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ORIGINAL: serisa

Hi

i have heard some Doms do not like subs to cross their legs when seated on furniture, does anyone know if this is true and if their are any other similar things to this that a Dominant may require ?

Thanks

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ORIGINAL: Solinear

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ORIGINAL: serisa

Hi

i have heard some Doms do not like subs to cross their legs when seated on furniture, does anyone know if this is true and if their are any other similar things to this that a Dominant may require ?

Thanks

A dominant may require anything that they consider appropriate.  Personally I would require a sub to not cross her legs when we are alone and *to* cross her legs when others are present.  I also prefer that my subs do things like not wear underwear when they're around me.

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ORIGINAL: daddyncherry

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ORIGINAL: Focus50

While the crossing of legs under furniture is neither here nor there for me, folded arms is a whole other matter - a mega no-no!  lol
 
I'm not a shrink so pardon my clumsy attempts at explaining this....  What I am is observant and I learnt from a young age (teens) an interesting difference between women who liked me and were comfortable around me and those who weren't, including total strangers. 
 
The ones who weren't comfortable "protected" their breasts....  lol  That is, they'd do assoted things like stand a little further back, fold their arms (including even folding around their handbag like a shield), start fidgeting with an unbuttoned blouse button, close an open jacket and maybe fasten a button or two etc.  In contrast, someone who was drawn to me would stand a little closer than normal, had no self conscious feelings about visible cleavage etc and her hands/arms were usually well out the way at her side.  There's also a huge difference in where their respective eyes focused, but that's another matter.
 
So back to the topic, if there's one thing my girl is expressly *forbidden* to do, it's protect her breasts around me - clothed or naked.  Unless in use, her hands generally belong at her side or behind her back when interacting with me.  Folded arms will draw a reflex corrective response from me, as would having her hands on her hips (looks bossy.... lol).
 
I love these light-hearted kind of topics....
 
Focus.

Traditionally this is a sound concept. It is one of basic body language and makes alot of sense.

my situation is a bit different. i have extremely large breasts (DDD at the least) and there for i have grown quite accustomed to covering them up in many public forums because if i don't i am stared at in a very uncomfortable way. After many years of being told specifically to "cover up" it is now a habit.

So, with me, it is not a typical body language response as it might be with others, for me it has become a way of getting by in vanilla society without becoming something to gawk at or be rude to by other women.

Still and all it is something that i am trying to stop because i know that it gives the conotation that i am unapproachable and blocking others.

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ORIGINAL: Focus50

The beauty of bondage makes for a simple house rule at my place.  If the girl can't use her hands peoperly or has trouble remembering or focusing etc, she can spend an hour or six without them.
 
Focus.

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ORIGINAL: Focus50




Traditionally this is a sound concept. It is one of basic body language and makes alot of sense.

my situation is a bit different. i have extremely large breasts (DDD at the least) and there for i have grown quite accustomed to covering them up in many public forums because if i don't i am stared at in a very uncomfortable way. After many years of being told specifically to "cover up" it is now a habit.

So, with me, it is not a typical body language response as it might be with others, for me it has become a way of getting by in vanilla society without becoming something to gawk at or be rude to by other women.

Still and all it is something that i am trying to stop because i know that it gives the conotation that i am unapproachable and blocking others.

Even though your chosen avatar shows as much of boobs as a back shot would, I wasn't getting a DDD vibe from it.... lol
 
But yes, I can relate if there's a specific physical reason why an individual does what they do.  However, in the context of a personal relationship (esp D/s or M/s and extra esp in privacy), the rules would still apply - but you seem to know that....  :-)
 
The beauty of bondage makes for a simple house rule at my place.  If the girl can't use her hands peoperly or has trouble remembering or focusing etc, she can spend an hour or six without them.
 
Focus.

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ORIGINAL: daddyncherry

my situation is a bit different. i have extremely large breasts (DDD at the least) and there for i have grown quite accustomed to covering them up in many public forums because if i don't i am stared at in a very uncomfortable way. After many years of being told specifically to "cover up" it is now a habit.

So, with me, it is not a typical body language response as it might be with others, for me it has become a way of getting by in vanilla society without becoming something to gawk at or be rude to by other women.

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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

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ORIGINAL: daddyncherry

my situation is a bit different. i have extremely large breasts (DDD at the least) and there for i have grown quite accustomed to covering them up in many public forums because if i don't i am stared at in a very uncomfortable way. After many years of being told specifically to "cover up" it is now a habit.

So, with me, it is not a typical body language response as it might be with others, for me it has become a way of getting by in vanilla society without becoming something to gawk at or be rude to by other women.

Cherry, I was guessing that your endowment was natural, but you mentioned elsewhere that you have large implants.  So why would you cover up something you chose yourself? Who would be telling you to cover up?  If you are "trying to get by" in society so much so that you are changing your body language, which makes it sound like you are unhappy (because if you were secure about it, I would think it wouldn't matter), why are you keeping them (the implants)?

Or do I have you completely confused with someone else?

Cali
(really not on a snarky bent, just interested in the mental aspect going on)

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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

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ORIGINAL: Focus50

The beauty of bondage makes for a simple house rule at my place.  If the girl can't use her hands peoperly or has trouble remembering or focusing etc, she can spend an hour or six without them.
 
Focus.

Am I the only one having an almost OVERWHELMING urge to pay a visit to Focus just to stand there and cross my arms???  Darn.  Australia.  Sigh.  LOL!

Cali

Lol, promises; promises!