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PrincessEllie -> RE: How do you define a "Wanna-Be" (11/15/2007 7:16:17 PM)
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I think calling a whole group of people wanna be's is like standing on a soap box and spouting off "twue" nonsense like an idiot. But I also know someone who would probably fall into the only category I would ever have for people who I could call wanna be's. Honestly, the term wanna be refers to someone who wishes to be something that they are not, but in some way falls short of that goal. In general, we have all been there before in the past.
In refrence to BDSM and the related kinks, I learned early what I was interested in and subsequently had the time to do many years of in-depth research on the matter to make sure I knew all the risks. I learned the names of equipment, I learned safeword policies, I learned the lingo, and I learned that not all Goreans are big scary monsters who steal babies, many of them are pretty cool (even if I don't really agree with their ideals).
I have this friend, and quite honestly she is probably one of the few people I have ever met that I would call a wannabe. Firstly, she is a chronic liar who makes up stories to make herself seem cooler and hipper. She is probably the one person I know who I really want to keep far away from my kink. I'm not being selfish really, over the years she has consistantly tried to copy me in everything I do. I've been friends with her for a long time, and since then she has tried to copy all of my likes and dislikes. I noticed this trend recently and it is really starting to bug me. She is jealous of my looks and my easy way with making friends, because she herself is very immature and has to make up issues so she can feel like the victim while she talks trash about me behind my back (and thusly has lost many friends and is unable to ever get a date.) One day last year, she spontaneously decided that she was a sub and all she wanted in life was to be abused. At first I was excited about having someone on my side, but upon actually discussing things with her, I realized all she wanted was a hobby that would make her appear more mature and edgy. She wants to be a bad little girl for the first time in her life, and somehow has gotten this romanticized notion of BDSM into her head from badly written online stories. She just does not really understand what BDSM is all about. It's the notoriety of it that entertains her, she really has no intention of following the rules or actually learning anything about this before she starts to try and be a sub even though she has a very dominating personality and a bad temper.
She's a wannabe because she tries to copy me and achieve the same success I have. Unfortunatly, she's failed to realize that firstly, I will always be better at being myself than she is, and secondly, she would have to stop being an immature whiny bitch to even come close to my attitude on life. So really, in this scene, I would say a wannabe is anyone who wants the title of Dominant or submissive while actually not being interested in any of the kinky stuff. Essentially, someone who wants the title while still being vanilla to the core because it makes them more "hardcore" or some such nonsense.
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