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Can Y/you Develop a Fetish on Command? - 11/12/2007 5:20:06 PM

pinksugarsub

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This thread isn't about accepting O/other P/pl's fetishes -- instead it asks if it's possible to 'develop' a fetish on command.

Second question: A/anyone know where fetishes come from? All of mine seem to have been around since early adolescence or even younger.

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RE: Can Y/you Develop a Fetish on Command? - 11/12/2007 5:50:00 PM

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I didn't have a foot fetish until I met my wife. I'm not sure she set out to give me one, but I developed it based on things she did with me nonetheless. So it was either an undiscovered fetish, or one learned under her.

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RE: Can Y/you Develop a Fetish on Command? - 11/12/2007 6:16:03 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: pinksugarsub

This thread isn't about accepting O/other P/pl's fetishes -- instead it asks if it's possible to 'develop' a fetish on command.

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I don't know if I would call it a fetish but I have became intrigued by things I never had an interest in before just because Master expressed an interest in them. I called it planting a seed. He mentions something in passing; I start thinking about it, sometimes my first thought is "no way" but I always end up looking for information on the topic. Asking questions about it and almost always end up wanting to try it.

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RE: Can Y/you Develop a Fetish on Command? - 11/12/2007 6:18:50 PM

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no you can not develope a fetish on command. Fetish addictions are in childhood. they have links to childhood it is why a lot of us can not give things up

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RE: Can Y/you Develop a Fetish on Command? - 11/12/2007 6:22:32 PM

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Of course you can do it on command, same as when he orders you to grow bigger tits or fly.

Fetishes are usually developed in childhood but they can be developed later in life but it isn't a quick process and I don't think it is one you can force.

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RE: Can Y/you Develop a Fetish on Command? - 11/12/2007 6:31:27 PM

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You can certainly develop a fetish in someone purposefully through a lot of good training and seduction. But on command as in within three seconds? Not likely.

Fetishes are usually brought about in childhood or pre-adolescence when our bodies are trying to make sense of sexuality and somehow it gets latched on to some traditionally non sexual idea/object so tightly that it becomes inextricable from the sexual pleasure itself.

One of the many reasons our society is so fucked up is that we deny children their sexuality and force them to hide it and have it come out in other ways.

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RE: Can Y/you Develop a Fetish on Command? - 11/12/2007 6:57:59 PM

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If you want to get technical about it, a fetish is an attraction to an object that you CANNOT obtain sexual pleasure without. You can develop an interest in things that will turn you on without it being a true fetish, which is one reason why you can develop these throughout your life, but it is rare to develop a true fetish after becoming an adult.

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RE: Can Y/you Develop a Fetish on Command? - 11/12/2007 9:01:01 PM

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You can certainly develop a fetish in someone purposefully through a lot of good training and seduction. But on command as in within three seconds? Not likely.

Quite agree. It takes time, but one can build a fetish from the ground up, or even turn an aversion into one.

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Fetishes are usually brought about [early on] when our bodies are trying to make sense of sexuality and somehow it gets latched on to some traditionally non sexual idea/object so tightly that it becomes inextricable from the sexual pleasure itself.

And this part is where it gets interesting... As I recall, the incidence of fetishes is lower in populations with a more relaxed relationship to sexuality. Similarly, populations where people aren't discouraged from exploring early on, have far lower incidence, as well as typically having less pathological sexualities. Put very simplistically, fetishes are a sort of miswiring due to not being allowed to learn at nature's intended pace.

That's not to say that a kink is a bad thing, but when it turns into a fetish (necessary stimulus), it's not ideal, at least.

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One of the many reasons our society is so fucked up is that we deny [humans] their sexuality [early in life] and force them to hide it and have it come out in other ways.

Bingo.

Parents want to have their porcelain dolls as long as they can. Adults make poor dolls. And that's before one starts factoring in all the sexually repressive mores out there, particularly in some religious communities. Experiments were done to change this up here, but then the papers wrote about it, without explaining the details, so it was canned.

