for being so naive, ect... sighs i've come to realise....he's just an ass. i share the blame for lack of communication, but there was no need to turn on me. I guess now i'll just keep looking for the One for me to serve, and the One who will treasure me and my love.

tade -> RE: "play-partners" (9/3/2005 7:46:06 PM)
Sorry to hear that darlin', I really am. It may take awhile but the One for you to serve will find you someday. Untill then have fun on the journey and remember just because someone acts dominant does not mean that they are YOUR dominant. There is alot of trust that goes along with this type of life, and not just everybody is worthy of that. Just Our little opinion. And hey, there are always vacations to Florida..LOL Between now and then, Tade and Bara

MtPleasantsubAsh -> RE: "play-partners" (10/4/2005 7:13:54 PM)
Hmm....i've found my One..and we both fully understand each other..(wasn't about to make that mistake again0 MyLord Richard and my slave sister tawnie are all very happy, and will be for years to come/ Yes, i'm the OP. ty all for your advice... hugs and kisses to A/all. i'm so very happy. -subAsh

EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: "play-partners" (10/4/2005 7:55:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MtPleasantsubAsh Hmm....i've found my One..and we both fully understand each other..(wasn't about to make that mistake again0 MyLord Richard and my slave sister tawnie are all very happy, and will be for years to come/ Yes, i'm the OP. ty all for your advice... hugs and kisses to A/all. i'm so very happy. -subAsh So do I give the honest answer or the sweet answer? You realized your ex was an ass and ended it exactly 30 days ago. Now you're not only lucky enough to have found "the one" but also happens to be a poly situation. I won't say lightning never strikes and I sincerely do wish you all happiness, but I just find it a bit too soon and too good to be true.

theRose4U -> RE: "play-partners" (10/4/2005 9:49:57 PM)
quote: You realized your ex was an ass and ended it exactly 30 days ago. Now you're not only lucky enough to have found "the one" but also happens to be a poly situation. Maybe another 30 days will tell? Does seem rather sudden though. OP have you taken time to sit & just think about what you really want for yourself...NOT what you're looking for in another to fill voids within yourself but what YOU really in your heart want out of life. Now OP profile missing & the only Lord Richard that comes up is 21 & wants online only before he goes RT...very puzzled

FLButtSlut -> RE: "play-partners" (10/4/2005 11:04:40 PM)
This is also the same girl who had the anal sex aftershock and the master who was so concerned she might hemorrage if they had sex during her period..... Well perhaps Lord Richard is at least a sharper tool in the shed than the other guy...

Padriag -> RE: "play-partners" (10/4/2005 11:53:02 PM)
Is that the sound of the sound barrier breaking again I hear... or just the rip of velcro. Yes I'm being cruel, sometimes you have to be a little cruel before you can be kind.

sweetpettjenny -> RE: "play-partners" (10/5/2005 3:14:30 AM)
She is very young , and probably has no real bearing on what A D/s relationship truelly is. She is frenzied to find the love of her life , when we all know this takes time and patience( which over time im even learning ..the patience thing)

EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: "play-partners" (10/5/2005 5:50:07 AM)
Well, here's a vote to prove us and general history all wrong and become one of those rare exceptions. quote: ORIGINAL: sweetpettjenny She is very young , and probably has no real bearing on what A D/s relationship truelly is. She is frenzied to find the love of her life , when we all know this takes time and patience( which over time im even learning ..the patience thing)

MasterRobert1 -> RE: "play-partners" (10/5/2005 6:52:05 AM)
This is where the old school rules would come into play. Did you discuss a relationship, or what they nature of your relationship is before you started (that should be a necessary and important part of the preplay negotiations)? Don't assume. There is no substitute for actually knowing what the situation is. At this point, he's told you what he thinks the nature of the relationship is: you're play partners, nothing more. Consider this to be a lesson learned. And ask next time around. Robert

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