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Being punished - 11/6/2007 10:28:57 AM   
southernhart


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Status: offline 		how do you feel when Your Mistress or Master has to punish you severely for something you have done wrong. This question is for people not into pain. How do you feel before during and after and are there any hard feelings?
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RE: Being punished - 11/6/2007 10:50:58 AM   
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ORIGINAL: southernhart

how do you feel when Your Mistress or Master has to punish you severely for something you have done wrong. This question is for people not into pain. How do you feel before during and after and are there any hard feelings?


 I won't waffle on about the *punishment doesn't have to be about physical pain* because I'm fairly sure there'll be a plethora of those. I DO happen to be punished this way, though it's been rare.


Before; Disappointed with myself, and dread.

During; Not much beyond the agony and the fact that I'm there until it ends.

After; Thankful that it's over, dealt with, done.

Hard feelings?.......I had some toward myself, yes. If you mean hard feelings toward him for beating me; nope, none whatsoever.

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RE: Being punished - 11/6/2007 10:58:29 AM   
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ORIGINAL: southernhart

how do you feel when Your Mistress or Master has to punish you severely for something you have done wrong. This question is for people not into pain. How do you feel before during and after and are there any hard feelings?



Before; Disappointed with myself, and dread.

During; Not much beyond the agony and the fact that I'm there until it ends.

After; Thankful that it's over, dealt with, done.

Hard feelings?.......I had some toward myself, yes. If you mean hard feelings toward him for beating me; nope, none whatsoever.

agirl


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RE: Being punished - 11/6/2007 12:51:59 PM   
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Status: offline 		Before...shame and feeling i have let someone down
During...accepting the punishment/pain and concentrating on my mistake.
After...relief the agony is over and determination not to repeat .

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RE: Being punished - 11/6/2007 1:09:40 PM   
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Before...shame and feeling i have let someone down
During...accepting the punishment/pain and concentrating on my mistake.
After...relief the agony is over and determination not to repeat .


I echo this and will add, especially for punishments of the physical pain variety, a big part of the punishment factor for me is the penance and after the punishment my Master has forgiven me so I do not dwell on the disappointing my Master part but can move on and work on trying not to repeat a mistake.

I am not a pain equal pleasure gal so I tend to favor physical pain for punishment particularly because I respond very well to it and the actual event and atmosphere around it, for me personally, creates the penance and forgiveness vibe at a much higher level then other types of punishments.


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RE: Being punished - 11/6/2007 6:36:25 PM   
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Status: offline 		Before ashamed and a little scared during  please let it end soon after contentment because i am in his arms and know all is forgiven if noy forgotton.  It is for sure not  forgotten by me.   Only happened once but that was MORE than enough.

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RE: Being punished - 11/6/2007 9:50:13 PM   
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I am not a pain equal pleasure gal so I tend to favor physical pain for punishment particularly because I respond very well to it and the actual event and atmosphere around it, for me personally, creates the penance and forgiveness vibe at a much higher level then other types of punishments.



I think there is something cathartic about corporal punishment.  It's swift and brutal, its painful and its releasing.  As the physical welts heal, so to do the emotional ones.


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RE: Being punished - 11/6/2007 10:09:57 PM   
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RE: Being punished - 11/6/2007 10:46:28 PM   
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ORIGINAL: southernhart

how do you feel when Your Mistress or Master has to punish you severely for something you have done wrong. This question is for people not into pain. How do you feel before during and after and are there any hard feelings?


well, personally speaking, i'd feel that it was time for me to look for a new master, because if it got sooooooo bad between us that they felt the need to punish me in the first place, let alone, severly(whatever that's supposed to mean), then we shouldn't be in the relationship at all...

i'm a big girl; i don't do 'punishment dynamics' in my relationships, and quite frankly speaking, the whole punishment/attonement thing reeks more like religious dealings then relationship dealings to me.

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RE: Being punished - 11/6/2007 10:49:34 PM   
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ORIGINAL: southernhart

how do you feel when Your Mistress or Master has to punish you severely for something you have done wrong. This question is for people not into pain. How do you feel before during and after and are there any hard feelings?

i know you limited this question to only those who are "not into pain."  But, just because i am "into pain" doesn't mean that it doesn't hurt and it doesn't mean that i enjoy being punished. 
 
i do enjoy feeling the pain inflicted by my Master for His sadistic pleasure but, i still tense up as i anticipate each blow and i still cry and scream and jump and cringe when i'm struck and i still feel relief when my Master lets me know that He's finished.  And, then i thank Him and i go look in the mirror to see the marks He has placed on me.
 
There are never any hard feelings toward my Master.  i kiss the ground He walks on.  He gives me the life that i have always dreamed of and i have only feelings of gratitude and adoration for Him.  Even when He is making me cry, i have a smile in my heart for all that He is and all that He allows me to be and all that Wwe have together.
 
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RE: Being punished - 11/6/2007 10:53:35 PM   
RRafe


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ORIGINAL: MidnightMaiden

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ORIGINAL: toservez

I am not a pain equal pleasure gal so I tend to favor physical pain for punishment particularly because I respond very well to it and the actual event and atmosphere around it, for me personally, creates the penance and forgiveness vibe at a much higher level then other types of punishments.



