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RE: That pesky word "service" - 11/16/2007 4:25:44 PM

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*laffing* goddess, bless him, eric does alot for Me without complaint. My bad that I tend to automatically expect the dear boy to be on the same wavelength and read My mind. I am not at all a micro-manager, but, while I don't want ot micro-manage I do have a tendancy to get cranky and impatient too quickly.
I got a real chuckle out of the one watching football while the laundry was going. I questioned recently the ability of males, in a general sense, to multi-task. My thing is to have the laundry going while I am doing other things and to have a loose plan to wash, dry, fold and put away, but the in between times is being used efficiently also. We are working on that!
I think it comes down to people having different priorities, and the slave needs to adapt to the Ladie's priorities, but the Lady also has to make those priorities known. And be patient during a reasonable learning curve. (Yes, eric, I hope you are reading this!)
I have a hard time with the word service, serve, etc. Because it does mean more than just the honey-dos, but, for Me, it cannot be restricted to a professional client paying for XYZ activites during the appointed time slot and calling it service.  And this attitude does flop over into the idea of "servng" the Domina.. I just had an email today from a European Switch who mentioned he often visits Az and has a big foot and high heel fetish. He wondered if he could "serve" Me while he is visiting next. I politely declined, but it does smack of a "proposition" to Me. It has nothing to do with "serving Me" and everything to do with his attraction to My photos and a his taking a shot in the dark that he could get his fetish fed while in My area.
I often ask "what does service mean to you?" I, too, usually receive the reply that they will do whatever it takes to get Me off (or something to that effect), and it really doesn't matter whether they are enjoying it too. If I turn the tables and say that a clean bathroom will make Me wet, they go "poof"!
littlesarbonn! If I had nothing better to do, I wouldn't really care how long it took you to do the job! And if I did have a time schedule, I would be obligated to let you know that and settle for what could be done in order of the most importance, in the time available.  Frankly, I would just be glad it was done properly and well and that I didn't have to follow you around while you were doing it!

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RE: That pesky word "service" - 11/16/2007 5:08:53 PM

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I got a real chuckle out of the one watching football while the laundry was going. I questioned recently the ability of males, in a general sense, to multi-task. My thing is to have the laundry going while I am doing other things and to have a loose plan to wash, dry, fold and put away, but the in between times is being used efficiently also. We are working on that!

I'm always baffled by the male (usually) inability to multitask. I'll go in the kitchen and see someone standing there, staring into space while something's in the oven. Sink full of dishes, countertops and table encrusted. I'll tell them to get working on the dishes and they'll inform me that they're already occupied with cooking and cannot stop what they're doing to do another task, even if it is mere inches behind their backs and their hands were just dangling or scratching bits. Then again, I'm the type of person that's pulling toast out of the toaster with one hand and pulling the juice out of the fridge with the other while I'm thinking about what needs to get done that day. Don't know if most women are like that or not.

Sounds like you have a very good boy already!

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RE: That pesky word "service" - 11/16/2007 5:26:04 PM

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Hi MsSaskia......next You will be expecting us to breathe in AND out

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RE: That pesky word "service" - 11/16/2007 6:57:21 PM

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Hi MsSaskia......next You will be expecting us to breathe in AND out

Nah, I wouldn't want to be too unreasonable.

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RE: That pesky word "service" - 11/16/2007 7:39:40 PM

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This is funny, since most of my male friends complain, women can't chew gum and walk at the same time. That is not my opinion, of course. I just find it hard to believe that men are that inept. They must know simple house keeping, unless they lived with their parents all their lives. Its not rocket science. Whats wrong with watching football while doing the laundry? You can fold it in front of the tv, as well as anywhere else!

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RE: That pesky word "service" - 11/16/2007 7:50:34 PM

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This is funny, since most of my male friends complain, women can't chew gum and walk at the same time. That is not my opinion, of course. I just find it hard to believe that men are that inept. They must know simple house keeping, unless they lived with their parents all their lives. Its not rocket science. Whats wrong with watching football while doing the laundry? You can fold it in front of the tv, as well as anywhere else!

