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parttimehotty -> Another question please...........again, forgive the intrusion (11/20/2007 8:37:52 AM)

i thank you all for the wonderful posts regarding my whoring dilemma and it's given me much food for thought. My next question is this....my potential Dom was asking for a list of my hard limits and i replied that it was impossible for me to list the hard limits since i don't know them all. He has been a Dom for over 15 years and has a very creative imagination and i find myself adding new hard limits i'd never even thought of before. He said this was a fair answer and that when i find myself in this predicament, to offer something in exchange for the hard limit.  What would be a fair exhange for refusing to whore for Him?  Laugh if you will, but if you read my earlier post Subject "Please excuse this intrusion" you'll understand what i'm asking for.



SeekingDomme2Lov -> RE: Another question please...........again, forgive the intrusion (11/20/2007 9:10:27 AM)

Dang, Hotty.  If I remember right, a good summary of that last thread was: (1) get this guy *out* of your life, or (2) decide that you can, after all, serve him in a way that builds you up as a person, and go for it.  It doesn't sound to me as though you're taking either piece of advice.  Do you just want people to repeat what they said until they get frustrated and rude?

Something in exchange for a hard limit..... How about this?  Instead of destroying my confidence and self-respect by whoring me out, you and I engage in activities that build me up as a person.

Sounds like a win-win exchange to me.  Assuming you're going to be with this guy in the first place.

I don't think it matters to anyone who has posted whether he's been in the lifestyle for 15 years.  Maybe he's got a lot of experience.  Maybe he can tie the best shibari posture collar you've ever seen.  Big whoop. Either he protects and supports those under him, or he doesn't.  I've been on the Top and the Bottom, and I agree with those who said this *has nothing to do with BDSM* -- it has to do with basic responsibility to other human beings.

Throw down $75 and go see a counselor.



ctrlaltdelete -> RE: Another question please...........again, forgive the intrusion (11/20/2007 9:10:48 AM)

Is bending over and providing sexual access to your bodily orifices the only marketable skill that you possess? I would assume that as a 44 year old adult, you have held down a job before you had Mr. Sir Lord Pimpalicious on the other end of your leash.

How about you offer to turn over your paycheck from that job over to him for as long as he properly provides for all your needs.

Mind you, all your needs includes the respecting of your hard limits!



gorgeous1 -> RE: Another question please...........again, forgive the intrusion (11/20/2007 9:23:15 AM)

Ugh. I wouldn't exchange ANYTHING with this guy, not even phone sex. If he tried to insist on whoring you after you said it was destroying you, there's nothing to exchange. Are you trying to say he'll only accept that you give up another piece of your soul? A hard limit today is a hard limit TODAY. If six months down the road, you decide you want to explore something that was a hard limit, fine, but being forced to choose something from your list TODAY? HELL NO. Not with this guy.

I posted on your other thread and said that until you get your house in order, you will continue to find yourself in relationships like this. Go see a counselor and figure out why you feel you have no right to mental health and spiritual balance.



chellekitty -> RE: Another question please...........again, forgive the intrusion (11/20/2007 9:53:29 AM)

nothing would be a fair exchange...drop the looser, and explore your options...there are plenty of fish in the sea



toservez -> RE: Another question please...........again, forgive the intrusion (11/20/2007 9:57:52 AM)

I echo what everyone is saying. A power exchange relationship is a RELATIONSHIP. It is not a business negotiation. I think that it is fine that you are open to experience things and finding out something is a hard limit then just making up a best guess list but in my opinion a Master should love this approach but your idiot is degrading you and making you a lesser human being by trying to get you to believe a hard limit is weak and wrong. That is coming right up to if not crossing the line to abuse.

Sincere dominants worth serving respect hard limits no strings attached. No negotiations needed.



parttimehotty -> RE: Another question please...........again, forgive the intrusion (11/20/2007 10:08:38 AM)

Is the name calling really necessary?  I asked for advise, if you can't do that in a respectful manner, don't bother sharing your thoughts w/me.



chellekitty -> RE: Another question please...........again, forgive the intrusion (11/20/2007 10:15:19 AM)

i gave you my advice, if you don't like the manner in which i deliver it, feel free to skip over it...you don't seem to be reading the posts which say what "drop the looser" in a "respectful manner"...so i said it in a disrespectful manner...i can be a bit blunt that way...

hard limits are hard limits for a reason...because they are hard limits...if a hard limit is less of a hard limit and can be traded for another hard limit...then its not a hard limit...

however...if we are wrong and this guy truely cares about your well being and growth, and that is what he is trying to get out of you, instead of trying to use you and make money off of you instead of working himself, which is what you presented in your other post...then keep on ignoring our advice...actually, stop asking for our advice, based on this information....give us new information or stop asking....

good luck
chelle



ctrlaltdelete -> RE: Another question please...........again, forgive the intrusion (11/20/2007 10:17:17 AM)

If you cannot handle the heat, get hell out of the oven!

