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SweetDommes -> RE: money and sexism in BDSM (8/8/2005 3:41:29 PM)
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ORIGINAL: MrThorns
Yes, I know how expensive it is to move... Salaries in California are generally higher than in other parts of the country, as is the cost of living. Does it not make sense to move someplace where the cost of living is considerably lower? Makes sense to me.
and that is actually my point - yeah the cost of living is lower, so are salaries ... and this is going on the assumption that they can get a job elsewhere. so now, yeah, cost of living is lower, but they are making less, plus they shelled out $ to move, plus to break their lease (if they had one that requires it - and most do) plus a deposit on a new place - so they are risking coming out way behind. As with most things, people prefer the devil they know to the one they don't - they will stay and scrape by and try to come up with other ways to get money rather than risk losing everything.
*just a note - I am not advocating that this is the way to go ... but it's not always a horrible horrible thing when it happens either. I also think it's rather ... *can't think of appropriate word that won't start flame war - sorry* to assume that just because you could/would move that it's that easy for everyone.
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Womens attire = clothing made especially for women, yes? When did I ever mention fetish clothing? But as the subject has been brought up..you mean to tell me that FemDoms are going to get all "dolled" up because that's what the submissive wants? I would think that if she wanted an $800 corset, she would want it because she likes to wear $800 corsets. If she finds someone willing to pay for it so she doesn't have to...well...super. Just don't try and justify the deed by saying that it's being done for the submissive's benefit.
~Thorns
I understand the difference between women's attire and fetish clothing, but the original statement was about women's clothing followed by the price of a corset.
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Especially when women's attire costs so much. An inexpensive corset is $200. So, yeah, what she said was women's clothing, but what should have been obvious (and was obvious to me and others) was that she meant "women's fetish wear."
I also specifically mentioned that the guys who bitch about Dominants who want tribute are the same ones who want their Domme to be all dolled up - I did not, at any point in time, say that a Domme has any obligation to dress up for anyone but herself - point being, if he expects it, he needs to at least help pay for it.
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