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Worthy to serve? - 11/16/2007 5:33:51 PM

Missokyst

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While doing a bit of mail on the main site I noticed that quite a few dominant profiles flipping by me in the last 30 mins or so have a similar theme.
"I find myself seeking a slave who is worthy to serve me and will obey all my commands"
"Email me only if you are real and believe you are worthy to become my property"
"You must be young, fit and crave to serve all my needs"
Curiousity got to me after a while and I opened up a few of their profiles. Most of them listed themselves as experts in a range of play. But few said anything about what made them worthy to be considered, themselves.
What does "worthy to serve all my needs" mean to you?
Would you consider dropping anyone an introductory email if that was the first thing you saw when looking through profiles? Why, or why not?
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RE: Worthy to serve? - 11/16/2007 5:35:37 PM

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It wouldn't really attract me because it gives an attitude of too much take and not enough give- too cliche and trite for a real understanding of dynamics and getting to know people to form relationships.

But plenty of people find that attitude and perspective to be exactly what they want.

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RE: Worthy to serve? - 11/16/2007 5:38:28 PM

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L-A I'm with you on that one , and how can you really tell if one is fit and real or worthy from an email ?do they all accept pay pal too ?

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RE: Worthy to serve? - 11/16/2007 5:45:10 PM

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It does seem rather arrogant. i find that an aura of self-confidence that borders on arrogance can be very sexy. It can actually make a man who is not handsome at all seem hot. So i can see why it works, for some.

However, if every contact with the Dom reeked of that attitude, where i was to try to meet some hidden standard in order to be worth His time i don't think i'd be spending much time or energy trying. There has to be some substance to the man besides the self-confidence... like a reason for it.

hmmm... perhaps it's in the Dom's Handbook? : P

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RE: Worthy to serve? - 11/16/2007 5:53:34 PM

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I never really hesitated to drop a line to someone even if I didn't think they were exactly what I wanted, or if their profile didn't seem to be too in depth. Many people just aren't great at (or don't want to) advertise themselves. Having said that, I've had the most luck with people I've interacted with here in the forums, and had relatively interesting profiles. So I never invested a lot of time into writing such folks. But you never know until you do.

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RE: Worthy to serve? - 11/16/2007 6:28:03 PM

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I once had a domme tell me she was not worth of my submission lol what ever

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RE: Worthy to serve? - 11/16/2007 6:54:20 PM

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I have to admit I enjoy a bit of arrogance in men. But yeah, there has to be some basis for that arrogance. Unfortunately that isn't the impression I got from reading those few profiles. I don't know why anyone would bite on that sort of empty personality but I guess they will from time to time. The thing that bugs me the most is that I get the feeling that people who use those phrases do it because they believe that is what we want to see.
*sigh*
One more reason for me to seek out nillas.
Kyst

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RE: Worthy to serve? - 11/16/2007 7:48:22 PM

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Kyst > maybe the same reason there are money slaves ? I have seen males give cash as a money slave to a FemDomme yet never see her ,meet her ,touch her no exchange just the money and mail directives to keep sending it .shruggs takes all kinds i guess .

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RE: Worthy to serve? - 11/16/2007 7:51:19 PM

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Holey smokes that always puzzles me too. We have all seen how many Jessi- slaves that post here in droves. Heck. If they want to send someone money, I will volunteer to call them dirt beneath my feet.
<g> it takes all kinds. And wowie.. that cash thing does sound like a nice idea...
Kyst

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RE: Worthy to serve? - 11/16/2007 7:53:26 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Missokyst

While doing a bit of mail on the main site I noticed that quite a few dominant profiles flipping by me in the last 30 mins or so have a similar theme.
"I find myself seeking a slave who is worthy to serve me and will obey all my commands"
"Email me only if you are real and believe you are worthy to become my property"
"You must be young, fit and crave to serve all my needs"
Curiousity got to me after a while and I opened up a few of their profiles. Most of them listed themselves as experts in a range of play. But few said anything about what made them worthy to be considered, themselves.
What does "worthy to serve all my needs" mean to you?
Would you consider dropping anyone an introductory email if that was the first thing you saw when looking through profiles? Why, or why not?
Kyst

To me the phrases You mentioned are a turn off; so there'd have to be something in the rest of the profile that really attracted me. Frankly i don't think such a thing has ever happened. "You must be worthy to serve Me" just screams selfish to me, and that's not a quality i look for in a Dom or Master.

