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Action -> Slave Journals (11/8/2007 1:30:39 AM)
Dear Everyone, I've always been a fan of having my slaves keep a daily journal of thier activies, thier sessions with me, and keeping tabs if they are a chastity slave how well my locked cock is doing. Its always been an intergal part of my training of slaves, I find it extremely usefull for keeping a constant conection with them, also Im a proud Miss and love to showcase off my well trained slaves this way so others can see thier progress with me in this medium. Does anyone else do this, and would love to hear your thoughts on it as a training tool. -Lil Miss Action PS: Anyone who's curious check out my Chastity Slave's journal for a great example his profile name is: lockmeupplease

alittlebent -> RE: Slave Journals (11/8/2007 3:53:51 AM)
Action, Ma'am, i am a chastity slave serving Lady Zara. i am required to keep a 360 blog of my emotions and feelings in 24/7 chastity. This has to be done at least once a week...more often if i feel it necessary. Anything i write is ok, and is to never be held against me. Respectfully submitted, razi

MRandme -> RE: Slave Journals (11/8/2007 4:40:32 AM)
Writing is something i do as a hobby. Being required to write is a sure way to block any creative process at all. i do have a journal, online, that only my Master and i can access. i am not required to post in it, but it is there if i want to explore my thoughts and feelings. i can put anything i like in it -- how i felt during our last session, things that are bothering, what i'd like to experience or just smutty bits that pop into my head. He reads it at his leisure. As alittlebent said, anything i write in there is fair game. i won't be punished for it as long as i am not insulting or disrespectful in my tone. He said writing "Master is a poopyhead" will result in an unpleasant response... LOL. i feel is it a good tool for communication, especially for those who do not enjoy a 24/7 relationship. However, not all people are especially good at communicating in writing. For some, it could qualify as a punishment... for the Master/Mistress if the spelling or grammar is bad enough grin. It isn't for everyone. g

LadyPact -> RE: Slave Journals (11/8/2007 5:09:04 AM)
While I'm in agreement that journaling is a wonderful tool, I wouldn't be willing to share it with others. I think it should be something that only he and I have access to. If there were more than just Me reading it, I'm not sure it would produce the same result. Journaling is something new for My sub, so he's still getting used to it. For the most part, he's better at recounting the events of the day, but not as much with his thoughts and feelings on them. It's something I've been meaning to discuss with him very soon, as I'd like it to be as effective as possible. Of course, as someone mentioned above, there are no reprisals for anything he writes. I'm hoping that, as he gets more comfortable in the task, he will be able to open up a bit more.

thetammyjo -> RE: Slave Journals (11/8/2007 5:51:57 AM)
I do journaling during training but so far no one has wanted or needed to keep that up once we moved on to owner-slave dynamics. At that point I'm perfectly fine with my slave keeping his/her own journal but I don't want to read it any more. Fox and I tried a few years ago to do a joint journal but actually found that for us it hurt our communication not helped it. So we quit it and went back to talking face to face.

Oumae -> RE: Slave Journals (11/8/2007 5:52:35 AM)
I have used it with subs who found it hard to express themselves verbally, they used their journals for sorting out thoughts. They also were able to look back and see how far they had come in understanding themselves. Oumae

aviinterra -> RE: Slave Journals (11/8/2007 8:11:18 AM)
I tend to be controlling, so I regulate what is in my sub's room. Putting a blank journal among the books, without any orders or instructions, has proved interesting- sometimes it was used as a journal, othertimes not. -Avi

AFlyInYourWeb -> RE: Slave Journals (11/8/2007 1:17:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: thetammyjo I do journaling during training but so far no one has wanted or needed to keep that up once we moved on to owner-slave dynamics. In my experience, that is how it has usually worked. I agree that it is a great "intelligence gathering" tool for the Domina in the early stages of a relationship, but at some point she should have gathered all the information she may find useful. From my personal prospective as a submissive, I find it a useful way in the opening chapters of a relationship to express feelings and thoughts to her without worrying about "topping from the bottom". After all, I usually don't know if she has read any particular entry or not, and she certainly is under no obligation to comment upon - much less act upon - anything written in the journal. It is entirely hers to use or ignore, as she chooses. IMHO, that makes journaling a very submissive act of service to the Domina who has required the journal.

Shawn1066 -> RE: Slave Journals (11/8/2007 5:01:17 PM)
I do have a journal, but it's not one that my Owner forces me to write. It was my idea, actually...though she does remind me to update it lots now that I've started it. I mostly just use it to write stuff down. It's not strictly BDSM, but that's its main focus. It's on livejournal, and anybody randomly interested in reading it can feel free to message me or my Owner for a link. I find it's merely useful to keep a record of things. I like looking back and just reliving the memories. It's fun and it helps me get my thoughts together sometime.

Action -> RE: Slave Journals (11/8/2007 5:10:27 PM)
I think I failed to mention the reason I have my chastity slave keep a journal by part as a task is becuase he's a long distance slave. I can see in a regular face to face relation it wouldn't be as usefull and could break down communication. In my case with my long distance slave planned for very distanced visits, so knowing about his day, hearing his thoughts, even as a forced thing keeps us close becuase Im not always able to speak to him daily.

pantages -> RE: Slave Journals (11/9/2007 11:33:05 AM)
Do You keep him locked in a chstity device when you are away?

