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LATEXBABY64 -> RE: "Fake" accusations (11/10/2007 7:12:57 AM)
your right you here it all the time. It comes from Mindless Stupid people who have nothing better to do then to make drama. There is something in their charector thast loves and lives the chaos. If they can hurt or cause trouble for people they will. It is kinda like away of getting attention. SO in a nutshell life is not as important to how others view us but how we view ourselves. IF you truely believe deep down you who you say you are. There will be good people that notice. THe ture fakes are those that try to tear us apart. (every rich man started with a penny. Every great thought started with insperation. Greatness comes inside not out ) beware of the drive by posters they will tear your soul apart

KnightofMists -> RE: "Fake" accusations (11/10/2007 7:32:20 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kalari There have been four instances now, however, in which people accuse me of being "fake" after I inform them that I am collared. Three Doms have accused me of being a man posing as a woman, and one Domme has accused me of having a "fake owner." The latter also was quite upset with me and told me that I shouldn't be on the site at all if I were not seeking. unfortunate experiences... seems to be rather common for submissive females to have to deal with this issue quote: But I consider this a community, not a dating service. I've been in the lifestyle from a young age and I've always felt that I could find refuge and comfort within the like-minded people that I find both here and in my community back home. Am I wrong for thinking this way? In my profile, I am seeking "friends only" and nothing else, and in the text I not only say that I am collared but I reference His screenname as well. I am not leading anyone on... But is there something that I can do to make my reasons for being here more clear? Or are these Masters and Mistresses correct in saying that I should leave if I'm not available? Yes your wrong.... Wrong to think that every one is Like-Minded. Not everyone is like minded to you. For some this is only a community... and not a Dating Service... for some it both.... for others it might be a game ...... Are their like-minded individuals? Yes... but NOT ALL of us are going to be. Part of being a Healthy Well-adjusted individual is to protect their boundaries from others. There are going to be those that cross your boundaries... EXPECT IT! Expect that you will have to protect your boundaries... lastly... don't wasted your energy worry about them afterwards. Lastly... stay if you want to stay.. go if you want to go... It's your boundaries!

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Thank you (11/10/2007 8:10:44 AM)
More than a few collared slaves can be easily seduced away (and in fact many are just open and waiting and hoping someone WILL try). They are hoping that they can get your attention by reacting defensively to them and showing a weakness that they can then exploit.

arayofsunshine55 -> RE: "Fake" accusations (11/10/2007 9:36:20 AM)
This is your life. Only you and yours know what works for you. The rest can fuck themselves. Really.

CalifChick -> RE: Thank you (11/10/2007 9:47:41 AM)
I would make one suggestion that helped me, and that is to get a little more blunt. Change your first sentence from "I would like to begin...friends only." to something like: "I am not looking for anyone." I had to do something similar because some people translate "looking for friends" into "well I can convince her to be something more than friends if I try hard enough". It really has cut down on the offers to be my "one true master who can lead you to the one true path." Amazing how many "one true masters" there are out there.. who knew?? Cali

ModeratorEleven -> RE: "Fake" accusations (11/10/2007 10:09:19 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kalari Or are these Masters and Mistresses correct in saying that I should leave if I'm not available? No, they're not. Ignore them. XI

Michaelsangel -> RE: "Fake" accusations (11/10/2007 10:15:20 AM)
i have a Dom and state it in my profile.....still i have been welcomed here.....being new, i am sure that this site like other chat rooms, groups, forums, ect. there will be a few who like to stir up trouble, make newbies feel unwelcomed....so i agree with those who have said "Make friends on the forum, have fun.... :)

Level -> RE: "Fake" accusations (11/10/2007 10:17:53 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kalari Hello all. I have a problem that I took very lightly at first, but it is beginning to become a problem and I feel the need to reach out for help. I want to begin by saying that I am a collared submissive. I am happy in my relationship, which has lasted for three months now. And I understand that some people here just don't take the time to read profiles, and that is why they try to demand things of me or ask me to meet them. When this happens, I am always very polite and take great care in responding and letting them know my situation. There have been four instances now, however, in which people accuse me of being "fake" after I inform them that I am collared. Three Doms have accused me of being a man posing as a woman, and one Domme has accused me of having a "fake owner." The latter also was quite upset with me and told me that I shouldn't be on the site at all if I were not seeking. But I consider this a community, not a dating service. I've been in the lifestyle from a young age and I've always felt that I could find refuge and comfort within the like-minded people that I find both here and in my community back home. Am I wrong for thinking this way? In my profile, I am seeking "friends only" and nothing else, and in the text I not only say that I am collared but I reference His screenname as well. I am not leading anyone on... But is there something that I can do to make my reasons for being here more clear? Or are these Masters and Mistresses correct in saying that I should leave if I'm not available? Thank you so much for your time. This has been bothering me for a while now. Blessings, and hugs. ~Rowan Two possibilities come to mind: 1- you are fake, and the ones accusing you are perceptive and intelligent people. 2- you are not a fake, and the ones accusing you are stupid, cow-patty sniffing imbeciles. If #2 is correct, then why let such people do harm to your mental state?

