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RE: 24/7 but where does it begin and end? - 11/17/2007 1:07:23 AM

MsCfromMelbourne

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I had a pleasantly foul conversation with a woman last night, who proclaimed that she lived the lifestyle 24/7 therefore she was okay in treating everyone like shit.

In a dungeon or party setting, I can understand clearly but in a strictly social aspect, it baffles me......

.......so my contention is that it's more important to display the person rather than the dominant or the submissive when you're being introduced to each other.

lol....this thread is funny

So she dished out some non-consensual humilation play? People pay good money for that!! And you got it all for free, CC!!! Pity it isn't actually your kink

I object strenuously to the assumption that being "foul", rude, insensitive, bossy or bullying makes you Dominant at all, much less living "a lifestyle" 24/7.

All the Dommes I know in real life have genuine charm amd warmth as human beings 24/7 and they are definitely Dommes 24/7. They don't have big chips on their shoulders or hate men. It is a joy to submit to these Goddesses and therefore - surprise surprise - they have lovely submissive partners and don't need to troll the internet abusing complete strangers!

Your lady friend is waaaay off base if she thinks she is a Domme!!

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RE: 24/7 but where does it begin and end? - 11/17/2007 1:54:00 AM

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I would have objected strenuously as well if I wasn't rock hard for the length of the conversation.

I'm glad to see the majority in this thread understand this was purely about being rude and that being rude, which encompasses all of the lovely adjectives you used above, does not make you a domme. Now that I've had time to think about it, I can say the difference is she WASN'T my domme. When you're introduced to someone, you surely can't expect them to start licking your boots and letting you beat them. That's completely unreasonable and this was that type of situation except it played out on the internet. I surely would have dove headfirst had she been a pleasant person but she was anything but that. She may have been A domme but she wasn't MY domme.

Update: I contacted her tonight and was amazingly shocked to find the complete opposite of the person I annihilated last night. We had a great conversation about some things and a not so great conversation about one thing. However, when it came down to brass tax, I asked about calling and meeting, as she lives in West Egg too and she unequivocally said no. She was not very pleased with what happened in our first conversation and that was enough for her. She wanted to be "chat buds" but for me, surely after what happened the first time, I wasn't going to waste my time for a "chat bud." So, in the end, I finally got to talk to a decent person but because of a initial conversation, she took down an ugly road, she was not interested. So goes my adevnture: Meet great people who live thousands of miles away and fucking pricks that live five miles away.

Edit: I'm actually reading some of these replies and did you people even read my post? What the hell makes you think I was in a relationship with this woman?

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RE: 24/7 but where does it begin and end? - 11/17/2007 3:34:45 AM

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She will be back. You live in the same town!

Don't you watch romantic comedies? The hero and heroine always clash like crazy when they first meet ....but somehow they cannot resist going back for more

This has twisted D/s romance written all over it, CC. She gets to you

I give her a couple of weeks and curiosity will get the better of her and she will meet you in person.

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RE: 24/7 but where does it begin and end? - 11/17/2007 5:12:13 AM

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Although Mistress and I live in different states right now, there is a constant 24/7 D/s thing with us, albeit a more relaxed one 90% of the time. While I can speak freely and do silly things to make Her laugh, I cherish the idea of Her complete dominance over me from a thousand miles away. It's like I can feel Her dominant aura and I constantly feel my submission to Her at a steady boil. To those who may listen to one of our conversations, we may seem more like a boyfriend/girlfriend thing than a Mistress/slave. We laugh, cut up, make fart jokes, talk about religion, world news, sports, D/s, fetish, anything under the sun. I love the regalness a full-blown D/s moment, but there is no way either of us could keep that level of intensity up 24/7. I love the fact that we can still be a "normal" couple, but underneath it all lies the fact that I hunger to always be under Her boot or lower than the ground She walks on. We know and cherish our places in the relationship...She is superior and above me, I melt into my place below Her. It's a dynamic that works really well for us. Anyone have a similar style or something completely different?

