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RE: crossing legs - 11/21/2007 3:10:42 PM

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i have heard some Doms do not like subs to cross their legs when seated on furniture, does anyone know if this is true and if their are any other similar things to this that a Dominant may require ?

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Heck, some subs aren't allowed to sit on the furniture so there is a good chance some aren't allowed to cross their legs.

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RE: crossing legs - 11/21/2007 4:14:17 PM

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I don't cross my legs either, not cause I'm not supposed to either, but cause I don't like to. because it's an aqward thing for me to do, it's not comfortable to either, and I also heard it wasn't good for the posture of your back once.

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I don't allow my slave to cross her legs. I don't know that that is a universal thing, but at a munch we attended once, quite a few of the other girls sat with legs open as well.

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RE: crossing legs - 11/21/2007 4:33:36 PM

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fast reply-
The rule against a submissive crossing her legs first appeared in the Story of O, printed in the 1920's, which is sort of the foundation work of modern BDSM...almost all our conventions are derived from that book such as collars, slave training, etc.
A lot of Dominants find this erotic, and pleasing- some don't; There isn't really any generalized rule book for how to practice BDSM, as much as people try to make it sound like there is.

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RE: crossing legs - 11/21/2007 6:46:18 PM

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Some of the small things that we are not allowed to do... cross our arms over our chest, .......... put our hair behind our ears
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The first thing there would be difficult for me...i do that ALL the time without even thinking.

The second...LMAO...would be a hard limit for me LOL...cause my hair HAS to go behind my ear or it would look goofy and there is soooo much of it that i have to have it somewhere so that i can see.

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RE: crossing legs - 11/22/2007 1:40:32 AM

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Some of the small things that we are not allowed to do... cross our arms over our chest, .......... put our hair behind our ears
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The first thing there would be difficult for me...i do that ALL the time without even thinking.

The second...LMAO...would be a hard limit for me LOL...cause my hair HAS to go behind my ear or it would look goofy and there is soooo much of it that i have to have it somewhere so that i can see.

While the crossing of legs under furniture is neither here nor there for me, folded arms is a whole other matter - a mega no-no! lol

I'm not a shrink so pardon my clumsy attempts at explaining this.... What I am is observant and I learnt from a young age (teens) an interesting difference between women who liked me and were comfortable around me and those who weren't, including total strangers.

The ones who weren't comfortable "protected" their breasts.... lol That is, they'd do assoted things like stand a little further back, fold their arms (including even folding around their handbag like a shield), start fidgeting with an unbuttoned blouse button, close an open jacket and maybe fasten a button or two etc. In contrast, someone who was drawn to me would stand a little closer than normal, had no self conscious feelings about visible cleavage etc and her hands/arms were usually well out the way at her side. There's also a huge difference in where their respective eyes focused, but that's another matter.

So back to the topic, if there's one thing my girl is expressly *forbidden* to do, it's protect her breasts around me - clothed or naked. Unless in use, her hands generally belong at her side or behind her back when interacting with me. Folded arms will draw a reflex corrective response from me, as would having her hands on her hips (looks bossy.... lol).

I love these light-hearted kind of topics....

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RE: crossing legs - 11/22/2007 8:09:58 AM

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Master doesnt have any rules about how I sit we do of course have other ones.

I have to ask permission to go the bathroom, have anything to eat or drink anything besides water or what ever he has put in to my drink bottle. I have to drink a minium of 2 litres of water a day, walk one step behind him and to his right when we are out, In situations where others not lifestyle friendly are I don't have to ask permission to eat however I must wait until he has taken his first bite or sip before I am allowed mine. I must write in my journal at least four times a weeks, get at least eight hours sleep a night and when it is a day where he is home from work I am not allowed to get out of the bed in the morning without his permission.

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RE: crossing legs - 11/22/2007 9:31:55 AM

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Some of the small things that we are not allowed to do... cross our arms over our chest, stick our tongue out,
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I bet there's a great story behind this rule being set.

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RE: crossing legs - 11/22/2007 9:42:04 AM

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I actually like my sub to cross her legs - I enjoy the sex feminine look, especially when wearing a short dress and stockings - My sub is not a slave so we are not expecting that level of control.

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RE: crossing legs - 11/22/2007 9:44:23 AM

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Fast reply.....did you know that some women can orgasm from crossing thier legs and flexing thier muscles?

Irrelevant erotic factiod for the day!

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RE: crossing legs - 11/22/2007 10:37:33 AM

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I have that rule with my Master. And I am one that automatically crosses my legs when I sit so it's something that I have to conciously stop myself from doing. I also have to ask permission to use the restroom and before I eat. Overall it just reinforces his control over me, even when he isn't there. Like everytime I eat something if he isnt around to ask I always have a moment where I think of him.

