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Mind twisted around - 11/6/2007 3:57:42 AM   
deliciousmorsel


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Think play party, several sub girls all goofy on violet wand play, A very attractive visiting Dom is warming up his Florentine on an empty cross, so the conversation goes "He's hot!" "Past hot, I don't have the words..." me- "pity to waste that fine leather handling on an empty cross, when he could be making me scream" (this was facsetious) Next girl walks off and has a chat with Hot Dom.
Before I know it I'm over there negotiataing. Or actually, just telling my hard limits before I'm told to strip (in that Voice) and I wasn't even cuffed and clipped on, just holding the chains across the top.

It was even better than one would think, but this Dom is an aquaintance, a great guy, but still, this was my second ever trip to the cross, I had an intensely deep erotic experience that really finished exploding in my head a few days later, I was in the grocery store when this bomb went off.
What does one do with something like this? Sir got up inside my head! And that was nice at first, he imposed much needed order on my universe, left me quite purple, and in my place. It's really hard for single submissives to get this. But if anything I almost hope to never come across this man again but I will. I'd never heard this roar of the Dominant before. This was not at all sexual, but extremely erotic, very intimate.
So what do I do with this?
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RE: Mind twisted around - 11/6/2007 4:50:05 AM   
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Screw up your courage and scene with him again. If the two of you are not mate-compatable, then occasional scene partners may be your lot.

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RE: Mind twisted around - 11/6/2007 5:30:19 AM   
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Talk to RRafe. Ask him his take on this. I have problems separating feelings of intimacy and play (it sounds like you are having feelings for this Dom based on the scene). Talk to this Dom before you "follow him home" (to steal RRafe's phrase) or before you start torturing yourself by playing and holding on to something unrequieted. (You never know, maybe you'll wind up with a cool dynamic ... then again ... he might just be an awesome Top.)

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RE: Mind twisted around - 11/6/2007 10:13:48 AM   
Celeste43


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Now you know what you're looking for. Congratulations on learning what works for you.

Start talking with this dom and see if he's looking for the same kind of relationship you are. If he is, talk further to see if you're compatible. If yes, great, time to start dating. If not, also great, time to start talking to others to find one who can do it for you.

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RE: Mind twisted around - 11/6/2007 5:38:06 PM   
RRafe


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quote:

ORIGINAL: deliciousmorsel

Think play party, several sub girls all goofy on violet wand play, A very attractive visiting Dom is warming up his Florentine on an empty cross, so the conversation goes "He's hot!" "Past hot, I don't have the words..." me- "pity to waste that fine leather handling on an empty cross, when he could be making me scream" (this was facsetious) Next girl walks off and has a chat with Hot Dom.
Before I know it I'm over there negotiataing. Or actually, just telling my hard limits before I'm told to strip (in that Voice) and I wasn't even cuffed and clipped on, just holding the chains across the top.

It was even better than one would think, but this Dom is an aquaintance, a great guy, but still, this was my second ever trip to the cross, I had an intensely deep erotic experience that really finished exploding in my head a few days later, I was in the grocery store when this bomb went off.
What does one do with something like this? Sir got up inside my head! And that was nice at first, he imposed much needed order on my universe, left me quite purple, and in my place. It's really hard for single submissives to get this. But if anything I almost hope to never come across this man again but I will. I'd never heard this roar of the Dominant before. This was not at all sexual, but extremely erotic, very intimate.
So what do I do with this?

 
Casual play can be really difficult after the fact. Especially if the top and you just took it as such,and he didn't think to warn you about what might happen. The fact that we Tops tend to take control goes beyond just the body. The fact that we have confidence in tripping triggers is really just an instinct we develop with practice. In my expereince,I just play casually for fun-I look at a person as an instrument I am learning. There is a degree of arrogance on my part in doing that. Probably stems from my tendency to objectify-when I should know better.
 
In tis case,someone with skill took you to a place that you had not been before..And you developed an infatuation with the newness of it. I would suggest you call him and let him know what is going on.

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RE: Mind twisted around - 11/6/2007 9:25:13 PM   
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Mostly take responsibility as an adult for your choices and their consequences.  Seek your bliss- not your next high.

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RE: Mind twisted around - 11/6/2007 11:36:06 PM   
deliciousmorsel


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Thank you all, and thank You Rafe Sir. There's absolutely no way I could call this man up; It will have to wait until an in person opportunity. If I had just screwed some stranger in the coat closet at a cocktail party I'd be over it- but this is something completely different. I had no idea how revealing this could be. Shedding clothes? Big deal. Having someone rattle the dark places in my brain has been overwhelming.
And yes, Awesome is a good word. I just need to get to know people pretty well first and that's how I work, apparently.



< Message edited by deliciousmorsel -- 11/6/2007 11:43:59 PM >

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RE: Mind twisted around - 11/6/2007 11:51:34 PM   
RRafe


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Wall breaking.

Something intense enough to create an opening for something to come up into the conscious mind, from below.  Enjoy the feeling, and realize-that door is still ajar. There is more in there still.

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