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cluelessrph -> RE: How to tell your vanilla husband that you are into BDSM? (11/17/2007 6:16:31 PM)
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Isn't it remarkable how difficult it is to fully share with someone that you've shared so much of life with?
One thing to keep in mind when you start to talk with him is that your knowledge of bdsm will be substantially different than his perception. Thus, you should take your time in how the conversation develops and the discussion goes. In other words, you don't want to say "I'm into bdsm" without knowing what he thinks bdsm is. When you think of the term, "bdsm", you think of one thing. He will undoubtedly think another. You may think love, he may think leather and darkness. In fact, he may even be correct in his thoughts, but they will most likely be to the extreme.
One cannot run a marathon, without first running a mile. Then it takes months of running miles to get to marathon shape. So, when you talk with him, think of talking in miles first - rather than laying it all out there as a marathon. Good luck.
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