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What's It about for you? - 11/9/2007 8:04:43 AM

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It's time for another one of these...

I will start.

For me, it's about the dynamic, the play, the fun, the excitement, and THE SEX!!!!!!!!!!! There's more in there, but this is good for a start.

And you?

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RE: What's It about for you? - 11/9/2007 8:10:03 AM

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Cheetos, Reeses, Dr Pepper, Submission, and of course, the Sex.

Not necessarily in that order.

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RE: What's It about for you? - 11/9/2007 8:14:24 AM

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The closeness, of belonging to someone else, the feeling of transgressing stupid societal "norms," the yummy food served in a bright shiny dog dish, the art of it, the imagination of it, and the sex. But mostly, it's for the feeling of belonging to someone I really like and admire.

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RE: What's It about for you? - 11/9/2007 8:27:12 AM

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BDSM puts total truth and meaning to the common platitude of "The eyes are the windows to the soul". Nowhere else can you see so much utter and uncontested devotion, commitment, love, self-sacrifice as in a collared girl's eyes. The facial expressions that complement the eyes of when she submerges into or emerges from her sub-space, the complete pleasure, joy and self-surrender during a hard and testing scene, the self-deprecation and mournful self-directed scorn expressed by the eyes as she kneels before me if/before/during/after her actions warranting my punishment.

Those eyes have it and express it all as to what is in it for her and what she is giving to me!

Oh yeah - and the sex is totally off the rocker, too!

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RE: What's It about for you? - 11/9/2007 8:27:42 AM

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Except for the dog dish part I like your post bipolarber.

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RE: What's It about for you? - 11/9/2007 8:50:38 AM

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The exchange- shared in energy , endorphines ,sweat,the look the smells ,Her touches ,the Whips Kiss ,the restriction , control exchange , power exchange , the trust i give and take in ,mental ride ,self discoveries, The gag thats cinched into my mouth yet i still get a smile and some kisses and bites through the gag .Its the closeness i feel in after care and in her care ."i just need to find her once again".Its the little things i can do for another to please them and the gifts they inturn give to me in return .(not talking presents with a bow). Its being in the company of others who also feel close to what you feel and often words are not needed just hugs support and a knowing smile .Constantly learning and sharing its the above and so much more for me .

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RE: What's It about for you? - 11/9/2007 8:50:53 AM

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For me, it is about the adrenaline rush, the thought that my otherwise normal man would break the norms of society just to possess me, that he will do whatever it takes to remind me that I am his, that each and every strike of hand, lash, belt or whip hightens the intensity of the orgasm that I finally get... when he chooses to let me have it.

It is about the mental vacation I get to take when I am in his ropes. I no longer have to organize anything, decide anything or think anything... I am his to do with as he pleases and that is very relaxing. It helps me to balance the demands on my otherwise busy life.

And of course, it is about the hot monkey sex too!

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RE: What's It about for you? - 11/9/2007 8:54:30 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: yourMissTress

It's time for another one of these...

I will start.

For me, it's about the dynamic, the play, the fun, the excitement, and THE SEX!!!!!!!!!!! There's more in there, but this is good for a start.

And you?

for me, it's not so much the dynamic as you speak it... for me, it's all about total and complete control from a person who is stronger both mentally and physically than I am; it's about his ability to physically and mentally control me, keep me centered, and in doing so, allow me to be exactly who I am. Once that is in place, all the rest just pales in comparison.

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RE: What's It about for you? - 11/9/2007 8:56:32 AM

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ORIGINAL: ItzKat
And of course, it is about the hot monkey sex too!

MMMMMMMM...hot monkey sex!

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RE: What's It about for you? - 11/9/2007 8:59:42 AM

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It's about all of those things for me too Tress. It's about finding someone else who wants all of those things also....someone who I am entirely free to just be who I am with and they are comfortable enough with me to just be who they are...someone who I can share the rest of my days with, explore and learn new things with. While I can do the casual thing, the play thing...it's not the long term goal. I'm a greedy bitch and I want it all.

