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Straight vs. Bisexual Dommes - 11/6/2007 4:58:37 AM

Cissykay1999

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My time on collarme has been spent seeking a domme, but I have, in the past, limited my search to straight women. Since I am straight, I thought that it would be a waste of time to look outside my genre.
My question is, are bisexual women interested in straight male subs? I have no interest in being with other men, so does that pose a problem for dommes? Any advice I can get will be helpful.

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RE: Straight vs. Bisexual Dommes - 11/6/2007 5:25:56 AM

Lashra

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I am bisexual but that doesn't mean that my sub would need to be. I have never had a bi sub before so I don't know if I would find the guy-on-guy hot or not, but I know I would want him to find ME hot.

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RE: Straight vs. Bisexual Dommes - 11/6/2007 5:59:13 AM

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Lashra,
Thank you for the comments. Somehow I don't think you've ever had the problem of a man not finding you "hot" judging from the photo.

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RE: Straight vs. Bisexual Dommes - 11/6/2007 6:00:16 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Cissykay1999

My time on collarme has been spent seeking a domme, but I have, in the past, limited my search to straight women. Since I am straight, I thought that it would be a waste of time to look outside my genre.
My question is, are bisexual women interested in straight male subs? I have no interest in being with other men, so does that pose a problem for dommes? Any advice I can get will be helpful.

*blinks* I'm not sure I understand your question.

A bisexual woman likes men and women. It doesn't mean she forces bisexuality on others. Of course they like straight men. It's not like a gay man will do anything for her?!?!?!

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RE: Straight vs. Bisexual Dommes - 11/6/2007 6:34:46 AM

MissAndry

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lol I dont care if my male sub is bi or straight as long as he is obedient
the majority of my male subs are straight, for some reason they seem to find the idea of a bi Domme hot? not sure why possibly to do with the fantasies of multiple domme scenes? (in their tiny little minds lol not reality hehe oh no. well maybe... but that doesnt mean id let them watch. hehe.)
seriously I have no idea WHY they find bi Dommes hot at ALL. can you think of any ideas? As long as they serve well I dont really care :)

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RE: Straight vs. Bisexual Dommes - 11/6/2007 6:39:06 AM

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I'm bi, I don't see a reason why I wouldn't be interested in a straight male sub.

By the way being bisexual just means that I'm attracted to both men and women, and it also has nothing to do with my desire for monogamous relationship.

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RE: Straight vs. Bisexual Dommes - 11/6/2007 6:40:14 AM

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What difference would it possibly make?

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RE: Straight vs. Bisexual Dommes - 11/6/2007 6:44:07 AM

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What difference would it possibly make?

I can see you got a lot to learn. By example, it could affect the wine that is served; how the napkins are folded, that type of thing.......whoo hooo.....thought you had more class than that.

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RE: Straight vs. Bisexual Dommes - 11/6/2007 7:13:01 AM

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I have found that most bi-sexual submissives actually want and hope to find a Mistress who will literally arrange for them to have sex with other men. The straight submissives seem to be the minority, in my experience.

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RE: Straight vs. Bisexual Dommes - 11/6/2007 8:04:54 AM

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Mystress Dream,
Thank you very much for your reply. I don't look at male or other submissive's profiles, so I find your observation fascinating. I actually was of a different opinion. I thought most male submissives were looking for a Domme and not for a male relationship, or session.
I will take a chance on opening a new can of worms here, but I've fantisized of being forced to do as a Mistress pleased. That's why I get nervous when asked if I'd accept a scene with another man. I know many will say it can't be forced if it's what you want.
On a personal note, your eyes are riviting. They say dominant and in charge.

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RE: Straight vs. Bisexual Dommes - 11/6/2007 8:27:56 AM

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Ok... I think I better expound on my short answer entered earlier.... before someone calls me to task over the comment. <grin>

First of all, I am straight. I am looking for a straight male slave/submissive.

In my experience, straight male slave/submissives have been hard to find. The majority who I meet in real time, and online are bi-sexual.... or, say they are.

I have never dismissed anyone or refused to converse with them based on that. However, the majority of the time, eventually, the conversation gets around to their "need and desire" to be "forced" to have sex with another man. Followed by, "You would arrange this for your slave, right, Ma'am?"

