Do looks matter less in D/s?

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shootingstar67 -> Do looks matter less in D/s? (11/6/2007 11:26:07 AM)
I heard a rumor. I heard that while pulchritude is extremely important to the vanilla male, it is less important to the D/s male. Do you think this is generally true? How true do you think this is for you? There are so many beautiful women on this site.would you pursue an average looking female over a beautiful one less who is less combatible with you (or not interested)and if so would you end up valuing her/loving her less because of her appearence?

wintersbreath -> RE: Do looks matter less in D/s? (11/6/2007 11:42:32 AM)
Not a male [8D], but I can say with absolute certainty that looks and being healthy matter very much to me.

batshalom -> RE: Do looks matter less in D/s? (11/6/2007 11:49:36 AM)
Compatibility makes the man beautiful to me regardless if his looks would be considered traditionally or clasically handsome. Aba is adorable, always thought so, but more and more so the longer I know him. With partners of all flavors I have noticed, for example how beautiful a particular expression, or admired the line of his nose or the fullness of his lips. I have not been with one single man who did not hold great allure to me in some way, even if in unique ways; and those seemingly little attractions built on themselves until (the collective) he was the most handsome man in the world.

MistressSandra2U -> RE: Do looks matter less in D/s? (11/6/2007 11:53:29 AM)
I'd rather be with an "unattractive" person with innovative ideas and enthusiasm than a beautiful, bored person.

RRafe -> RE: Do looks matter less in D/s? (11/6/2007 11:56:06 AM)
Hell no, walruses don't turn me on.

Mercnbeth -> RE: Do looks matter less in D/s? (11/6/2007 12:07:14 PM)
quote: I heard a rumor. I heard that while pulchritude is extremely important to the vanilla male, it is less important to the D/s male. Do you think this is generally true? A question asking for an absolute answer. Striving to speak in 'absolutes' I'd say it absolutely depends. It depends on your goal. Seeking primarily an outlet for sadistic desires or fantasies - "looks" are not a priority. Seeking a partner for yourself at an 'S&M' (using the 'stand & model' reference) gathering or event and looks and/or "looking good" takes precedence. Relationships tend to, or at least should, be appearance neutral assuming that the people involved appreciate the reality that as good, or bad, as either look in the present, they are subject to change in the future. The reality is, the flavor of the interaction may not be 'vanilla' but the initial contact is no different. Where looks are on the priority list is very much a function of the overall agenda. If there is one "rule" it is, regardless of person's self image of their appearance, there is a "paddle for every ass" wanting to experience the 'life' or its 'style'.

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: Do looks matter less in D/s? (11/6/2007 12:14:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: batshalom Compatibility makes the man beautiful to me regardless if his looks would be considered traditionally or clasically handsome. ditto

daddyncherry -> RE: Do looks matter less in D/s? (11/6/2007 12:31:40 PM)
Looks matter to me, i'd be lying to say they don't. i have certain physical qualities that i find more pleasing than others. i also try my damndest to look my best as often as possible....i try to never really let myself go etc. But, that being said...i'd take someone who i was less attracted to physically who was Dominant over someone vanilla and more my physical type.

shootingstar67 -> RE: Do looks matter less in D/s? (11/6/2007 12:35:06 PM)
Hmmm a question posted to Masters...48 hits and 6 answers. Pleading the fifth here guys? (btw ty[sm=smile.gif] to everyone who posted so far)

TotalState -> RE: Do looks matter less in D/s? (11/6/2007 12:39:15 PM)
From what I can tell, it's about the same for D/s and vanilla. Some people are more concerned with looks than compatiblity, and some people aren't. Happily, my sub is both compatible with me and beautiful, so I don't have to make that choice.

toservez -> RE: Do looks matter less in D/s? (11/6/2007 12:49:36 PM)
People in this life have the same issues/preferences then anyone else. So no, this life the people are not any different in how they see physical beauty. Some does not matter at all, for some it matters more then anything to a big detriment and for most it is part of the overall compatibility but not quite something we could tangibly describe.

shootingstar67 -> RE: Do looks matter less in D/s? (11/6/2007 1:03:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: toservez People in this life have the same issues/preferences then anyone else. So no, this life the people are not any different in how they see physical beauty. Some does not matter at all, for some it matters more then anything to a big detriment and for most it is part of the overall compatibility but not quite something we could tangibly describe. Yeah. Maybe the people who are saying that tend to generalize more. It is just I have heard from people who said the lifestyle helped them accept their phyical flaws because a perfect body tended to matter less. Actually I read it on the web somewhere. And then a second generation slave who used to be my mentor kept saying that too.

