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RE: The Unknown? - 11/18/2007 5:44:58 PM

Prinsexx

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ORIGINAL: SteelofUtah

Having only been on CM long enough to get a particular distaste for some of the more nasty comments I have come to ask a question for those who frequent here for whatever myriad of reasons you choose.

When something in your private (Offline World) life starts to get abnormal and things are no longer where you would want them to be and you do not know what to do and the person you would normally ask is the person causing the tilt, where do you go for answers, and then how do you determine what you are going to do next?

Steel

Well i start with my instinct, then my conscience than my source of theories, or take a tarot, or deep breathing, or self-medicate...if non of that works.....summon the courage to ask a friend in kink ....let's say another trusted Dom as there's no way a vanilla response would fix it.....and I have posted personal questions on here as so amny know who have responded both on the forum and by email.......
I would do and do often do the same for friends in kink........and I always feel priviledged to be considered ablto help

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RE: The Unknown? - 11/18/2007 7:01:17 PM

phedre81

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ORIGINAL: SteelofUtah

What I feel I have either failed to present or went misunderstood is that there are times when you and your partner will NOT have the answers. Seeing how SOME (not all but some) of the people of the people who have come across as having all the answers I wanted to know WHAT they do when they DONT have an answer.

And I think you're getting answers to this--most people go to another trusted friend, or a professional.

Coming here, for serious problems a person can't solve on their own simply isn't a great idea.

Sure, I might do it, if it was something I thought there might be a variety of opinions on, and I wanted to see what the arguments were for differing opinions (like, God forbid, the safe word debates).

And, frankly, there seem to be a fair number of people who come here to say, "I'm collared by Dom X, and he beat my bloody the other day, as his slave do I have to take this??" and the answer that until you have some knowledge and understanding you aren't wise to dive into 24/7 TPE may not be a welcome one, but is an honest one, nonetheless.

I say that so say that I think SOME of what you might be considering "Arrogant Crap" is in fact helpful advice, just unwelcome.

That being said, of course there are assholes around here. Like I said, any grown adult should be able to cull through the meaningless snark and find some helpful points to ponder.

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