My answer is no. First of all, I hate that "forced" crap. You can't be "forced" to do something you want to do anyway. Requesting that it be done kind of blows the whole "I must be forced" thing out the window, doesn't it? Same thing with "forced feminization". Face it... you want to do it.... therefore it is not a "forced" thing. That would make it non-consentual anyway.

I have also had contact with many males on here who list themselves as bi-sexual and then say they are not. They have said they put that on their profiles because it's what "all Dommes" are looking for. Then I ask them why they would lie about it, and they say, "Well, it gets some of them talking to me." So much for starting out on a basis of trust and honesty.

Guess what, guys? I don't really care if you are bi-sexual, as long as you can put your desires for having sex with men aside if you wear my collar. I have nothing against bi-sexual pleasures whatsoever, it's just not my thing. I have observed it, and it does nothing for me. Doesn't make it wrong.... just doesn't make it something I would be wanting to orchestrate in my life. Part of that is because I require an exclusive sexual relationship with a slave. Just me... <shrug>

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RE: Straight vs. Bisexual Dommes - 11/6/2007 8:29:10 AM

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Thank you for the compliment, Cissykay.

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RE: Straight vs. Bisexual Dommes - 11/6/2007 9:26:58 AM

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I am a straight male slave. My Owner is bisexual. Her other pet is also a straight male. Her sexuality really never comes up in my mind until she mentions something about it. It's really a non-issue to me.

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RE: Straight vs. Bisexual Dommes - 11/6/2007 9:54:55 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MystressDream

I have found that most bi-sexual submissives actually want and hope to find a Mistress who will literally arrange for them to have sex with other men. The straight submissives seem to be the minority, in my experience.

Wow-- I've never heard that opinion before. I guess that makes straight males subs rare and valuable, right? :)
(bone throwing encouraged and thankfully received)

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RE: Straight vs. Bisexual Dommes - 11/6/2007 10:07:07 AM

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Why in the world do you consider someone's sexuality -especially so long as it includes your sex- a genre?

Why in the world would someone bisexual NOT be interested in someone straight?

Shortly stated: Two bisexuals standing next to one another are going to each have their very own interests in a partner. Just like heterosexual people.

Edited to add: For that matter, stand two dommes next to one another and regardless of their sexualities they're each going to have thier own preferences in a sub.

< Message edited by RumpusParable -- 11/6/2007 10:10:42 AM >

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RE: Straight vs. Bisexual Dommes - 11/6/2007 11:07:32 AM

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As in ALL my posts.... I can only base my opinions on my past experiences. They are certainly NOT the norm for many or even most others. All we can do is comment on what we have found or not found.

IMO, yes.... a straight submissive/slave... one that is AVAILABLE... is rare. <grin>

Also, please keep in mind, I am looking for a one on one life comittment type of relationship. Not poly... not just play.

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RE: Straight vs. Bisexual Dommes - 11/6/2007 11:33:12 AM

Aimtoplease101

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Well there you go then, we're all agreed!

And I concur about the eyes.

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RE: Straight vs. Bisexual Dommes - 11/6/2007 11:45:36 AM

Cissykay1999

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Dear Rumpus,
My question was intended to get information. I would think a relationship between a straight male and a bisexual female could be wonderful. What scared me until I posted this thread was that a bisexual domme might want a sub to be with another man for any number of reasons. I am learning that that isn't the case in most dommes. My mistake.

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RE: Straight vs. Bisexual Dommes - 11/6/2007 12:09:43 PM

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It's been my experience that looking at Domme profiles on this site, most of the ones listed as Bi are looking for female submissives or couples only.

I'm not saying this is right or wrong, after all, I'm owned by a Bi Female couple, just that it seems like any Domme listed as Bi are looking for females.

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RE: Straight vs. Bisexual Dommes - 11/6/2007 1:41:44 PM

Cissykay1999

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subrob,
I disagree. Most of the profiles I've read are dommes that want a male submissive or slave. Each has their own definition of submissive and slave, and those can differ widely. As a male submissive, I wish it were clearer as to the difference between sub and slave. My intent in posting this thread was to gain insight from dominant women as to what they want from a submissive in reference to sexuality, or in this case, bisexuality. I think as a straight male, I am at a disadvantage at times when contacting a bisexual domme.

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