MsterStoney442 -> RE: Do looks matter less in D/s? (11/6/2007 1:05:46 PM)
Would rather be with one thas fit . Then with one that looks like a wale just my opinion

shootingstar67 -> RE: Do looks matter less in D/s? (11/6/2007 1:06:09 PM)
BTW how many posts do I have to make before I get a paddle or handcuff...

mnottertail -> RE: Do looks matter less in D/s? (11/6/2007 1:08:02 PM)
click on the gold about an icecream at the bottom of this post

shootingstar67 -> RE: Do looks matter less in D/s? (11/6/2007 1:11:31 PM)
Thank you! [:D]

toservez -> RE: Do looks matter less in D/s? (11/6/2007 1:18:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: shootingstar67 quote: ORIGINAL: toservez People in this life have the same issues/preferences then anyone else. So no, this life the people are not any different in how they see physical beauty. Some does not matter at all, for some it matters more then anything to a big detriment and for most it is part of the overall compatibility but not quite something we could tangibly describe. Yeah. Maybe the people who are saying that tend to generalize more. It is just I have heard from people who said the lifestyle helped them accept their phyical flaws because a perfect body tended to matter less. Actually I read it on the web somewhere. And then a second generation slave who used to be my mentor kept saying that too. People in this life are like most others and for some that means taking qualities/preferences that they like about themselves and making them nobler through fancier words or theories that this life can offer up. At the same time minimalize things they do not like about themselves the same way. I think though most of this happens to anyone it is that they found their best path to travel and a bit of over romanticizing happens, very natural thing to do. It is classic human behavior of wanting to feel special/better then others.

RRafe -> RE: Do looks matter less in D/s? (11/6/2007 1:21:48 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: toservez quote: ORIGINAL: shootingstar67 quote: ORIGINAL: toservez People in this life have the same issues/preferences then anyone else. So no, this life the people are not any different in how they see physical beauty. Some does not matter at all, for some it matters more then anything to a big detriment and for most it is part of the overall compatibility but not quite something we could tangibly describe. Yeah. Maybe the people who are saying that tend to generalize more. It is just I have heard from people who said the lifestyle helped them accept their phyical flaws because a perfect body tended to matter less. Actually I read it on the web somewhere. And then a second generation slave who used to be my mentor kept saying that too. People in this life are like most others and for some that means taking qualities/preferences that they like about themselves and making them nobler through fancier words or theories that this life can offer up. At the same time minimalize things they do not like about themselves the same way. I think though most of this happens to anyone it is that they found their best path to travel and a bit of over romanticizing happens, very natural thing to do. It is classic human behavior of wanting to feel special/better then others. Add to that,that many in places like this live in a fantasy world-where everyone should be acceptable as desirable and wonderful-no matter what. Then assholes like me come along and spoil it all-by refusing to be disingenuous.[:D]

ultimatesubbie -> RE: Do looks matter less in D/s? (11/6/2007 1:27:20 PM)
I think it's a matter of personal preference. Initially, attraction is important. We all want to feel that tug in our belly. But, this is relative. What may be attractive to me may not be to others. I have been with some men whom my daughter or my gf would say is not attractive but, to me, they were very handsome. Also, the physical appearance becomes more enticing once I know the person underneath. And, I think it has nothing to do with being D/s......

biracalsub4wmDom -> RE: Do looks matter less in D/s? (11/6/2007 1:29:22 PM)
For me, if I'm going to be in a romantic or physical relationship with a man, I do want him to be attractive. At least attractive to me. I don't really care if others find him attractive, as long as he looks good to me.

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