Collarspace Discussion Forums


Home  Login  Search 

Why does CM need to say how long we have been members?


View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest
 
All Forums >> [Casual Banter] >> Off the Grid >> Why does CM need to say how long we have been members? Page: [1] 2   next >   >>
Login
Message << Older Topic   Newer Topic >>
Why does CM need to say how long we have been members? - 11/20/2007 8:32:55 AM   
sexyred1


Posts: 8998
Joined: 8/9/2007
Status: offline 		I am curious about this for one reason.

Recently, I have been getting a ton of emails asking a variation of the same thing:

"hey Sexyred, I noticed your profile has been up for some time now and it seems you cannot find the perfect Master, but I would be willing to play with you, NSA, so get in touch"

or

"I have been watching you for a few years and I don't understand why you have not found someone, maybe you are asking for too much"

Get my drift here?

I see no value in CM publishing how long one has been a member when it results in annoying emails that presume that length of time being on a site has anyting to do with success rate on said site.

Thoughts? or am I just bored on this rainy day and irritated at these emails.

< Message edited by sexyred1 -- 11/20/2007 8:33:25 AM >
Profile   Post #: 1
RE: Why does CM need to say how long we have been members? - 11/20/2007 8:35:26 AM   
mnottertail


Posts: 60698
Joined: 11/3/2004
Status: offline 		well, the other end of the spectrum is annoying as well, just joined today, first post drama or nigerian queens who want a god fearing man......well, I like it.

Ron

_____________________________

Have they not divided the prey; to every man a damsel or two? Judges 5:30


(in reply to sexyred1)
Profile   Post #: 2
RE: Why does CM need to say how long we have been members? - 11/20/2007 8:39:09 AM   
Raechard


Posts: 3513
Joined: 3/10/2007
From: S.E. London U.K.
Status: offline 		New profiles old members.

If you are worried about shelf life there is nothing stopping you rejoining as quite a few do.



_____________________________

えへまにんへえや
Nobody wants to listen to the same song over and over again!

(in reply to mnottertail)
Profile   Post #: 3
RE: Why does CM need to say how long we have been members? - 11/20/2007 8:40:04 AM   
DiurnalVampire


Posts: 8125
Joined: 1/19/2006
From: Nashville, TN
Status: offline 		Anyone spending more time looking at when you joined and not necessarily reading your profile should just be ignored. They get annoying, yes, but so do the emails from the first day memebers who know everything there is to know about BDSM and tell you that they have been intersted in you for a while though they just joined that day.
If you want a good response for the annoyances, you could always have a stock answer of "Ive been here for a long time becasue I am picky. Emails like yours outweigh the worthwhile ones... which is why I am still here and looking."
Or something suitably snarky.
No matter what facts are or arent published, you are going to get someone who thinks they are "helping" by finding some little thing in your profile and talking about only that.

DV


_____________________________

I will be your Dominate if you will be my submit - Fox

Snarko Ergo Sum
If you cannot change your mind, how are you so sure you still have one? -proverb

*Owner of Fox - collared 10/13/07*
VampiresLair

(in reply to mnottertail)
Profile   Post #: 4
RE: Why does CM need to say how long we have been members? - 11/20/2007 8:47:59 AM   
sexyred1


Posts: 8998
Joined: 8/9/2007
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Raechard

New profiles old members.

If you are worried about shelf life there is nothing stopping you rejoining as quite a few do.




Not sure what you mean about shelf life?  I had to rejoin in August of 2007 but used my same photos and variation of my same sn. I only did that because of technical difficulties.

No one has still answered my question, if it can be answered at all.

(in reply to Raechard)
Profile   Post #: 5
RE: Why does CM need to say how long we have been members? - 11/20/2007 8:49:10 AM   
DiurnalVampire


Posts: 8125
Joined: 1/19/2006
From: Nashville, TN
Status: offline 		Which question have we not answered?
Get my drift? or Thoughts?



_____________________________

I will be your Dominate if you will be my submit - Fox

Snarko Ergo Sum
If you cannot change your mind, how are you so sure you still have one? -proverb

*Owner of Fox - collared 10/13/07*
VampiresLair

(in reply to sexyred1)
Profile   Post #: 6
RE: Why does CM need to say how long we have been members? - 11/20/2007 8:49:15 AM   
sexyred1


Posts: 8998
Joined: 8/9/2007
Status: offline 		I think my entire point here is that there seems to be no apparent upside to CM posting date of joining, whether you are new or old.

