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RE: Life sucks. There's no Master out there for me. - 11/18/2007 6:10:38 AM   
sambamanslilgirl


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ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire

You find the best things in life when you stop looking... I found both of mine as soon as I gave up becasue there were no decent slaves to be had. I know the feeling, and giving up isnt always the worst thing in the world. 

DV


i agree.

i was getting frustrated in my searching that Daddy advised i stop and concentrate on my writings/band reviews.  that's how i met my fiance here on CM.

good luck


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RE: Life sucks. There's no Master out there for me. - 11/18/2007 6:17:53 AM   
chellekitty


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ORIGINAL: hermione83

But, but.. I'm confused. How do you find boots if you weren't.. um.. looking at boots? And likewise, a Master?? 


i stopped looking for boots, and i just looked at all the things they had there...everything was thrown in bins together...and i found a boot...and then i started looking for it's match...could not find it...so i put it down and kept looking at what they had....and i found the other boot...so i ran back and picked up the first boot...i found the perfect boots at the goodwill clearance center...for 99 cents...and as i was cleaning them the other night i realized that they had been a well taken care of pair of  boots, none of the normal build up under the laces, polish on the stitching....they were not your average boots...i am very happy with my 99 cent boots...

i have a Dominant that i am talking to....i found him when i was not looking...in fact i was vehemently not looking...found him on these boards...just doing this...talking to people...responding to messages, posting messages...and through just being myself and him being himself (he was not looking either) we were attracted to eachother...and it has grown from there...

i will take a moment to say that finding and keeping are two totally different things...

chelle


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RE: Life sucks. There's no Master out there for me. - 11/18/2007 6:18:21 AM   
juliaoceania


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ORIGINAL: eyesopened

The Law of Attraction states that the affirmations you play over and over will determine your outcome.  As long as you continue to state that there is no Master for you, then that will remain your reality because the Universe see this as your desire.  Why not take a more positive view?  Once you affirm that there IS a Master for you, and really believe it, you might be surprized at how quickly one will arrive.


I made a list of everything I wanted in a dominant, and he showed up a very short time later.


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RE: Life sucks. There's no Master out there for me. - 11/18/2007 6:18:44 AM   
mistoferin


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ORIGINAL: hermione83

lol, ty mistoferin, 'xactly what I was going for as you can see.


So then this post was just a means of announcing that you are single and looking?

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RE: Life sucks. There's no Master out there for me. - 11/18/2007 6:32:06 AM   
GentleLee


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Status: offline 		I don't want to burst your bubble, but with your profile, your exact demands, and your negativity it might indeed be very hard to "find" a dominant that suits you. Not to mention that you have to match his own wants and needs as well.

Hard, but not impossible. Nothing ever is when you set your mind to it.

Good luck,
Lee

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RE: Life sucks. There's no Master out there for me. - 11/18/2007 7:17:40 AM   
cplwantsslaves


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Status: offline 		We know how you feel, and actually liked reading your profile. I would have even written and wanted us to get to know each other more had I not been married or into poly.....which you obviously are not looking for. If you think its hard to find a master, think how hard it must be for a dominant couple to find a sub or slave...especially one between 18 and 30...the ages we prefer. We really get a lot out of training ones who are new to the lifestyle. It makes us quite proud to see a well trained sub or slave...the product of our training. However, we aren't deppressed. We may be lonely, but we know the right ones are out there somewhere...just very hard to find.

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RE: Life sucks. There's no Master out there for me. - 11/18/2007 8:08:34 AM   
MrSpectacular


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Status: offline 		Hermione - you are correct there is no one for you - Your profile and attitude clearly indicate that you should probably give up right now. Or, you could re-state  things and do positive actions, set goals for what you want or seem to be seeking.


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RE: Life sucks. There's no Master out there for me. - 11/18/2007 9:01:24 AM   
subfever


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ORIGINAL: hermione83

That is all.


Maybe because you're wearing a face that you keep in a jar by the door.

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RE: Life sucks. There's no Master out there for me. - 11/18/2007 9:05:29 AM   
Raechard


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Status: offline 		There is more to life than finding a Master, yep there’s TV too.

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RE: Life sucks. There's no Master out there for me. - 11/18/2007 9:32:48 AM   
styleislife8


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Status: offline 		keep your chin up, darling. i am all too lucky having found a loving Master quickly. of course i had little expectations. my ex boyfriend (he was not involved in the livestyle at all.) was the perfect man for me...but he could not commit himself to me. so just when i stopped looking for someone perfect for me...i found Him <3. sometimes you have to suffer to become a better person. take this time to focus internally and right your issues with yourself... it helps. if you are happy with yourself, it will be much easier for a Master to be happy with you.

