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RE: A General Question for submissives - 9/2/2005 9:38:20 AM

lonewolf05

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ES2--

now i know what's wrong.
someone changed her picture is why i had troubles....

oh my

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RE: A General Question for submissives - 9/2/2005 11:12:15 AM

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It might be simpler if you stopped thinking in male/female terms and just thought "other people."

Now listen to your question rephrased: "How can a man make a lifetime commitment to be monogamous to me? What about His need/want for sex with other people?" or even "How can a man make a lifetime commitment to be monogamous to me? What about His need/want for sex with other women?"

Now does it seem clearer?

The bi people I've known haven't had a need to HAVE sex with both sexes. They've simply been OPEN to it.

John Warren

Why thank You, Sir. Yes, You have made things clearer...answered my question.

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RE: A General Question for submissives - 9/2/2005 3:14:26 PM

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ORIGINAL: pinkpleasures

i completely agree that monogamy is rejected or embraced by P/pl of all stripes. My question is simple (maybe simpleminded) : How can a bisexual Man make a lifetime commitment to be monogamous to me? What about His need/want for sex with men? i'd like to be all that He wants. (And i am asking; i know only what i have learnt since jan '04 about bisexual P/pl; so i do appreciate Your responses.)

pinkpleasures

Well! i was going ot respond, but after reading down i see that EmeraldSlave2 and JohnWarren gave you the same answer i would (though they both did it much more succinctly than i ever could!)

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Hheheheh... silly me! it would help if i read Page 3!! ~doink~ for some reason i thought there were only 3 pages to this topic.........

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RE: A General Question for submissives - 9/7/2005 12:12:54 PM

Dracironsgirl

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it is my opinion only that just because one's bisexual it does not mean they can not be monogamous
just like heterosexual people, it's all the same to me. it depends on the person, not tbe sexual preference, but again, that is just my view on the topic.

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RE: A General Question for submissives - 9/8/2005 4:31:39 AM

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It is a vastly common male fantasy to see two women active sexually together. It is enormously less common for women to have the fantasy of seeing two men together. I think this probably goes to the general homophobic stance common in our society.

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RE: A General Question for submissives - 9/11/2005 7:38:06 AM

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The issue is the implied statement female bisexuals good, and male bisexuals bad. Would any care to comment on this seeming discrepancy?

Touching on another element of the bisexuality question... as i stated in an earlier response, i'm a female submissive bisexual with a very hetero Dominant male. I've had the experience of a previous long-term partner suddenly decide to explore that aspect of his sexuality, and it was a deal-breaker.

I didn't understand WHY it was a deal-breaker at the time, and reading this thread has helped me to really clarify why.

I need my partner to be fully dominant. That's part of why all my long term relationships in the past weren't fulfilling. I was practically the boss, and it drove me nuts. *FOR ME* (standard disclaimers apply), seeing my partner in a submissive posture to another man, broke any illusions I had built. It made him less masculine in my eyes, and the relationship started to end at that point, dying a slow painful death over the course of the next two years.

[[Insert further disclaimers that YES I am certain there are very masculine homosexual and bisexual men. I just haven't met any personally. Working in LA in the fashion business with some of the men there, and the example of my brother are the only direct examples of homo- or bi-sexual men I have had. They have all had a degree, to one level or another, of feminization or submission to their demeanors and personalities.]]

*For this subbie*, I cannot have a sense of safety in submitting to someone who is not, themselves, completely dominant. I could not and would not submit to a 'switch'. For me, dominance and submission is completely tied to our sexuality as well, and a relationship with very clearly and rigidly defined gender roles is vital.

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