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Fucking and domination... - 11/13/2007 12:45:50 PM   
Master96


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Does the Domme be less dominant if her sub penetrates her?

Does using a strap-on with your sub necessarily makes you more dominant?

I'm just a curious Dom :)

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RE: Fucking and domination... - 11/13/2007 12:46:59 PM   
mnottertail


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RE: Fucking and domination... - 11/13/2007 12:48:42 PM   
Master96


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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

whether a doo bee or a don't bee, still a Domme.

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lol

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Understand that actions will always speak louder than words.


Before you speak, ask yourself..
Is it kind? Is it true? Is it necessary?
Does it improve upon the silence? - Sai Baba

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RE: Fucking and domination... - 11/13/2007 12:49:41 PM   
HottLicks


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Status: offline 		I guess that would depend on the relationship.

For me... no.  My dominance has nothing to do with that.  Does yours?

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RE: Fucking and domination... - 11/13/2007 12:55:20 PM   
MsBearlee


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Status: offline 		I would hope to love my partner...sub or otherwise; making love has nothing to do with domination.
 
Now... fucking... heh heh heh, THAT is a whole 'nuther story!  (which is not to say it has to have anything to do with dominance, either.)
 
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RE: Fucking and domination... - 11/13/2007 12:56:59 PM   
Master96


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Does yours?


hummm..... I don't know, but as I stated in my profile.... Ass(mine and hers) is a limit :D

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Understand that actions will always speak louder than words.


Before you speak, ask yourself..
Is it kind? Is it true? Is it necessary?
Does it improve upon the silence? - Sai Baba

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RE: Fucking and domination... - 11/13/2007 12:59:01 PM   
RumpusParable


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Master96

Greetings Ladies,

Does the Domme be less dominant if her sub penetrates her?

Does using a strap-on with your sub necessarily makes you more dominant?

I'm just a curious Dom :)


I do not think there is an inherent value in those things.  It varies per person and per relationship and even within a relationship...

For me, personally, I am not comfortable with a sub being sexual with me at all.  I especially would not be comfortable with them sexually stimulating me, especially to orgasm (if I could even reach it under those circumstances).  It has nothing to do with being penetrated or not.

As to using a strap-on with a sub, ditto on the my not doing it.  When I have in the past it certainly didn't make me feel more dominant...  it was either a null as far as power goes or it made me feel less in charge because our doing it was more about pleasing him.  That's when I was learning that it, too, wasn't for me.

My kink is authority, control... as far as sexual issues go, I feel much more dominant telling them whether or not (and for how long) they must be chaste, who other than me they can be sexual with and in what ways.

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RE: Fucking and domination... - 11/13/2007 12:59:46 PM   
YourhandMyAss


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Master96

Greetings Ladies,

Does the Domme be less dominant if her sub penetrates her?

Does using a strap-on with your sub necessarily makes you more dominant?

I'm just a curious Dom :)

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RE: Fucking and domination... - 11/13/2007 1:02:15 PM   
HottLicks


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Status: offline 		lol I think you are combining some things.

For me... a cock or dildo have nothing to do with my dominance... I am dominant.  Now... I might use a cock or a dildo in my dominance, but they have no bearing on my dominance... they just might add a bit of fun somehow.

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RE: Fucking and domination... - 11/13/2007 1:05:53 PM   
MissSapphire


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Status: offline 		When it comes to a sexual relationship, I prefer spending time with ohther Doms. After spending time with a Sub, I find it very relaxing and almost spiritual to spend time with another on equal ground. It is also beneficial to share experiences. Niether one of us is a top or bottom, no switching, just mutual satisfaction.

My Subs are rewarded at times for good behavior with sexual gratification, but they are not allowed to touch me.

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RE: Fucking and domination... - 11/13/2007 1:09:33 PM   
darchChylde


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From: Warm Springs, GA but i live in San Francisco.
Status: offline 		a dominant is made less dominant to someone by the choice to be so, and nothing else

does getting horny and being pleasured by their submissive through intercourse make a woman less dominant?

maybe it's just me, but i find taking what you want to be a dominant act; period... in fact; second-guessing yourself, having doubts about your desires, and holding back on your desires to toe the line for the status quo are all decidedly undominant (note, i didn't say submissive)

edited to add: this comes from a boy who was first trained that actual sex are NOT a part of D/s or BDSM... i'm glad to have learned otherwise


< Message edited by darchChylde -- 11/13/2007 1:11:10 PM >

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RE: Fucking and domination... - 11/13/2007 1:48:29 PM   
rubberpet


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Status: offline 		If Mistress wants to ride me like a bucking bronco, then that is Her choice.  Hell, She has needs, wants, and desires and if She chooses to allow me to satisfy those needs, wants, and desires, then She is still in charge.  Even though I may penetrate Her, I understand and cherish the fact that She is the one who ultimately controls my orgasm.  I may be inside Her, but I look at is as my cock is Her prisoner and She is using it as She pleases.  On one side, we make soft, passionate love.  On the other, we fuck like a couple of wild, animalistic, lust-driven beasts that look like they've been in a streetfight afterwards!

