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ORIGINAL: EvilGenie



It is not easy by far, however, long before this my Domination was established. There is no worry that he will not act in accordance with what I have set out for him and the way in which he KNOWS I expect him to behave. That being said, until we are living together in March, the distance is something which we both suffer and endure.

Be Well,

EG

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ORIGINAL: MisPandora

Perhaps it's just me and my incredibly suspicious nature, but this feels to me like a creative quest to get someone to satiate your kink desires through an email exchange rather than a sincere "research project" for the purpose of authoring a novel. After all, your title of post is "long distance mistress" and not "assistance needed for novel". Hmmmmm.

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ORIGINAL: MsCfromMelbourne

curiouswriter, I notice that you are a female Dominant.

Perhaps go to Ask a Submissive and ask subs what letters/email they have received in real life from women they have never met in person and what was a real turn on (and why). They might be kind enough to forward you copies of the original

Then perhaps filter the raw material to appeal more to mainstream female than male sexuality (assuming your target readership is female)

Sorry I cannot help more. I don't do long distance, anonymous, paid or online D/s, so I don't have any suggestions. Perhaps search "online training" or "online Domination" here and see what its proponents have to say about their practices.

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ORIGINAL: AFlyInYourWeb

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ORIGINAL: curiouswriter

What I need help with is what sorts of letters would she send? How can I portray this realistically -- what would you do if you had a long-distance or rather non face to face relationship? I know it makes a difference if she is doing this as a job, not for her own personal pleasure.

I'll make a radical proposal: try domming one or more male subs in a LDR yourself. The best research is first-hand experience.

I guarantee that if you put all this into your profile, and added a provocative picture [not necessary to show your face], you would probably have a half-dozen on-line subs within a fortnight.

You'll need to do a little research on becoming a FemDom. I recommend Akasha's website [see her post above] and Elise Sutton's site for starters.

TO BE CLEAR: I am not suggesting that you deceive anyone. Put it right in your profile that you want on-line only, and you are looking to dominate them as part of your research for a book.

If all that I've read from Dominas on this Message Board about male subs is accurate, you'll be flooded with applications in spite of your disclaimer. You'll get your first-hand reserach material, and, if you do it right, the subs will get wank fodder in exchange.

Quid pro quo.

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ORIGINAL: bipolarber

My question is: why would your fictional Domme not be able to verify if her sub has complied with her commands or not? This is the 21st century, after all. A webcam costs about $20. A hub for multiple cams runs about $60... so, she could send him a package in the mail for about $140, with enough equipment to keep him under surveilance 24/7... and he'd never know when/if she was watching him. When he is home, he is hers.

Just a thought.

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ORIGINAL: curiouswriter

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ORIGINAL: MsCfromMelbourne

curiouswriter, I notice that you are a female Dominant.

Perhaps go to Ask a Submissive and ask subs what letters/email they have received in real life from women they have never met in person and what was a real turn on (and why). They might be kind enough to forward you copies of the original

Then perhaps filter the raw material to appeal more to mainstream female than male sexuality (assuming your target readership is female)

Sorry I cannot help more. I don't do long distance, anonymous, paid or online D/s, so I don't have any suggestions. Perhaps search "online training" or "online Domination" here and see what its proponents have to say about their practices.

Thanks for the excellent suggestion. My target reading audience IS female -- I thought by asking a mistress I could find out what they like to do for their submissives, but I will ask in the submissive forum as well. I want to know why they like it and do it, too. ;)

M