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RE: Sub problems - 11/5/2007 4:36:18 PM

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RE: Sub problems - 11/5/2007 5:03:27 PM

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Why on earth would you want her to proclaim to the world that she's yours when you haven't even met her? Stop focusing on stupid things like profiles and go see if there's anything there to build a relationship on.

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RE: Sub problems - 11/5/2007 6:35:13 PM

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I tend to agree with MistressDream on this one..sounds like things need to move to a level where you have met more than once and are Both comfortable before proceeding to things such as collars.
Unless of course this is going to be limited to an online situation in which case i neither know or pretend to know how you should proceed.

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RE: Sub problems - 11/6/2007 10:52:24 AM

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Sorry everyone. I got illusions a grandeur for a while. Forget this thread.

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RE: Sub problems - 11/6/2007 7:33:58 PM

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"and she has picked out a collar which she wants to wear "

What the hell??? Dude, we aren't talking about giving her a piece of jewelry cause ya like her, SHEESH! I'm thinking ya need a bit more advise than just on her changing her profile. Good Grief!

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RE: Sub problems - 11/6/2007 7:55:28 PM

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Well I must say something here ......I have been with Master for over 6 years now ....three in real life , but that is not the norm! so many play the game slaves & Masters ...when it comes to really meeting they dont ever reply anymore or meet once and fine its not the same in person ; which by the way happens a lot . For someone to offer a collar while on line , must be very new to the life style ....a collar is like a wedding ring , you dont take it lightly ! and for her to accept the collar is very questionable as well ! I didnt receive a collar from Master until after we met , and then we waited for a long time after we were not sure how the relationship was going to go ....for that in mind ....please dont be hasty , we wise !!

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RE: Sub problems - 11/10/2007 3:12:07 PM

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Hmm.

Collar in D/s or BDSM = Vanilla wedding ring.

Sooo.... you're already going to marry someone you've known less than a month!

For crying out loud, how about getting to know one another, online and off? How about dating? How about finding out if you really are a compatible couple? Then you can sweat the online profile.

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RE: Sub problems - 11/10/2007 3:26:42 PM

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Respectfully Sir simply at answer Your question as You've gotten plenty of other responses regarding the wisdom of fast movement ... and casual treatment of -our- highest symbol of commitment.

If you directed her to change her profile and she agreed, then changed it back behind your back not once but twice. The truth is ... she isn't fully committed to this no matter what You'd like to believe. Judgements aside about both of Your true states of readiness ... drop her. She agreed to do as You instructed and then behind Your back changed it. If she did this without talking to You and letting You know of her misgivings ... she isn't being honest with You and You probably really aren't right for each other.

Regardless of online or offline or play or fantasy or real ... if the parameters You are setting up for your relationship involve agreed upon power exchange and she is failing to comply. She is telling You something loud and clear Sir.

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RE: Sub problems - 11/10/2007 11:01:42 PM

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seems like she may not be as commited as You may think she is!

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RE: Sub problems - 11/11/2007 4:43:06 AM

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ORIGINAL: Domunorthants

I have recently started seeing a sub who says she has commited fully to me. However, although she changed her profile to show that she was serving me, she has changed it to show that she was not serving twice, and has only changed it back when I told her to.

It's an online thing, but we are looking to meet in the next week or so. I've been seeing her nearly every day for 2 weeks, and she has picked out a collar which she wants to wear

my suggestion is for you to step away from the computer and go find yourself a life in the real world with real people that you can reach out and touch!

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RE: Sub problems - 11/11/2007 8:43:33 AM

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a collar may equal a wedding ring....but if it doesn't come with the commitment and dedication and all those other things, it is still just a piece of jewelry...because i can go down to the pawn shop and buy myself a wedding ring and put it on my left ring finger just as well as any man...just like i can put a collar on my neck...and neither makes me married or collared/owned....

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RE: Sub problems - 11/11/2007 9:49:32 AM

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Not really. There are laws relating to marriage, but none for collaring.

For some people, a collar means a lot more than a wedding ring. For others, it means less. The range is much wider. Of course, there are all kinds of marriages too, but I think people's expectations when they get married are generally less diverse than expectations when people are collared.