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RE: 24/7 but where does it begin and end? - 11/17/2007 6:59:01 AM

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quote:

What was the purpose of this question/rant?

To analyze his boner chat.

From now on we can surmise that "pleasantly foul conversation" means CC was "rock hard for the length of the conversation."

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RE: 24/7 but where does it begin and end? - 11/17/2007 8:09:58 AM

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ORIGINAL: MsCfromMelbourne
I give her a couple of weeks and curiosity will get the better of her and she will meet you in person.

In my speed reading, this came out as:
"I give her a couple of weeks and curiosity will get the better of her and she will meet you in prison."

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RE: 24/7 but where does it begin and end? - 11/17/2007 11:39:18 AM

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I wish a hot stranger would walk up to me on the street and tell me to lick her shoes....

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RE: 24/7 but where does it begin and end? - 11/17/2007 12:50:09 PM

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ORIGINAL: CollegeConundrum

I would have objected strenuously as well if I wasn't rock hard for the length of the conversation.

I'm glad to see the majority in this thread understand this was purely about being rude and that being rude, which encompasses all of the lovely adjectives you used above, does not make you a domme.

For the record, I did not get any impression that you were in a relationship with this Lady. Which is precisely why I felt that your question/rant was silly and unproductive. Use your head (the one above your shoulders)! The entire whine was completely unecessary , IMO. I firmly believe you already knew the answer to your useless question, but you couldn't resist coming here and pitching a little bitch to see what would happen.
That said, it appears you are stuck between a rock and a hard place...
It seems it really didn't matter, until after the fact, that she wasn't your Domme. You admit it got you "rock hard".
You only had a problem with it afterward. Sorry, but I find that absolutely amusing!
Take your pick...you can have a nice conversation with a limp dick, or a rude conversation that gets you off (on IM no less!), and get over your mad later. Just don't think it is necessary to drag us into it.
So maybe you like being caught between "the rock and the hard place"?

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RE: 24/7 but where does it begin and end? - 11/17/2007 2:20:03 PM

CollegeConundrum

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MisPandora
In my speed reading, this came out as:

You read this?

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RE: 24/7 but where does it begin and end? - 11/17/2007 3:58:30 PM

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Consider it another weeding tool and move on. She might find those who like it right off the bat. Who knows?

But, there are those of us who are looking for relationships and feel that it's two healthy adults with equal value coming into it together. They agree that there will be an inequality in status in their defined structure and transfer of authority.

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RE: 24/7 but where does it begin and end? - 11/18/2007 3:44:49 AM

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MasterFireMaam wrote: Consider it another weeding tool and move on.

What, you mean his rock hard cock? I'd never thought of using it for weeding before. This opens up a whole underexplored avenue of garden service -- being Mistress's hoe, and so on.

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RE: 24/7 but where does it begin and end? - 11/18/2007 3:47:00 AM

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ORIGINAL: CollegeConundrum

I had a pleasantly foul conversation with a woman last night, who proclaimed that she lived the lifestyle 24/7 therefore she was okay in treating everyone like shit.

It was her contention that she did not have to approach me with any kind of respect or civility and that I should have been expected to be put down and insulted. Now I did read her profile and that's clearly what she's into, it is partially what attracted me to her. My problem lies in the fact that there was no "introduction" process, she went right into domme mode with a complete stranger. I found this incredibly offensive and likened it to a complete stranger walking up to me on the street and demanding I lick her shoes. How hot she was not withstanding, I'd probably tell her to go fuck herself.

This type of behavior is always decried when it's a male dominant to a female submissive and I've always passed that off as the male ego or personality disfunction. However, now that I've experienced fist hand, I'm wondering why would a person believe he or she has the right to push this aspect of their personality onto a person within minutes of knowing them? In a dungeon or party setting, I can understand clearly but in a strictly social aspect, it baffles me.

Now, regarding my thread title, this woman claimed to be the person she represents here 24/7 but isn't there a line where you put that person in the background to exist in vanilla society or at least until a sense of familiarity and comfortability is gained? The roles between any two people will be obvious, coming from this website, so my contention is that it's more important to display the person rather than the dominant or the submissive when you're being introduced to each other.