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RE: Worthy to serve? - 11/16/2007 8:02:16 PM

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I have never been attracted to narcissists as a general rule..

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RE: Worthy to serve? - 11/16/2007 8:02:37 PM

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quote:

What does "worthy to serve all my needs" mean to you?

It means I would pass that profile by... I also passed by "strict", "firm", "I will punish you", and the ever popular "You will be completely submissive to me"...

Other catch phrases I do not like in a profile....

"No wannabes"
"No Fakes"
"No game players"
"no Drama"
"No liars"

The above just reeks of baggage

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RE: Worthy to serve? - 11/16/2007 8:16:18 PM

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LMAO.. I just read one that used ALL of those phrases in bold type. He was moaning because everyone who contacts him blocks him after a few emails.
Kyst

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

Other catch phrases I do not like in a profile....

"No wannabes"
"No Fakes"
"No game players"
"no Drama"
"No liars"

The above just reeks of baggage

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RE: Worthy to serve? - 11/16/2007 8:24:38 PM

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Only read this post if you are worthy.

People get wrapped up in presenting an image that they think will be acceptable to the bdsm community and forget the goal is to attract real people. Or maybe an image is all they want.

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RE: Worthy to serve? - 11/16/2007 8:28:43 PM

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Anytime I see a "worthy" line in a profile when it isnt talking about being conisidered or collared and proving themselves particularly worthy OF something concrete, it reminds me of a lot of other jargon on here. People throw around buzz words that they believe make them sound more experienced or more serious about the lifestyle even when they dont know what they are talking about. I feel the same way about those that talk extensvely about wanting to worship someone. They dont say HOW they plan on doing this, but the word itself should be enough to get attention.

Just my 2 cents.

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RE: Worthy to serve? - 11/16/2007 8:30:42 PM

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LMAO.. I just read one that used ALL of those phrases in bold type. He was moaning because everyone who contacts him blocks him after a few emails.
Kyst

I think I read that one toooooo!!

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RE: Worthy to serve? - 11/16/2007 8:47:17 PM

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Isn't that what we all really want though?

I mean most people don't go around saying "I want someone who is good enough for me and is worthy of my attention" but come on now. Besides compatibility that's probably the second most important thing on anyone's checklist. Think of all the reasons that people turn someone down. Too fat, too thin, too tall, too short, not ambitious enough, no job, addicted to cigarettes, drinks too much, obnoxious voice, bad teeth, acne, dandruff...whatever it is, aside from just incompatibility, is really a matter of "I want someone better than that."

We all want someone who is 'good enough' for us. Someone who is as loyal as we are, as family oriented as we are, as ambitious as we are, as attractive as we are. Someone who we see as worthy of our affection.

Yeah it's really tacky that these guys come out and say it...some things are better left unspoken. But maybe that just means they value honesty over tact. Some people actually like that.

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RE: Worthy to serve? - 11/16/2007 8:51:58 PM

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I value honesty over tact- that doesn't mean that tact isn't important or to be used. It means when there's a point at which tact becomes unimportant in the pursuit of honesty. I don't think one's personal ad comes even close to that point and it shows that a person who DOES think so is clearly incompatible with my views on manners and presentation.

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RE: Worthy to serve? - 11/16/2007 8:59:25 PM

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WOW i just saw an ad for a phone sex line they even asked if your worthy call .Almost like a challenge so are you i double dog dare ya ,I triple dog dare ya "if your worthy "..then followed by stuuu stuuck stuck ahhhh

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RE: Worthy to serve? - 11/16/2007 8:59:57 PM

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And that is the crux. I enjoy a bit of arrogance in people if there is some reason on which to base that .. confidence. But, when I see a profile that reads as those did earlier, I see it as selfish posturing. And not at all compatible with my views on manners or presentation.
But, some people enjoy that.
Once again my former retail manager is proven correct. "For every ugly piece of crap that we have to unload, there will be a buyer for whom that item is perfect."
Wal-mart. ``
Kyst

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross
and it shows that a person who DOES think so is clearly incompatible with my views on manners and presentation.

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