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RE: How to tell your vanilla husband that you are into ... - 11/17/2007 12:05:14 PM

camille65

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I think I was writing as she was posting, so I didn't see that post. Thanks for letting me know I missed it! OP, I am glad that you have come to a decision. Sometimes that is the hardest part.. actually doing it. It isn't easy (or right IMO) to live in a life that doesn't fit, it's exhausting and defeating towards both of you. It took me a very very long time to come to terms with the fact that the emptiness was much greater than the good in my marriage. Glad you aren't as slow as me lol.

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RE: How to tell your vanilla husband that you are into ... - 11/17/2007 12:27:06 PM

CuriousLord

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According to your profile, you have a Dom already..?

There's little quite like cheating on your husband to get a divorce finalized pretty quickly.

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RE: How to tell your vanilla husband that you are into ... - 11/17/2007 3:24:48 PM

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t flawed people how they alway sseem to be looking for some fast fix to what is wrong with them They are always blaming something or someone else . quck fixes and fashionable lifestyles coughs rofl

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RE: How to tell your vanilla husband that you are into ... - 11/17/2007 6:16:31 PM

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Isn't it remarkable how difficult it is to fully share with someone that you've shared so much of life with?

One thing to keep in mind when you start to talk with him is that your knowledge of bdsm will be substantially different than his perception. Thus, you should take your time in how the conversation develops and the discussion goes. In other words, you don't want to say "I'm into bdsm" without knowing what he thinks bdsm is. When you think of the term, "bdsm", you think of one thing. He will undoubtedly think another. You may think love, he may think leather and darkness. In fact, he may even be correct in his thoughts, but they will most likely be to the extreme.

One cannot run a marathon, without first running a mile. Then it takes months of running miles to get to marathon shape. So, when you talk with him, think of talking in miles first - rather than laying it all out there as a marathon. Good luck.

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