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RE: crossing legs - 11/22/2007 2:15:54 PM

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ORIGINAL: kyraofMists

Some of the small things that we are not allowed to do... cross our arms over our chest, .......... put our hair behind our ears
Knight's Kyra

The first thing there would be difficult for me...i do that ALL the time without even thinking.

The second...LMAO...would be a hard limit for me LOL...cause my hair HAS to go behind my ear or it would look goofy and there is soooo much of it that i have to have it somewhere so that i can see.

While the crossing of legs under furniture is neither here nor there for me, folded arms is a whole other matter - a mega no-no! lol

I'm not a shrink so pardon my clumsy attempts at explaining this.... What I am is observant and I learnt from a young age (teens) an interesting difference between women who liked me and were comfortable around me and those who weren't, including total strangers.

The ones who weren't comfortable "protected" their breasts.... lol That is, they'd do assoted things like stand a little further back, fold their arms (including even folding around their handbag like a shield), start fidgeting with an unbuttoned blouse button, close an open jacket and maybe fasten a button or two etc. In contrast, someone who was drawn to me would stand a little closer than normal, had no self conscious feelings about visible cleavage etc and her hands/arms were usually well out the way at her side. There's also a huge difference in where their respective eyes focused, but that's another matter.

So back to the topic, if there's one thing my girl is expressly *forbidden* to do, it's protect her breasts around me - clothed or naked. Unless in use, her hands generally belong at her side or behind her back when interacting with me. Folded arms will draw a reflex corrective response from me, as would having her hands on her hips (looks bossy.... lol).

I love these light-hearted kind of topics....

Focus.

Traditionally this is a sound concept. It is one of basic body language and makes alot of sense.

my situation is a bit different. i have extremely large breasts (DDD at the least) and there for i have grown quite accustomed to covering them up in many public forums because if i don't i am stared at in a very uncomfortable way. After many years of being told specifically to "cover up" it is now a habit.

So, with me, it is not a typical body language response as it might be with others, for me it has become a way of getting by in vanilla society without becoming something to gawk at or be rude to by other women.

Still and all it is something that i am trying to stop because i know that it gives the conotation that i am unapproachable and blocking others.

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RE: crossing legs - 11/23/2007 1:47:43 AM

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Hi

i have heard some Doms do not like subs to cross their legs when seated on furniture, does anyone know if this is true and if their are any other similar things to this that a Dominant may require ?

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i've never been able to cross my legs till the last year or so. fat thighs. *shrugs*

now....i can. Daddy thinks i'm all cute and adorable all the way round, he doesnt care how i sit. mainly i sit knees together, ankles crossed. mama taught me to be ladylike, and a "lady" doesnt show her knickers to the world.

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RE: crossing legs - 11/23/2007 1:54:14 AM

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Master doesnt like me to cross my legs either but it's oh so hard not to!!!

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RE: crossing legs - 11/23/2007 3:33:56 AM

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Just out of curiosity Kyra if you can't say "you are welcome" what do you say when someone says "thank you" to you?

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RE: crossing legs - 11/23/2007 3:37:36 AM

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Just out of curiosity Kyra if you can't say "you are welcome" what do you say when someone says "thank you" to you?

It is my pleasure or simply my pleasure.

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RE: crossing legs - 11/23/2007 3:39:00 AM

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Interesting. Is there a reason behind that?

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RE: crossing legs - 11/23/2007 3:41:30 AM

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Some of the small things that we are not allowed to do... cross our arms over our chest, stick our tongue out,
Knight's Kyra

I bet there's a great story behind this rule being set.

You know, I have never thought to ask why he does not allow us to do this. I asked Alandra last night if she knew why and she said she has never asked either. If there is a story only he knows it. I suspect that it is just something he doesn't like.

In play we could do it if we wanted to, but then he is likely to make us regret it... *eg*

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RE: crossing legs - 11/23/2007 3:45:22 AM

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LOL

Much like the tongue sticking out, I have not asked why he prefers it. I do know that when I use it, it puts me in a subservient mindset; I am not grudgingly doing things for others. I am doing them with pleasure.

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RE: crossing legs - 11/23/2007 3:46:31 AM

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Hello, How are you doing today ? Well it's really so much appreciate when someone told you thank you for what you done for him or her it depend on the way you touch the life of the person

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RE: crossing legs - 11/23/2007 7:13:30 AM

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You're allowed to sit on the furniture? So lucky!!

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