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RE: What's It about for you? - 11/9/2007 9:10:17 AM

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Love, comfort, the incredible sense of being able to lay down my burdens and rest a while on his broad chest while knowing he welcomes me there for as long as I need. But the hot monkey sex is pretty awesome, too!

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RE: What's It about for you? - 11/9/2007 9:14:56 AM

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In keeping with the great philosophical depths of my own lifestyle, here are my three answers...

1) Getting my way which is the only way I want

2)Not having to listen to a girlfriend bitch and moan about how...
I am too bossy...
I am too controlling...
I am too demanding....
I am too pushy...
I lecture too much...
I order her around too much without asking nicely...
I need to go down on her before I get a blowjob....

3) Really great sex

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RE: What's It about for you? - 11/9/2007 9:46:31 AM

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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

Except for the dog dish part I like your post bipolarber.

Well, you know, sometimes it's the little things that make life fun.... for some it's walking in a garden at twilight, others its spending a perfect afternoon at the ballpark watching the game, or driving around with the top down on a cool autumn day.... for me, it's eating from a dog bowl, in the nude, on my Mistress' kitchen floor, while she sits at the table, eating her dinner like a human being, talking casually across the table with a friend, almost as though I weren't even there....

Sometimes, being a "pet" has a nice zen "blank canvas" aspect to it, you know?

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RE: What's It about for you? - 11/9/2007 9:55:22 AM

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I can see the zen appeal of just being, not doing.

But how can your knees take it? I'd be crying in bad pain inside of ten minutes.

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RE: What's It about for you? - 11/9/2007 9:59:46 AM

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trust, devotion, caring, growth, intimacy on all levels, doing tihngs i never thought i could before, breaking out of my comfort zone, having someone who you have almost a spiritual connection with.. sex is ok, but, its not a major priority, so many others things are more important.

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RE: What's It about for you? - 11/9/2007 11:46:12 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: yourMissTress

It's time for another one of these...

I will start.

For me, it's about the dynamic, the play, the fun, the excitement, and THE SEX!!!!!!!!!!! There's more in there, but this is good for a start.

And you?

The dynamic.

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RE: What's It about for you? - 11/9/2007 12:04:57 PM

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I feel i need to now add to me this is not about being a money slave giving money to another for services and alike ,This is not a game part time thing ,Nor is it any ''lifestyle'' , i did not choose this rather it is who i am and who i have always known i was .Not disrespectful not judgemental . I have seen and heard people speaking about others in ill manered ways and tone s to me its a wonderous life long journey ." dont try and fix me i am not broken "
" Dont want your hand this time i'll save myself " i really am glad this is my path and was before it was out in the open .

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RE: What's It about for you? - 11/9/2007 12:50:12 PM

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When it is Aba and yaldah, it is the safety and security I get from the exchange dynamic. When it is Adon and zona, it is the challenge, the obeying, being objectified. In both cases, it is service, caring for the man, whether he is Aba or Adon.

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RE: What's It about for you? - 11/9/2007 12:54:27 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ItzKat

For me, it is about the adrenaline rush, the thought that my otherwise normal man would break the norms of society just to possess me, that he will do whatever it takes to remind me that I am his, that each and every strike of hand, lash, belt or whip hightens the intensity of the orgasm that I finally get... when he chooses to let me have it.

It is about the mental vacation I get to take when I am in his ropes. I no longer have to organize anything, decide anything or think anything... I am his to do with as he pleases and that is very relaxing. It helps me to balance the demands on my otherwise busy life.

And of course, it is about the hot monkey sex too!

That echoes what I feel as well. It is also the realization of every fantasy I have ever had or will have and the trust to find someone to do them with.

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RE: What's It about for you? - 11/9/2007 12:57:00 PM

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for me

it's about the Love, Passion, Devotion, Growth, Power

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