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RE: Can Y/you Develop a Fetish on Command? - 11/12/2007 9:15:59 PM

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I would say it is possible to develop a fetish once exposed to it that you might not've had before, but "on command" is going a bit too far.

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RE: Can Y/you Develop a Fetish on Command? - 11/12/2007 9:27:55 PM

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I certaintly did not have any of the fetishes I have now in my childhood. Except maybe one, and it's not something I am stateing publically. This one interest has been an interest since I was a kid, however, none of the other fetishes came from childhood.

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no you can not develope a fetish on command. Fetish addictions are in childhood. they have links to childhood it is why a lot of us can not give things up

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RE: Can Y/you Develop a Fetish on Command? - 11/12/2007 9:57:02 PM

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if you can give it up it is not a true fetish there is a thread about fretishes.

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RE: Can Y/you Develop a Fetish on Command? - 11/12/2007 10:00:37 PM

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I don't think you could develop a fetish on command in the typical sense. Though I would posit that through hypnosis it might be possible to set a fetish to turn on or off with a certain stimulus. Positive reinforcement could also be used to develop a new "fetish" over time.

Where do fetishes come from? The same general place any other like or dislike comes from (lots of places).

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RE: Can Y/you Develop a Fetish on Command? - 11/12/2007 10:08:28 PM

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Can you develop a taste for a food on command? I'm sure that there are hundreds of children who would benefit from brocolli if we could. I think it's much the same with a fetish.

As far as where they come from, most feel that is's a mixture of nurture vs nature.

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RE: Can Y/you Develop a Fetish on Command? - 11/12/2007 10:20:25 PM

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On command... hmmm?

The childhood origins of your fetishes are most likely correct. The origins of a personal paraphilia or fetish, is the pathological result of associations. Accidentally creating sexual stimulus or early childhood erotic feelings are atributed to the cause most often.

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RE: Can Y/you Develop a Fetish on Command? - 11/13/2007 1:45:53 AM

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A fetish is a sexual pleasure derived from something inanimate or asexual. For instance, someone getting off on playing with balloons, or having a real turnon by clowns, or having a hardon for chainsaws.

I don't really think there's much of a pathway for me to just up and command you:

"PinkSugar -- you will get horny for Cocoa Puffs NOW!"

Like Michael says, you're just as apt to do that as growing wings and flying.....or shooting monkeys out of your asshole....or something equally as over the top.

Perhaps I missed what you were really asking. Part of me thinks that you're referencing KINKS which is a little different from an out and out fetish.

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RE: Can Y/you Develop a Fetish on Command? - 11/13/2007 2:29:37 AM

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To take the other side, for the hell of it, you could teach someone to love flogging with a single session. In other words, you flog her and she spaces perfectly and is hooked for ever more. Don't ya think?

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RE: Can Y/you Develop a Fetish on Command? - 11/13/2007 4:49:46 AM

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ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

Can you develop a taste for a food on command? I'm sure that there are hundreds of children who would benefit from brocolli if we could. I think it's much the same with a fetish.

Master Fire

i know of one who will NOT touch green beans, but adores broccoli, brussels sprouts, and cauliflower....

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RE: Can Y/you Develop a Fetish on Command? - 11/13/2007 5:19:06 AM

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No matter how many books you ban
No matter how many records you burn
The seeds of fertile fetishes are planted at an early age
And somewhere out there
Someone amongst you
May at this very moment lust for derailing trains!

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RE: Can Y/you Develop a Fetish on Command? - 11/13/2007 5:36:07 AM

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Although I'm sure that with time and the correct heavy behavioural therapy one can make another develop a fetish, I am sure that those instances are exeptional and far from being even close to a general rule.

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RE: Can Y/you Develop a Fetish on Command? - 11/13/2007 5:46:58 AM

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Yes indeed, I have been exposed to a few things and loved them immediately.

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