Cliffs: wtf? Did any of that shit make sense?

No, was there a conversational topic in there somewhere? You talked to her, she was rude, you don't like her, she's a bitch, but yet you talked to her again and wanted to meet her and she's a bitch for not meeting you???? Come on man stop thinking with your "rock-hardness" and making your own drama, this is a nobrainer.

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RE: 24/7 but where does it begin and end? - 11/18/2007 5:37:23 AM

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RE: 24/7 but where does it begin and end? - 11/18/2007 10:32:53 AM

TexasMaam

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CC,

There's a difference between being a Domme and just being plain boorish.

I don't live BDSM 24/7 but my Dominant persona is my usual m.o. whether at the office or anywhere else. If some people don't care for My style or personality it really doesn't bother me.

That said, I would be very careful not to intimidate or humiliate someone I didn't even know.

Some Domme's just think being bitchy sarcastic and rude is what D/s is all about.

Others think that no matter who you are you should take whatever boorish crap they want to dish out.

Whether to take it or not is up to you. I understand why you were turned on by the treatment if humiliation is a rush for you, but in the long run I think you'll find that a Domme who humiliates from jumpstreet in cyberspace is just a wannabe.

You'll learn to discern the real from the imposters soon enough.

Good luck to you,

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RE: 24/7 but where does it begin and end? - 11/18/2007 10:40:46 AM

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ORIGINAL: CollegeConundrum

Update: I contacted her tonight and was amazingly shocked to find the complete opposite of the person I annihilated last night. We had a great conversation about some things and a not so great conversation about one thing. However, when it came down to brass tax, I asked about calling and meeting, as she lives in West Egg too and she unequivocally said no. She was not very pleased with what happened in our first conversation and that was enough for her. She wanted to be "chat buds" but for me, surely after what happened the first time, I wasn't going to waste my time for a "chat bud." So, in the end, I finally got to talk to a decent person but because of a initial conversation, she took down an ugly road, she was not interested. So goes my adevnture: Meet great people who live thousands of miles away and fucking pricks that live five miles away.

lololol, I'm sorry to laugh at your update, but I hadn't read it before I posted a moment ago. Time usually tells, you see.

It sounds to me as though your happy hardon convo was probably alcohol related if she did a complete turnabout on you. I'll bet my best flogger she was sauced and horny at the time of the initial conversation, then sobered up and felt like an idjit.

Read the red flags and move on, horny boy, there will be another Domme all too eager to trip your trigger with some hot humiliation at the appropriate time.

Live and learn, now you know you like humiliation. Take that with you and have fun with it when you meet a Domme who takes it seriously.

Best of luck,

TexasMaam

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RE: 24/7 but where does it begin and end? - 11/18/2007 10:47:35 AM

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Sunday?

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RE: 24/7 but where does it begin and end? - 11/18/2007 2:50:10 PM

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People are still responding to this thread?

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RE: 24/7 but where does it begin and end? - 11/19/2007 8:14:49 AM

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BowAtMyFeet, thanks for sharing! You are a lady of infinite patience, and actually a real person---honestly, I thought that little mr cc had made you up...

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RE: 24/7 but where does it begin and end? - 11/19/2007 12:31:34 PM

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Holy Shit, I just read most of that, and I can not believe that he started the post saying she was rude. he was disrespectful right at the begining and I would have ended the conversation then. he was disrespectful throughout the whole convo, BowAtMyFeet, why would you tolerate that? That was nothing like I expected from the OP.

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RE: 24/7 but where does it begin and end? - 11/19/2007 12:33:02 PM

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Holy Shit, I just read most of that, and I can not believe that he started the post saying she was rude. he was disrespectful right at the begining and I would have ended the conversation then. he was disrespectful throughout the whole convo, BowAtMyFeet, why would you tolerate that? That was nothing like I expected from the OP.

You're not as used to his style of posting as the rest of us, is all. CC can be counted on for snorts of annoyance, laughter, or both at the same time.

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