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RE: Can you be too real? - 11/15/2007 6:30:03 PM

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can you be too real in the life choices you have made?

are you seriously pondering if others think you are too real?
really you are? for reals?
you really don't have to.

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RE: Can you be too real? - 11/15/2007 6:42:47 PM

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Too real? To whom? You or them? If you, you have a problem. If them, that is their opinion. Does it really matter in the great scheme of things? Live your life, love your life.

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RE: Can you be too real? - 11/15/2007 7:10:40 PM

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For those of us that live this lifechoice of M/s or D/s real time, can you be too real in the life choices you have made?

Yes. If one or both partners is seriously dysfunctional, unhealthy or unable to function in a way that detracts from the quality of their life as a result of obsessive sexual, fetish or D/s behavior, that's "too real". If you're harming or nonconensually involving other people in pursuit of your kink, especially if those people are um's, that's definitely "too real". Basically if you're doing nothing in your life but D/s activity to the detriment of your health, your dependent family or your household's ability to pay the bills, that's likely to be a problem.

If you're perfectly happy, healthy and functional in a long term owner/slave situation, even if it's extreme or involves heavy play, that doesn't automatically qualify as "too real" or "too much" no matter what other people think. Any activity that is causing serious problems in the rest of your life, or that is pursued to the detriment of the rest of your life, can be dysfunctional. That is true whether the activity is playing video games, living in a D/s relationship or even just washing your hands. The ultimate test is really whether you and your partner feel that you are happy and healthy in the relationship, and your household is functional in the real world.

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RE: Can you be too real? - 11/15/2007 7:15:51 PM

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Master and I live as a M/s as close to 24/7 as sensibilty allows. We have come across some people that tell us we are too real. So the question is For those of us that live this lifechoice of M/s or D/s real time, can you be too real in the life choices you have made?

???? Too Real??? does that mean a person is fake??

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RE: Can you be too real? - 11/15/2007 7:47:49 PM

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People make comments about others based on their own 'stuff'. They're telling you you're too real because you're involved at a level they're not comfortable with, for whatever reasons. If the two of you are happy, ignore them.

"...because once you're Real, you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand." Skin Horse to Velveteen Rabbit.

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RE: Can you be too real? - 11/15/2007 7:59:57 PM

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To each their own.... "reality" is as they experience it and tell themselves it is.

Too real? Nah

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RE: Can you be too real? - 11/15/2007 8:17:33 PM

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did we just enter a loop from the warriors

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RE: Can you be too real? - 11/15/2007 8:23:48 PM

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Its the Matrix ....Mr Anderson .

Really who gives a rats ass what people email you randomly about more so if its context and content is that of judgement .ARE you BOTH happy kewl keep on truckin !

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RE: Can you be too real? - 11/15/2007 8:47:27 PM

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We're the worst kind of real- the happy boring normal type.

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RE: Can you be too real? - 11/15/2007 8:52:01 PM

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can you be too real in the life choices you have made?

You can never be too real in the choices you make. They affect your life, and you arent bringing anyone else into your reality. If they have a problem with it, let them remove themselves from it.

I honestly dont think I have ever heard anything so ridicluous as calling someone TOO real.

Some people, if they cant find an insult, they will pull something out of their ass and try and make it sound negative. For heavens sake, people.

DV

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RE: Can you be too real? - 11/15/2007 10:12:50 PM

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ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

People make comments about others based on their own 'stuff'. They're telling you you're too real because you're involved at a level they're not comfortable with, for whatever reasons. If the two of you are happy, ignore them.

Pretty much my thoughts on the matter. Regarding this sort of thing, how people react often says as much about their perceptions and perspective as what they are reacting too. Sometimes understanding that helps in understanding not only what they said, but why they said it.

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RE: Can you be too real? - 11/16/2007 5:30:26 AM

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Master and I live as a M/s as close to 24/7 as sensibilty allows. We have come across some people that tell us we are too real. So the question is For those of us that live this lifechoice of M/s or D/s real time, can you be too real in the life choices you have made?

lets see....i could be less real a mama! no, then the imp would run the household, and nothing would get done, bad idea.

i could be less real a housewife! no....the house would be dirty and messy and wolf would have an even larger pinecone wedged sideways up his ass and that's a bad thing too.

i could be less real a sla..... *falls over laughing* oh yeah i can see Daddy agreeing to that one....NOT!

seriously, what is "less real"? i could be 24/7 in person with Daddy and he would be delirously happy. that's about the only thing i would change....and that would demand other things that arent going to happen cause i'm happy with some of them.

be yourself with you and your Master, and for everyone that doesnt want to understand? joke em if they cant take a fuck. or something like that.

kitten, mellow on nyquil...... *wanders off mumbling something about the "big fucking Q!" *

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RE: Can you be too real? - 11/16/2007 5:52:11 AM

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Master and I live as a M/s as close to 24/7 as sensibilty allows. We have come across some people that tell us we are too real. So the question is For those of us that live this lifechoice of M/s or D/s real time, can you be too real in the life choices you have made?

Are the two of you happy? Is your relationship working for you?
If yes, then don't worry about what anyone else thinks.
Unfortunately, lots of people put down what they cannot understand or ever hope to accomplish.
Cordially,
minxy