MisPandora -> RE: "Fake" accusations (11/10/2007 10:21:05 AM)
Why do you seek validation outside of your relationship? What's so disconcerting about the stranger's opinion of you when you know full well they know nothing of you?

phoenixxy -> RE: Thank you (11/10/2007 11:12:41 AM)
I have similar experiences too, i will talk to people and then they say that they want 'real' webcam verification that i am female, i am not happy to appear on cam to people i dont already know and so i get told i am a fake aswell, but at the end of the day it doesnt matter what the rest of the world thinks so long as the people who matter know who you are, and it is only worth worrying about the people that matter.

SoHott -> RE: Thank you (11/10/2007 11:23:09 AM)
huh

MrSpectacular -> RE: Thank you (11/10/2007 12:25:56 PM)
Why worry about it - let them say and think what they think. You cannot control it anywhere so ignore it

Domisub111 -> RE: "Fake" accusations (11/10/2007 12:27:56 PM)
You've the right to be here as anyone else even though you're collared as you've the privilege of seeking friends with similar interests. The only one that could object is the person who has collared you. Those intruding masters are just plain egoists, non respective of your dignity as a sub and the reverence of your collar. When you aren't with your "top", you should feel free to tell these intruders off.

littlehumbledone -> RE: "Fake" accusations (11/10/2007 2:51:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kalari There have been four instances now, however, in which people accuse me of being "fake" after I inform them that I am collared. ~Rowan First of all, your experience isn't unique, I think it's happened to all of us at some point in time, secondly, unless you're breaking TOS, then CM can be whatever you want it to be. Thirdly, the people who toss around the word fake are the ones who have the problem, not you. I get called fake because I dont hand out my IM to just anyone, because I dont have a webcam, because I refuse to talk to people on the phone just to prove i'm female, because I refuse to show nude pictures of myself, for any number of reasons. Those sorts of people will always find something to use agaisnt you.. Block and delete..

laurell3 -> RE: "Fake" accusations (11/10/2007 6:16:16 PM)
Kalari, One thing you might consider is taking the pic off of your profile. You are young and attractive and are going to draw some unwanted attention, (even without the pic), it might reduce the amount of creeps. I think you can keep your pic on the forums and take the profile one down. I'm not suggesting you have to do this, and I can't say I would myself. But if it might help if it truly bothers you. I would just say "lol" and block personally. Unfortunately you find with the internet that anonymity makes idiots more idiotic.

LadyLegs -> RE: "Fake" accusations (11/10/2007 6:29:41 PM)
I think everyone who doesn't want to submit to me should leave this site. I think lots of things. Some of them are actually true.

Kellendra -> RE: Thank you (11/10/2007 7:29:12 PM)
As long as YOU know who and what you are, where you are at etc....it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. Don't give your energy anyway to people who A) Don't deserve it and B) Just want to bring you down. Don't let the bastards get you down kalari...they really aren't worth it. Am made of plastic myself.....even come with my own matching acessories. Take care.

Michaelsangel -> RE: "Fake" accusations (11/10/2007 8:12:01 PM)
Kalari, I wouldn't sweat it...i just got a message from xxxxxxxxx calling me a "dude" and when i went to respond by asking if he wanted my Dom to contact him and explain that i am not a dude, he blocked me.....LOL Oh well some people's children <shaking head laughing> [Mod Note: username removed]

dawntreader -> RE: "Fake" accusations (11/10/2007 8:22:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Michaelsangel ...i just got a message from xxxxxxxx... i recieved one from him as well and it was quite ugly. When i went to reply, i discovered i was blocked. i think he must send derogatory messages and then immediately block the person so they can't message back. i would bet he is a highschooler based on the comment i recieved...if not, someone in desperate need of therapy~ [Mod Note: username removed]

laurell3 -> RE: "Fake" accusations (11/10/2007 11:14:31 PM)
I got one from a guy with a one line profile. I asked what it was he was seeking and what his relationship goals were. I got a scathing you're a dumbass, my goal is sex like everyone else on these sites, anyone that's been around would know this. I responded, good luck in your search, it seems we would have little in common. I guess I was so suprised at the reaction, my snark response failed me. Sometimes I feel most sane when reading my email. [8D]

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