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What fuels your rocket? - 11/5/2007 9:53:04 PM   
MidnightMaiden


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Status: offline 		I see four aspects to most D/s or M/s relationships.  Control/surrender, Service, Pain and Humiliation.  I have been asking myself which of those do I get the most enjoyment out of, and after reading, I would love to hear what you get the most enjoyment out of.

Control/surrender is the most integral part of a D/s relationship, without submission there can be no dominance.  I like the surrender, I like the freedom I feel.... but if I was in a relationship where I surrendered and my Dom wanted to do nothing more than eat ice cream out of my naval, I would be unsatisfied.  Or if he only asked me to do things that didn't push me out of my comfort zone, then its kinda just vanilla with a few sprinkles in it.  So whilst surrender is a part of it, its not all...

Service is the joy you get from pleasing your Master.  This is a large part for me, knowing I have done a good job, hearing "I am proud of you" or "Good girl" gets my knickers wet, however if it were just the sheer joy of service that was my motivator, could I not do that in a nilla relationship?  You could argue its the joy of serving "The One" but if you washed the kink out of him till he was nilla flavoured through and through would you still have the bond that you do?  Service makes me very happy, but its not my high...

Pain, I am a self confessed pain slut.  I love it, and for me its an important part of a D/s relationship, but not all pain sluts are submissives, I could just go have rough kinky sex in a relationship based on vanilla equality, and I still wouldn't feel complete.  Pain gets me high, but as a solitary element, its not enough to make me happy...

Humiliation... that's where it lies for me.  Why do I like to be humiliated?  Why do I want to thrust out of my comfort zone?  Because it makes me face my fears.  When my master sets me a task that mortifies, makes me balk or blink or go WTF its like hitting a brick wall, and I can hit my head against it in the process of surrender, but he's like this huge safety net... and finally when I let go of my pride and my ego, when I drop that baggage, or stop listening to the taboos of society... when I let go... that's the greatest feeling on earth.  It's getting over myself, and liking who I am for being able to do it (and loving him for enabling me to do it).

I wouldn't want a relationship based purely on humiliation, you can get that in a nilla life too, and on its own its abusive.  But in the context of a loving D/s relationship, thats where I get my high.

How about you?  Where is your high in your relationship?  And be selfish!  We all get joy from pleasing that's why we do it, but is that what fuels your rocket to get you to reach your highest place?  (and its ok if it does) 
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RE: What fuels your rocket? - 11/5/2007 11:30:52 PM   
softpjOS


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Status: offline 		Sappy as it may seem... it's Her.  The smile on Her face, seeing Her relaxed knowing that something I did had that effect on Her day.  Especially if it's something I truly don't enjoy, knowing I was able to put my wants aside and do something purely for Her. 
 
Regarding play?  Hands down, Her knife takes me there faster and higher then anything else. 
 

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RE: What fuels your rocket? - 11/6/2007 5:32:50 AM   
wisteriaV


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Status: offline 		Honesty ,comunication, trust and tenderness is what fuels our relationship. It is through those things that makes our M/s relationship and the possibilities endless

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RE: What fuels your rocket? - 11/6/2007 6:04:01 AM   
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Status: offline 		What fuels my rocket, huh?  Rubber and latex are a really strong component to my relationship with Mistress and the fact that She's gothic....mmmmmmmmm!!!  Her luscious lips covered in glossy black lipstick and Her jade green eyes make me melt.  But as wonderful as those things are, none of those would be possible if I didn't dedicate myself to Her and show Her how much I cherish Her dominance over me.  I want to please Her and make Her proud to own me.  I live to hear that She's proud of me.  I live to know that my efforts please Her.  To hear Her say that make Her that happiest domme ever touches my very soul.  I want to make Her life as pleasant as I possibly can and show Her the dedication most dommes only dream of.  My needs are Her needs. 

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RE: What fuels your rocket? - 11/6/2007 6:07:58 AM   
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Status: offline 		Double A batteries fuel up my rocket.. I buy them by the case . . .

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RE: What fuels your rocket? - 11/6/2007 10:10:51 AM   
Celeste43


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Status: offline 		None of the above, emotional transparency is what does it for us. We don't do humiliation because I put up walls in response.

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RE: What fuels your rocket? - 11/6/2007 10:56:14 AM   
slavemaia


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Status: offline 		Depends on many things - at times it's nothing more than His smile. At other times its His "vanilla" thoughtfulness. i don't know, somehow i get the feeling sometimes on here that people think we're not - - - - - uh - - - - - - people. i can go for days in an utterly submissive place, needing, wanting, craving nothing more than to please Him and make Him happy, no matter what that entails. Then there are times when i just have to do what i know is expected of me because i don't "feel" like my rocket is fueled. ha. So it varies and changes, like the tide. i think commitment and agreements are tatmount, otherwise all that rules a relationship is "what fuels your rocket". heh.