I think there is something cathartic about corporal punishment.  It's swift and brutal, its painful and its releasing.  As the physical welts heal, so to do the emotional ones.




This is where you views and mine vary. I want someone to suffer for her crimes. I want her to feel guilt over it. I want her to feel that worm twisting in her gut enough to elicit CHANGES in her thinking and actions.

And I make it clear, there will be no atonement-there will be no quick fixes. I expect to see results-not a dodging of the issues that made the problems to begin with..

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RE: Being punished - 11/7/2007 12:33:12 AM   
MidnightMaiden


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This is where you views and mine vary. I want someone to suffer for her crimes. I want her to feel guilt over it. I want her to feel that worm twisting in her gut enough to elicit CHANGES in her thinking and actions.

And I make it clear, there will be no atonement-there will be no quick fixes. I expect to see results-not a dodging of the issues that made the problems to begin with..


Greetings Rrafe, I do enjoy your posts so much, I have learnt a lot from reading them :)

I have not yet needed punishment, but mostly I guess because he is patient with me and I am just beginning my training, not that I believe I have disobeyed him at all, ever, but I do have a bit of a mouth on me.  Yes, he smacks the sass right out of me, he named me Sassi for a good reason, but my ideals and his are well matched.  When I need to be punished Master says he will set me lines.  Very long lines, 100 times, supervised, like a written mantra of my crime.  Whilst I can think of better things to do with my time it doesnt sound totally abhorrent to me either.  I may, however, think differently when my hand is so cramped with pain I can't see through the tears?  Who knows.  Perhaps I should just behave and never need to be punished?  Sounds like the best course of action to me




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RE: Being punished - 11/7/2007 1:25:38 AM   
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Status: offline 		If I deserved it..I'd either feels ashamed at failing to please him or just grateful to be learning a lesson. Restriction tends to work on me.

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RE: Being punished - 11/7/2007 1:51:24 AM   
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Status: offline 		For me, being punished is cleansing and it tells me my Master cares enough to want to correct the action and cares enough for me to invest HIS time and energy to make me a better version of myself. 

Nowadays people find it way to easy to just walk away from a relationship.  It's strange to me because a parent doesn't disown their ums for making mistakes or even willful disobedience.  A man doesn't shoot his dog for making a mess on the rug.  A man doesn't junk his car for needing a repair.  Punishment is a whole lot better than banishment.

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RE: Being punished - 11/7/2007 3:25:10 AM   
southernhart


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Status: offline 		This question was posted to subs. mistress's and Masters. So why would i only post it once on the sub page? i wanted to get opinions from all. if i had done something wrong the moderators would have deleted my posts. Which they have not So before you start acusing people of bad manners. Remember it is bad mnanners to make a judegment call when you don't know what you're talking about.

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RE: Being punished - 11/7/2007 3:28:58 AM   
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RE: Being punished - 11/7/2007 3:54:42 AM   
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Status: offline 		We're all human, we all make mistakes.  I dislike the concept of 'punishment'.  I don't need to be punished like some errant child.  Knowing that I did something wrong, being told what I did wrong, and wroking on not doing it again are quite sufficient.  As for physical punishments?  It takes NO cleverness to think of those.  Anyone can beat someone for doing something wrong/incorrect...and, well, I don't really see that much is actually learned.  ANYone can strike someone else.  It takes a clever dom to find a better 'punishment' (if that's your thing).  And, finally, doms screw up too.  Sure, this is a relationship based on assumed inequalities, but frankly, when a genuine screw-up occurs on either end, I think really all that's needed is a genuine 'I'm sorry'.  If it's such a mess-up that it requires 'punishment'...maybe a reassessment of the relationship should be had.  *shrug*

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Eyes opened - 11/7/2007 5:26:40 AM   
southernhart


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RE: being punished - 11/7/2007 6:15:50 AM   
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I believe the poster was trying to point out to you that if you have a question you want everyone of all orientations to answer, then its in the forum guidelines not to repeat post the same subject in seperate forums, but just ask in the general or accept that all orientations will answer, regardless of where you post, especially if you request all answers to come from a mixture.  She was simply trying to be of assistance.
 
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RE: Being punished - 11/7/2007 6:31:07 AM   
agirl


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We're all human, we all make mistakes.  I dislike the concept of 'punishment'.  I don't need to be punished like some errant child.  Knowing that I did something wrong, being told what I did wrong, and wroking on not doing it again are quite sufficient.  As for physical punishments?  It takes NO cleverness to think of those.  Anyone can beat someone for doing something wrong/incorrect...and, well, I don't really see that much is actually learned.  ANYone can strike someone else.  It takes a clever dom to find a better 'punishment' (if that's your thing).  And, finally, doms screw up too.  Sure, this is a relationship based on assumed inequalities, but frankly, when a genuine screw-up occurs on either end, I think really all that's needed is a genuine 'I'm sorry'.  If it's such a mess-up that it requires 'punishment'...maybe a reassessment of the relationship should be had.  *shrug*




"It takes a clever dom to find a better punishment".......For some *clever* doms, that's exactly what they've done. It's not something you'd entertain but for some people, it's there, it works, it's positive and all's well in the herb garden.










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