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RE: Life sucks. There's no Master out there for me. - 11/18/2007 10:53:22 AM   
MistressDoMe


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quote:

ORIGINAL: hermione83

That is all.


You are all of 24? Take your time.
Life is not easy, be patient and develop your skills and talents to be
the best YOU that is possible.
You will be surprised the people you will attract, when you
are taking care of yourself and reaching for your goals.

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RE: Life sucks. There's no Master out there for me. - 11/18/2007 1:25:14 PM   
krikket


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ORIGINAL: Sexynmentalinkc


You're quite welcome. As I said, we've all been there - and some still are I'd bet.

- Mr. S


Boy howdy "ain't" that the truth..lol...

To the OP..yup..it's true we usually find what we want the most, and what is best for us when we stop looking (i have 3 handsome, grown um's that i was told i'd never have and only after i gave up..lol). 

Also, sometimes when we have such negative thoughts they often become a self-fulling prophecy...

good luck and huggles hon...

jimini

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RE: Life sucks. There's no Master out there for me. - 11/18/2007 2:02:23 PM   
osocurious


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Status: offline 		here I am again with no “real” experience to base my thoughts or opinions on … other then what seems to me to be simple common sense found in what I'm reading in the CollarMe forum.

I find the attitude of   “Life sucks … There's no Master out there for me” .. to be completely Sad and without truth.

There seems to be loads of “Master’s” desiring “slaves”
But as I see it … these Master’s (for better or worse / right or wrong ) see themselves as just that … “Masters” … they Will Have a slave on THEIR terms …or not at all!!
( which would … in my un experienced opinion … seem to be exactly as it should be … *shrugs* … again, only my opinion )
So again … it seems to me … that if someone is indeed a “true” slave … genuinely seeking a REAL Master … there shouldn’t be a problem … should there???
And .. “Who” the Master is … shouldn’t be that big of an issue … should it????

( but this is the part that’s confusing to me …. I always wonder “who” in fact makes the rules and defines the relationship … who is it that REALLY holds the power …
Master or slave?? )

So I can’t help wondering …
Is the OP really saying …. I can’t find the exact Master “I Want” … the one who is willing to accept me on “my” terms … with “my conditions, stipulations, sense of time, and / or …anything else that might be part of the .. “I Can’t Find” scenario???

I'd like to add that I REALLY Believe in the following from EyesOpened ... I think E/every one can benefit from that mind set

quote:

ORIGINAL: eyesopened
The Law of Attraction states that the affirmations you play over and over will determine your outcome.  As long as you continue to state that there is no Master for you, then that will remain your reality because the Universe see this as your desire.  Why not take a more positive view?  Once you affirm that there IS a Master for you, and really believe it, you might be surprized at how quickly one will arrive.


respectfully
~ curious ~

< Message edited by osocurious -- 11/18/2007 2:05:10 PM >

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RE: Life sucks. There's no Master out there for me. - 11/18/2007 2:24:58 PM   
popeye1250


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Status: offline 		I read your profile and it's not bad.
Some things don't make sense though.
There aren't " a lot" of under 35 guys these days who are financially independant i.e. homeowners, make $50k or more.
We can thank this "global economy" for that!
A lot of lawyers are only making $40k these days.
Also, you seem to be doing a bit of "topping from the bottom" in some of your "demands."
You seem to be saying that you're a "Daddy's girl" but then a "slave" but then you don't want to serve," like a maid."
I think you need to refine more who you are and what you're looking for.
Your self description is all across the board. *It's confusing.*
And, you don't get to tell a Master if that's what you're looking for what he can do.
I hope that helps.

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RE: Life sucks. There's no Master out there for me. - 11/18/2007 5:06:35 PM   
hermione83


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Status: offline 		Thanks all. Mist - yes, you discovered my master plan! Really though, I was joking, obviously I didn't think I'd find someone this way. I really just wanted to vent.

Anyway, I'm not sure what's wrong with my profile though? I don't feel like it's negative at all. *this* is, but my profile isn't. Is it? If so, could someone point it out to me (really)?

To popeye - I really don't think I'm all over the place. I'm a strange mix of things, true, but I know exactly who I am. I've had a relationship for a very long time with someone who wanted all the same things I did and that I tried to convey in my profile. Not every sub wants to be furniture or to be a live-in maid. I'm more of the intelligent, willful but shy princessy girl who gets made into a slave by a very strong personality. It's not *that* rare. Really, though, the little girl thing doesn't contradict that .. how many little girls do you know that really *want* to be a servant?