If She decides to take me with Her strap-on, I don't look at it as more dominant.  I look at it as just another way She wants me to bring Her pleasure.  I get my pleasure from pleasuring Her and giving Her multiple, blood-curdling, screaming orgasms to the point She can't walk straight for a while!



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RE: Fucking and domination... - 11/13/2007 1:55:27 PM   
darchChylde


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ORIGINAL: rubberpet

I get my pleasure from pleasuring Her and giving Her multiple, blood-curdling, screaming orgasms to the point She can't walk straight for a while!



all that and modesty too? your Mistress must be an incredibly lucky woman *giggles*


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RE: Fucking and domination... - 11/13/2007 2:05:29 PM   
LadyHibiscus


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Status: offline 		Y'all have probably seen me post elsewhere that sex with subs doesn't work for me.  However, the greatest act of dominance ever has to be a blow job.  All those teeth, so close to all that lovely flesh...  LOL.   

And "penetration" from one view is "engulfing" from another.  If a domme wants to have sexual pleasure from a sub, then spiffy. 

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RE: Fucking and domination... - 11/13/2007 2:06:08 PM   
vampchick88


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Status: offline 		Mmm yep I truely am.  I see it as a way to get what I wish from my subby.  Anytime, anyplace, anywhere I have a huge appetite and it just so happens he has what it takes, with all my kinks, fantasies, etc to fill me up....ok well maybe just for a few minutes till I'm hungry for more.
  Does a Domme have to sleep with her sub/slave? No.  I've had slaves in the past which I would not let touch me, and the only thing that touched them was a flogger across their backs.  Its completely up to the individual, their connection, and how far they wish to go with things.  Its a choice that everyone makes on a personal level.

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RE: Fucking and domination... - 11/13/2007 2:21:17 PM   
unravel


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Status: offline 		Maybe i am naive but, and this is a (my) sub perspective, i would answer "no" to Your question: i think it does not make the Dominant any less dominant because it is Her choice, Her decision to have the intercourse. She is still in control.
unravel

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RE: Fucking and domination... - 11/13/2007 2:35:58 PM   
Master96


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ORIGINAL: rubberpet

If Mistress wants to ride me like a bucking bronco, then that is Her choice. Hell, She has needs, wants, and desires and if She chooses to allow me to satisfy those needs, wants, and desires, then She is still in charge. Even though I may penetrate Her, I understand and cherish the fact that She is the one who ultimately controls my orgasm. I may be inside Her, but I look at is as my cock is Her prisoner and She is using it as She pleases. On one side, we make soft, passionate love. On the other, we fuck like a couple of wild, animalistic, lust-driven beasts that look like they've been in a streetfight afterwards!

If She decides to take me with Her strap-on, I don't look at it as more dominant. I look at it as just another way She wants me to bring Her pleasure. I get my pleasure from pleasuring Her and giving Her multiple, blood-curdling, screaming orgasms to the point She can't walk straight for a while!




Good boy :)

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Understand that actions will always speak louder than words.


Before you speak, ask yourself..
Is it kind? Is it true? Is it necessary?
Does it improve upon the silence? - Sai Baba

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RE: Fucking and domination... - 11/13/2007 2:42:31 PM   
MamaJiggles


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Status: offline 		At first I want not have sex with my sub!!!! But  he wanted me so and the more I said no the more he would do anything to get it Then one night I took him and dammm I must say it was the best time I had with anyone in years.... And I am still a dom in his eyes and he wants me more still this day !!!!!!

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RE: Fucking and domination... - 11/13/2007 2:50:40 PM   
lateralist1


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Status: offline 		My sexuality is a significant part of who I am.
BDSM is my sexuality.I'm a sexual sadist.
I am a dominant woman therefore I dominate my partner in every area of life including my sexuality and his.
What other people do is really up to them.
There is no right way to do this only the way that works for you and your partner/s.

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RE: Fucking and domination... - 11/13/2007 3:16:26 PM   
DollysSissyGirl


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Status: offline 		• I'm a submissive male who used to be owned by a male Master.

• I would penetrate his hole on occasions, with my tongue and penis.

• Never did it feel as though he was not the dominant one.



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