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RE: What fuels your rocket? - 11/6/2007 11:52:46 AM   
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RE: What fuels your rocket? - 11/6/2007 12:03:41 PM   
mnottertail


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Oh, there is just so many things, really.

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RE: What fuels your rocket? - 11/6/2007 1:50:20 PM   
Daddysjezzy


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Status: offline 		All of the above really.  Surrender, service, pain, humiliation (occasionally), plus being the challenge of being the best slave you can be and the bringing joy and pleasure to someone you love and adore.  Wow that sounds like a Hallmark card, sorry about that.

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RE: What fuels your rocket? - 11/6/2007 4:02:31 PM   
MidnightMaiden


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Status: offline 		Thank you for the responses, I am always interested in the opinions and ideals of others :)

I guess in a way I assumed that the foundations of love, respect, honour fuel us all... and perhaps the more accurate question would have been what fetish perhaps, what aspect that is unique to having a BDSM relationship, do you get the most enjoyment out of, not for your Master's sake but to secretly and selfishly admit what aspects you really get a kick out of.  I appreciate that for many subs/slaves their Master's read their forum contributions, so it may not be something you want to divulge.  My Master should have been a lawyer, every word that comes out of my mouth he uses against me for his own enjoyment

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RE: What fuels your rocket? - 11/6/2007 5:08:33 PM   
IrishMist


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Status: offline 		What fuels my rocket? A good, old fashioned, no holds barred, flat out, physical beating



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RE: What fuels your rocket? - 11/6/2007 5:14:43 PM   
KnightofMists


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quote:

ORIGINAL: IrishMist

What fuels my rocket? A good, old fashioned, no holds barred, flat out, physical beating




Well... Get your fucking ass over here... and I will Beat the fuck out of you and fire that rocket into space!!!!


"Warning..... Launch comes without a parachute"

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RE: What fuels your rocket? - 11/6/2007 5:20:28 PM   
Tigrita


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I can't really put myself in those categories, though some of them do contribute.  If I had to pick a word or category it would be 'conquering', or rather, being conquered.  I don't get off on control or surrender, per-say, I dislike control, but will yield to it if one is strong enough to exert it, and enjoy it because that strength is what I want to feel.  And I don't enjoy surrender in the traditional sense either, but again, I will surrender to one strong enough to command it, and enjoy reveling in being subject to his strength.  And I love some pain associated with primal sexuality.  And humiliation is good fun but not an essential.  Service is the least of it for me, though it does come into play. 

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RE: What fuels your rocket? - 11/6/2007 5:27:00 PM   
IrishMist


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quote:

Well... Get your fucking ass over here... and I will Beat the fuck out of you and fire that rocket into space!!!!


"Warning..... Launch comes without a parachute"


O_O
/perks up

Promises promises....
/sigh


Hmm.... no parachute... I can handle that... ummm... can I have the cord from it then?



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RE: What fuels your rocket? - 11/6/2007 6:31:45 PM   
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Status: offline 		whar fuels my rocket is seeing Masters smile, hearing his voice, feeling his touch  hell all of it HE fuels my rocket.

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RE: What fuels your rocket? - 11/6/2007 6:35:49 PM   
Celeste43


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Status: offline 		Oh physical stuff. Sens dep, bondage, blindfolds, gags. Orgasm denial; being brought to the edge and held there for an hour followed by dozens of mind blowing ones. Thuddy spankings, which means he doesn't cup his hand making it more stingy, and stays on the sweet spot and not on the painful outside bits - not that I usually get any of these mind you, but I'd like to.

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RE: What fuels your rocket? - 11/6/2007 6:55:33 PM   
LaMspeach


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Status: offline 		Serving him anyway he sees fit, Watching the tension leave his body as i do.

The fact that he allows me to be who i need to be and always seems to know exact what i need even when i don't.

It isnt just one thing that fuels my rocket  it is the who package.

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RE: What fuels your rocket? - 11/6/2007 9:27:15 PM   
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Status: offline 		I use a different general set of differentiations for orientations- service oriented, sexual oriented, obedience oriented, pleasure oriented and control oriented.  A person may be any combination of those.

I tend to be service and control oriented.

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RE: What fuels your rocket? - 11/6/2007 9:31:27 PM   
MidnightMaiden


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Status: offline 		Thank you LA, as always I enjoy your posts, and I had not thought of it the way you set it out.  I am a "baby slaveling", and learning every day, its why I ask you all so many questions!  Every sentence I read, whether I agree or not, I learn something new  

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