Action -> RE: Slave Journals (11/9/2007 11:37:53 AM)
Im a bit odd in my chastity training. I use a proper locking device as a final step in my training as a reward. I work though the mental disability of not touching with a little reminder of a cockring first and work upwards from there.

DiannaVesta -> RE: Slave Journals (11/9/2007 2:37:07 PM)
A journal can be a very useful tool especially if the mistress actually reads it to understand how the slave is feeling & its used constructively as a way to communicate feelings but should not replace talking about them.

unravel -> RE: Slave Journals (11/10/2007 4:00:03 AM)
As a submissive, i have had to keep a daily journal in the past. At first i was not sure of the intent, but i quickly realized it can be a wonderful tool for the Dominant to know the emotional state of Her submissive. The written word can go a long way in expressing one self at times. my journal was not shared with others though. So while on some days i "did not always feel like" writing an entry in the journal, i always did, because it served the purposes of my Dominant, and in addition i believe it made for a stronger bond between Her and i. i would recommend it for sure:) unravel

Action -> RE: Slave Journals (11/10/2007 5:14:35 AM)
Well said <3

MisPandora -> RE: Slave Journals (11/10/2007 8:44:22 AM)
While I enjoy the idea of journals, I don't find the male mind very dedicated to keeping one. Yes, it gives me something to punish for if he fails, but that's always been a bone of contention, one that I found wasn't worth going to battle over. Whether to have him write in a journal really needs to be based on the subject's personality. Some just aren't writers.

pixelslave -> RE: Slave Journals (11/10/2007 2:58:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Action Dear Everyone, I've always been a fan of having my slaves keep a daily journal of thier activies, thier sessions with me, and keeping tabs if they are a chastity slave how well my locked cock is doing. Its always been an intergal part of my training of slaves, I find it extremely usefull for keeping a constant conection with them, also Im a proud Miss and love to showcase off my well trained slaves this way so others can see thier progress with me in this medium. Does anyone else do this, and would love to hear your thoughts on it as a training tool. -Lil Miss Action PS: Anyone who's curious check out my Chastity Slave's journal for a great example his profile name is: lockmeupplease In your long distance relationship, having him keep a journal about his feelings and experiences as your sub in long distance chastity makes a great deal of sense. To me, his emotional state would seem like something you'd closely need to monitor. However, I think it should be private between the two of you to help him feel as though he can more freely express his feelings, which is often very difficult for men to do. [image]http://www.collarchat.com/micons/m23.gif[/image] We're conditioned from the time we're young boys not to express our feelings by the words "men don't say those things", "men don't cry", etc., etc. So, for men, getting in touch with our inner feelings about what's happening in our lives is often much more difficult for us than it is for women. However, I'm certain there are exceptions as there usually are with most things. [:)] I've kept journals off and on for years to keep track of events and explore my feelings on various topics of inner exploration. Most have not been used for sharing with a Mistress, so I can't particularly opine on that subject. I've also blogged a bit when I still had a profile on Alt. I found it rather cathartic when I had the time, but haven't done any blogging (or journalling) for over a year. [&:] I'll also say that having a sub write on particular subjects that interest you might be as helpful as having him keep a journal (you get information from him on his thoughts about subjects that interest you and more). If you don't like the quality or quantity of what he's written, you can always have him write more and tell him in which areas you'd like him to expound on his thoughts and feelings. There are things I've written of that sort on my own which I've shared with Mistresses and found it on numerous occations to be a positive experience that was mutually rewarding. Remember that what works for one, doesn't necessarily work for all. In my opinion, there's no magic formula that can be applied to all subs. Also, as an alternative suggestion, instead of writing, you could have your sub record his thoughts onto digital files/tapes or use software such as Dragon NaturallySpeaking to do the writing for him as he speaks into a microphone on his computer. [;)] - pixel Collared to Majik

SeraphinaKrow -> RE: Slave Journals (11/25/2007 9:17:29 PM)
I make it a requirement in my training to have a journal done every night. To me I can measure how my sub is reacting throughout each day. I assign other things as well to go along with the journaling, such as meditation and kneeling for a cetain period of time. Not only is this metal, physical, spiritual growth, but it is easier to keep track of my subs emotions. If I know that my sub is feeling down, I want to be able to comfort her, and same goes in any situation. Also, I want to be able to go back to previous journals and see how much my sub has grown, and it is also a reference for other things that might come up between us.

petpete -> RE: Slave Journals (11/28/2007 8:50:53 PM)
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RumpusParable -> RE: Slave Journals (11/28/2007 9:00:10 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Action Dear Everyone, I've always been a fan of having my slaves keep a daily journal of thier activies, thier sessions with me, and keeping tabs if they are a chastity slave how well my locked cock is doing. Its always been an intergal part of my training of slaves, I find it extremely usefull for keeping a constant conection with them, also Im a proud Miss and love to showcase off my well trained slaves this way so others can see thier progress with me in this medium. Does anyone else do this, and would love to hear your thoughts on it as a training tool. -Lil Miss Action PS: Anyone who's curious check out my Chastity Slave's journal for a great example his profile name is: lockmeupplease Yes. I, too, like to use journaling at times with a sub/slave. It helps to see how they're doing and let's you ge to know them better over time... it also helps them organize their thoughts and have something to look back on to see their progress in thoughts and actions over our time together.

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