(in reply to sexyred1)
Profile   Post #: 7
RE: Why does CM need to say how long we have been members? - 11/20/2007 8:50:17 AM   
mnottertail


Posts: 60698
Joined: 11/3/2004
Status: offline 		everyone has answered your question....it is as I understand english----
quote:


Thoughts?

other than that, CM don't NEED to say how long, but they do.

I didn't NEED to say this, but I did.

Ron

_____________________________

Have they not divided the prey; to every man a damsel or two? Judges 5:30


(in reply to sexyred1)
Profile   Post #: 8
RE: Why does CM need to say how long we have been members? - 11/20/2007 8:51:06 AM   
Raechard


Posts: 3513
Joined: 3/10/2007
From: S.E. London U.K.
Status: offline 		You can hide the date you joined if you like.

_____________________________

えへまにんへえや
Nobody wants to listen to the same song over and over again!

(in reply to sexyred1)
Profile   Post #: 9
RE: Why does CM need to say how long we have been members? - 11/20/2007 8:52:11 AM   
sexyred1


Posts: 8998
Joined: 8/9/2007
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Raechard

You can hide the date you joined if you like.


really? where? in settings?

(in reply to Raechard)
Profile   Post #: 10
RE: Why does CM need to say how long we have been members? - 11/20/2007 8:53:22 AM   
mnottertail


Posts: 60698
Joined: 11/3/2004
Status: offline 		no, I don't think that is correct, you can hide last online, but I am unaware of join date hiding

_____________________________

Have they not divided the prey; to every man a damsel or two? Judges 5:30


(in reply to sexyred1)
Profile   Post #: 11
RE: Why does CM need to say how long we have been members? - 11/20/2007 8:55:43 AM   
Raechard


Posts: 3513
Joined: 3/10/2007
From: S.E. London U.K.
Status: offline 		Look now I joined in 1960

_____________________________

えへまにんへえや
Nobody wants to listen to the same song over and over again!

(in reply to mnottertail)
Profile   Post #: 12
RE: Why does CM need to say how long we have been members? - 11/20/2007 8:57:36 AM   
mnottertail


Posts: 60698
Joined: 11/3/2004
Status: offline 		3/10/07

_____________________________

Have they not divided the prey; to every man a damsel or two? Judges 5:30


(in reply to Raechard)
Profile   Post #: 13
RE: Why does CM need to say how long we have been members? - 11/20/2007 8:58:07 AM   
Raechard


Posts: 3513
Joined: 3/10/2007
From: S.E. London U.K.
Status: offline 		I don't know about the other side but you can do it here by ticking the option titled 'hide profile'.

_____________________________

えへまにんへえや
Nobody wants to listen to the same song over and over again!

(in reply to Raechard)
Profile   Post #: 14
RE: Why does CM need to say how long we have been members? - 11/20/2007 9:01:18 AM   
mistoferin


Posts: 8284
Joined: 10/27/2004
Status: offline 		Guess I've never really given much thought to what people think about my join date...and to be really honest I don't really care what they think. I've been on here a few years and been single most of that time....but it's not an indicator that I am somehow defective or undesirable. It's been because I have had one hell of a good time being single and I haven't had any real desire to change that. If someone comes along that just blows my doors off and gets me thinking along those lines....that's cool too. But for someone to think that there is something wrong with you and you deserve a pity play session based on your join date....screw all of that, just tells me that they are someone I don't really want to have an association with anyway.

_____________________________

Peace and light,
~erin~

There are no victims here...only volunteers.

When you make a habit of playing on the tracks, you thereby forfeit the right to bitch when you get hit by a train.

"I did it! I admit it and I'm gonna do it again!"