Some men I know are able to fold laundry and watch TV at the same time. Most of them think the two activities are mutually exclusive. My own boy is slowly learning the trick. He never had to do housework growing up, so the things I take for granted as being things everbody knows to do really are not.

The problem with the very temporary service slave watching football was that he wasn't folding laundry at the same time. He was sitting there with his feet up on my furniture and there was plenty to be folded. Plus if the game got good, checking the machines to see if the cycles were done was an afterthought, if that. I kicked him out before the game was done.

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RE: That pesky word "service" - 11/16/2007 7:53:05 PM

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*laffing* I don't think that's the point. I am sure he wasn't folding. He was watching tv because, as he thought, he was doing the laundry. Meaning the washing machine and/or dryer was going, so he had no option but to wait for it to finish. (???) I am sure there were other things that needed to be done, but since he was already "doing the laundy", he felt justified in letting other tasks go in the meantime.
There are many males who do this sort of thing. If everything else was done, I would not have a problem that the football game was being watched (permission having been granted, of course!). But if the bed was still unmade, or the floors needing mopping, then, I would have to view it as either a way to wiggle out of getting the tasks completed, or a complete lack of ability to realize that since the machine is now doing that part of the work, that leaves him free to make the bed!

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RE: That pesky word "service" - 11/16/2007 10:03:03 PM

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I am thankful you saw the humor in that. I was actually being a little sas. Just a little. I once missed an NFL championship game, because my g f, (vanilla), wanted me to take her shopping and to see the xmas lights. Glad you have someone to serve you now.

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RE: That pesky word "service" - 11/16/2007 10:17:00 PM

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Are you sure we haven't been getting e-mail from the same subs! lol Excellent post! I had one e-mail me whose profile said he "lives for" maid/butler duties and housework. I asked him about it and he said it wasn't his favorited activity, that he's a much better sexual submissive and "would do anything to get me off". *sigh* Same recording it seems. I started to IM with him after a few more e-mails because he recanted on the sexual submission aspect. He contacts me one weekend on IM and says he NEEDS his service fix and NEEDs to get off NOW and will do anything, even housework to achieve that end. I told him I've been so busy that I haven't even been able to have sex with my own mate and that would take precedence. He replies...and I'm still in disbelief..... "well you can do that but I can watch and then clean you both up after, right?"

No. I don't think so.

MsSaskia, I think your post about service should be required reading for anyone (esp men) that create submissive profiles, just so they get a clue about what many of us want. I still long to find a service submissive to help out, and possibly have it turn into a live-in situation. The search goes on........

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RE: That pesky word "service" - 11/17/2007 12:29:37 AM

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Are you sure we haven't been getting e-mail from the same subs! lol Excellent post! I had one e-mail me whose profile said he "lives for" maid/butler duties and housework. I asked him about it and he said it wasn't his favorited activity, that he's a much better sexual submissive and "would do anything to get me off". *sigh* Same recording it seems. I started to IM with him after a few more e-mails because he recanted on the sexual submission aspect. He contacts me one weekend on IM and says he NEEDS his service fix and NEEDs to get off NOW and will do anything, even housework to achieve that end. I told him I've been so busy that I haven't even been able to have sex with my own mate and that would take precedence. He replies...and I'm still in disbelief..... "well you can do that but I can watch and then clean you both up after, right?" No. I don't think so.

MsSaskia, I think your post about service should be required reading for anyone (esp men) that create submissive profiles, just so they get a clue about what many of us want. I still long to find a service submissive to help out, and possibly have it turn into a live-in situation. The search goes on........

Something about "and I could clean you both up after" just gives me the heebie jeebies. No concern about viruses or bacteria or (gasp) emotional or any other compatability. And when you realize they really don't give a hoot who they're "serving" like that, they just want genitals and fluids, you gotta wonder how many other people they're offering or giving this service to. The mind wobbles.

I just watched a zombie flick - the first half of Grindhouse - and my head is full of images of bursting pustules and exploding communicable infections. The whole "just lemme clean you up after", combined with a summer as an STD/HIV prevention outreach worker and all the CDC training that went with it, adds up to an unlovely picture. No thanks, I'll use a warm washcloth.

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RE: That pesky word "service" - 11/17/2007 6:32:47 AM

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