Good luck not catching some deadly disease, not getting beaten up by your Johns and not getting picked up by Vice.



gorgeous1 -> RE: Another question please...........again, forgive the intrusion (11/20/2007 10:17:55 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: parttimehotty

Is the name calling really necessary? I asked for advise, if you can't do that in a respectful manner, don't bother sharing your thoughts w/me.



From what you've shared about this guy, how can one not come to the conclusion that this guy is a LOSER? You claim you are asking for advice, and it sounds like you could be in trouble, and in an abusive relationship. What do you want? Advice or an endorsement for this dangerous behavior? If you're looking for somebody to applaud what this guy is doing, I'll keep my mouth shut.



parttimehotty -> RE: Another question please...........again, forgive the intrusion (11/20/2007 10:18:13 AM)

You must be one of those illegal aliens that can't read or speak English.  READ MY REQUEST AGAIN! Then STFU.



chellekitty -> RE: Another question please...........again, forgive the intrusion (11/20/2007 10:26:14 AM)

wow...for the record i was born in the USA, lived here my entire life, only been out of the country once....when i went to Singapore....do you know where that is? my IQ is genius level, and my reading and comprehension skills were higher in the 6th grade than yours are now...and..your writing skills are seriously lacking as well (not talking about spelling or grammar or punctuation or capitalization, i am talking about writing to be understood) because what i could decipher of your original post was that he wants you to do is relinquish another of your hard limits in trade for not whoring yourself....

now if that is not correct, then perhaps you would like to correct me? rather than insult me in that 3rd grade manner...btw...i am not hispanic, even though my skin is brown...



mnottertail -> RE: Another question please...........again, forgive the intrusion (11/20/2007 10:42:57 AM)

and that is why I smartass people who just joined and immediately post drama, first they are invariably wankers and they invariably woof shit after asking for advice to the tough love crowd....fuck 'em.

Ron  



SeekingDomme2Lov -> RE: Another question please...........again, forgive the intrusion (11/20/2007 10:45:11 AM)

Now, Hotty, people who speak no English and have no papers have literally SAVED MY ASS many times.  You're not going to win my friendship by talking like that.

If you just want to post waiting for someone to "advise" you that, hey, be with this guy by offering to give him X instead of the right to pimp you out -- well, the Internet's a big place and I'm sure eventually someone will say "Sure, go for it."  And you'll listen to that person instead of all the rest of us.

How is that not loseristic?

At least this is something new.  This is the first time someone's posted a question to the message boards and got upset when people provided straight, honest answers. [;)]

To anyone else who posts in this thread: you are now writing for your own personal amusement, as the OP is not taking us seriously.



Baroque -> RE: Another question please...........again, forgive the intrusion (11/20/2007 10:48:33 AM)

"Communication" would be good advice ( but since I have trouble with that one, best leave it out) 

PS:  STFU is simple and clear.



gorgeous1 -> RE: Another question please...........again, forgive the intrusion (11/20/2007 10:49:08 AM)




quote:

To anyone else who posts in this thread: you are now writing for your own personal amusement, as the OP is not taking us seriously.



Amen. Anyone here watch Attack of the Show? I'm about ready to call "SHENANIGANS"!



sexyred1 -> RE: Another question please...........again, forgive the intrusion (11/20/2007 11:01:19 AM)

I have a new hard limit. Reading anything by this OP.

And YOU have the nerve to insult people who have legitimately tried to help you?

I think you should STFU.



toservez -> RE: Another question please...........again, forgive the intrusion (11/20/2007 11:14:21 AM)

You have asked for advice in two threads and have gotten the same, who cares about the tone.

If you just want people to go it is ok to become a full time prostitute, it is an act of ultimate submission and it is only proper in a “the true slave” code that if you have a hard limit you must give something else up for the dominant to respect that limit then state that is all you are looking for.

It appears you do not like the answers and have decided to just focus on the tone of them.




wisteriaV -> RE: Another question please...........again, forgive the intrusion (11/20/2007 11:14:54 AM)

Hmm ok thought the Op was a kid and glanced at her profile. Someone ( parttimehotty) needs serious help with serious low if nonexsistant self-esteem issue and some meds.



ModeratorEleven -> RE: Another question please...........again, forgive the intrusion (11/20/2007 11:21:13 AM)

Everyone suggesting that other people should STFU, need to consider following their own advice.  Tone it down, folks.

XI



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