(in reply to mnottertail)
Profile   Post #: 15
RE: Why does CM need to say how long we have been members? - 11/20/2007 9:03:50 AM   
sexyred1


Posts: 8998
Joined: 8/9/2007
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: mistoferin

Guess I've never really given much thought to what people think about my join date...and to be really honest I don't really care what they think. I've been on here a few years and been single most of that time....but it's not an indicator that I am somehow defective or undesirable. It's been because I have had one hell of a good time being single and I haven't had any real desire to change that. If someone comes along that just blows my doors off and gets me thinking along those lines....that's cool too. But for someone to think that there is something wrong with you and you deserve a pity play session based on your join date....screw all of that, just tells me that they are someone I don't really want to have an association with anyway.


I agree, Erin. I was just wondering what value CM thought that additional bit of information was for, when other things were optional to post.

(in reply to mistoferin)
Profile   Post #: 16
RE: Why does CM need to say how long we have been members? - 11/20/2007 9:04:54 AM   
sexyred1


Posts: 8998
Joined: 8/9/2007
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: sexyred1

quote:

ORIGINAL: mistoferin

Guess I've never really given much thought to what people think about my join date...and to be really honest I don't really care what they think. I've been on here a few years and been single most of that time....but it's not an indicator that I am somehow defective or undesirable. It's been because I have had one hell of a good time being single and I haven't had any real desire to change that. If someone comes along that just blows my doors off and gets me thinking along those lines....that's cool too. But for someone to think that there is something wrong with you and you deserve a pity play session based on your join date....screw all of that, just tells me that they are someone I don't really want to have an association with anyway.


I agree, Erin. I was just wondering what value CM thought that additional bit of information was for, when other things were optional to post in a profile. And, when you get alot of ridiculous emails to contend with anyway, if there was one less thing to to deal with, I thought I would throw it there.

(in reply to sexyred1)
Profile   Post #: 17
RE: Why does CM need to say how long we have been members? - 11/20/2007 9:05:12 AM   
RCdc


Posts: 8674
Status: offline 		I always thought it was a pretty good tool.  The people writing the way they have to you - do you really care what they assume?  Are they adding anything positive or productive to your life?  No?  Then ignore them.
 
If your question is - whats the value - there is some. Rons already given cool examples.
[If your question is - are you bored and irked - only you can speak for yourself.
 
the.dark.

_____________________________
RC&dc


love isnt gazing into each others eyes - it's looking forward in the same direction

(in reply to sexyred1)
Profile   Post #: 18
RE: Why does CM need to say how long we have been members? - 11/20/2007 9:13:43 AM   
sexyred1


Posts: 8998
Joined: 8/9/2007
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark

I always thought it was a pretty good tool.  The people writing the way they have to you - do you really care what they assume?  Are they adding anything positive or productive to your life?  No?  Then ignore them.
 
If your question is - whats the value - there is some. Rons already given cool examples.
[If your question is - are you bored and irked - only you can speak for yourself.
 
the.dark.

 
Still not seeing the intrinsic value or cool examples you are referring to...

As for why I posed the question...no, I do not rank the annoyance I have over this high on my scale of problems, but thought it warranted asking the question as to what value it provided to members to know how long one was a member.

And yes, I do ignore these idiots, as I do other idiotic emails, but I am of the belief that no question is stupid unless it is not asked.

(well, with the exception of some of the questions asked on the forums here on CM).

 

< Message edited by sexyred1 -- 11/20/2007 9:14:35 AM >

(in reply to RCdc)
Profile   Post #: 19
RE: Why does CM need to say how long we have been members? - 11/20/2007 9:24:39 AM   
RCdc


Posts: 8674
Status: offline 		Examples already given - first post dramas, scammers, stalkers, or sudden 'support' on forums.
 
It's just another tool or 'part' to assist in weeding out good from red flags.  You just take it and add it with other information you get as well - so on it's own, like anything, doesn't point to much, but with others things melded with it, it can help make things clearer.
 
the.dark.


_____________________________
RC&dc


love isnt gazing into each others eyes - it's looking forward in the same direction

(in reply to sexyred1)
Profile   Post #: 20
Page:   [1] 2   next >   >>
All Forums >> [Casual Banter] >> Off the Grid >> Why does CM need to say how long we have been members? Page: [1] 2   next >   >>
Jump to:





New Messages No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages Locked w/o New Messages
 Post New Thread
 Reply to Message
 Post New Poll
 Submit Vote
 Delete My Own Post
 Delete My Own Thread
 Rate Posts




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy

0.233