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RE: I'm not sure what I am doing wrong? - 11/13/2007 12:25:25 PM

SuspendedInGaffa

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ORIGINAL: Oumae

Just want to reiterate about going to real life events. I know here in Ireland we could do with more male subs in their 40's going to real life events, wish a few of the regular posters here would move!

Good luck,

Oumae

Ooh, that's worth knowing, thanks Oumae! I'm half Irish myself, and have often thought about moving over. You've just given me a very good reason to consider it extremely seriously!

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RE: I'm not sure what I am doing wrong? - 11/13/2007 2:37:05 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SuspendedInGaffa

quote:

ORIGINAL: Oumae

Just want to reiterate about going to real life events. I know here in Ireland we could do with more male subs in their 40's going to real life events, wish a few of the regular posters here would move!

Good luck,

Oumae

Ooh, that's worth knowing, thanks Oumae! I'm half Irish myself, and have often thought about moving over. You've just given me a very good reason to consider it extremely seriously!

There is loads happening in the UK tho'... I go over there myself for some events.

Maybe have a week-end trip here for an event and see how you enjoy it.

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RE: I'm not sure what I am doing wrong? - 11/14/2007 11:59:06 AM

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Well that's just a bit disheartening :) hehe

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RE: I'm not sure what I am doing wrong? - 11/14/2007 3:03:20 PM

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I echo the picture issue and, also, add paragraphs at least. Having it all lumped together makes it a bit annoying and difficult to read.

That and when you come across a profile written like that, you tend to have to assume that'll be the way the person generally writes. Drops my and some others interest levels severely.

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RE: I'm not sure what I am doing wrong? - 11/14/2007 6:29:57 PM

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Like the other's said... post a picture and get out in the real world.

TES is holding a "newbie" night at Paddles this Saturday after the rubber fashion show. I'll be at Paddles that night for the fashion show and may stay a while after- so if you go, remember to say hello.

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RE: I'm not sure what I am doing wrong? - 11/15/2007 12:04:27 AM

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Wow OP usually by now in a thread like this there would have been quite a few posts suggesting changes in your profile or approach, instead you get people wanting to meet you. It doesn't seem you're doing anything wrong, the numbers are just very lopsided for male subs. Hang in there, keep posting, if nothing else it passes the time.

good luck,

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RE: I'm not sure what I am doing wrong? - 11/15/2007 2:27:51 PM

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Relocation, relocation, relocation.
If you find her be prepared to move to be near her.
Don't play at it do it properly.
If she is dominant she will want to chose where you live.

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RE: I'm not sure what I am doing wrong? - 11/26/2007 10:29:29 AM

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I'm not sure also what i do wrong here but id soo love to have someone explain whats needed to make a real contact im very open very honest an eager to both learn ...i am pleading for help from any Mistress who cares ..to help out this poor humble sub...

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RE: I'm not sure what I am doing wrong? - 11/26/2007 11:18:34 AM

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Dear Titan,

you really must post a picture, and it is most effective if it's a close up of your cock. Make sure to attach it to any notes that you send out, as well.

No, not really.

But a pic is a good start- make it a resonable representation of yourself, well dressed, in a tidy envirorment (even if it means hiding the laundry under the bed for the picture<g>.)

you should also proof read/spell check your profile (you would bear her mark, not bare it). most of all, be patient- don't complaint until it's been years, not weeks.

Good luck-
Stay warm,
Lawrence

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RE: I'm not sure what I am doing wrong? - 11/26/2007 11:28:06 AM

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SuspendedinGaffa,
I feel your pain and assure that there are many wonderful people here who will steer you in the right direction. They will do this even if you don't ask sometimes. Just be patient. Just be yourself. Just relax and have fun. It will all come together soon enough.

Respectfully,
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RE: I'm not sure what I am doing wrong? - 11/26/2007 2:10:06 PM

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As you may have noted, a large (no pun intended) number of dommes on this site are larger women. If you're picky about a woman's size, you'll have an even longer wait. As one respondant indicated, distance may also be an issue. Perhaps if you noted your flexibility towards relocation in your profile it would help.

It's obvious by the number of responses that you've received regarding a pic that dommes are interested in knowing what you look like. Why do they care? Not sure why, you might want to post back and ask rather than assume.

For myself, a man's character is of the upmost importance and the way a man carries himself and the look in his eye shows in a pic. Your profile suggests you are confident which is always attractive. I respond well to a sincere introductory email which indicates that the sender has read my profile and is responding to it specifically. A blast email is easily spotted and indicates the sender either doesn't have enough creativity to write one for each domme or that he views all dommes to be the same; neither of which speaks well of him. Attaching a pic with your email is always a good choice as it demonstrates you are willing to expose yourself to the domme.

Hope this helps.

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RE: I'm not sure what I am doing wrong? - 11/26/2007 2:37:04 PM

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Titan,
What you are doing wrong is NOT taking anyone's advice. You posted this on 11/12 and today is 11/26. Practically everyone has said to post a pic and you have not. Is there a reason for that?

jen
*i have new pics that are awaiting approval today*

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RE: I'm not sure what I am doing wrong? - 11/26/2007 5:46:59 PM

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I too recommend a picture.

Preferably a sexy one.

Taken by a talented leather-friendly lady photographer.