Also, to everyone... I'm not sure that what I say is very demanding. I didn't mean he had to own a house or be rich. I wanted someone who isn't dependent on parents, either. And most of the guys I've met my age seem to not work, have no plans for the future, and live in their parents basement. I don't want to have to top from the bottom to get their life right. It's too hard, I've tried. Otherwise, everything was the mirror of what I am, and only someone like that would want someone like me. It's basic compatibility. I'm not *just* a slave, I'm a slave looking for her soulmate. Do girls actually just find someone who will have them and change their person to suit someone else? If I found someone right for me, I'd definitely be willing to be changed into a better (not a different) version of myself, and be molded, and to be theirs completely. But not anyone's... does that make any vague sense? If I'm wrong in my thinking, feel free to correct me.

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RE: Life sucks. There's no Master out there for me. - 11/18/2007 5:38:23 PM   
Rule


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quote:

ORIGINAL: eyesopened
The Law of Attraction states that the affirmations you play over and over will determine your outcome.  As long as you continue to state that there is no Master for you, then that will remain your reality because the Universe see this as your desire.  Why not take a more positive view?  Once you affirm that there IS a Master for you, and really believe it, you might be surprized at how quickly one will arrive.

Quite. Be positive. The universe will provide for you the master that you desire.

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RE: Life sucks. There's no Master out there for me. - 11/18/2007 6:44:49 PM   
DomMeinCT


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ORIGINAL: hermione83

Thanks all. Mist - yes, you discovered my master plan! Really though, I was joking, obviously I didn't think I'd find someone this way. I really just wanted to vent.

Anyway, I'm not sure what's wrong with my profile though? I don't feel like it's negative at all. *this* is, but my profile isn't. Is it? If so, could someone point it out to me (really)?

To popeye - I really don't think I'm all over the place. I'm a strange mix of things, true, but I know exactly who I am. I've had a relationship for a very long time with someone who wanted all the same things I did and that I tried to convey in my profile. Not every sub wants to be furniture or to be a live-in maid. I'm more of the intelligent, willful but shy princessy girl who gets made into a slave by a very strong personality. It's not *that* rare. Really, though, the little girl thing doesn't contradict that .. how many little girls do you know that really *want* to be a servant?

Also, to everyone... I'm not sure that what I say is very demanding. I didn't mean he had to own a house or be rich. I wanted someone who isn't dependent on parents, either. And most of the guys I've met my age seem to not work, have no plans for the future, and live in their parents basement. I don't want to have to top from the bottom to get their life right. It's too hard, I've tried. Otherwise, everything was the mirror of what I am, and only someone like that would want someone like me. It's basic compatibility. I'm not *just* a slave, I'm a slave looking for her soulmate. Do girls actually just find someone who will have them and change their person to suit someone else? If I found someone right for me, I'd definitely be willing to be changed into a better (not a different) version of myself, and be molded, and to be theirs completely. But not anyone's... does that make any vague sense? If I'm wrong in my thinking, feel free to correct me.



With all due respect, if you consider that a number of experienced, reasonable people have given you feedback on your profile and you need to explain THAT much (see above), it stands to reason that others reading your profile and not seeing your explanations are going to be confused.

Of course it's your choice whether to keep or change your profile as you see fit, but you posted looking for responses, and you've gotten them.

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RE: Life sucks. There's no Master out there for me. - 11/18/2007 7:06:03 PM   
dcnovice


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ORIGINAL: subfever

quote:

ORIGINAL: hermione83

That is all.


Maybe because you're wearing a face that you keep in a jar by the door.


That sounds like a reference to something, but I'm not getting it.

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RE: Life sucks. There's no Master out there for me. - 11/18/2007 7:07:21 PM   
corsetgirl


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Status: offline 		I have stopped looking a long time ago, which is refreshing as I am taking the time to know what I want and don't want out of a D's relationship.  I have had a few bumps along the way but this is my way of picking up, dusting off, and getting to know who I am in becoming stronger than what I was in comparison to 2-3 years ago. 

The road to finding the right dom is not always easy but I would rather be alone and unowned than be involved in a miserable relationship that will not work for me.  I am also getting out to my local BDSM communities and at least making friends.

I wish you well.

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RE: Life sucks. There's no Master out there for me. - 11/18/2007 11:58:30 PM   
hermione83


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Status: offline 		It's a reference to the beatles song I mentioned earlier, eleanor rigby.. ;)

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