Do You Need to Love Your Dominant?

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Blaakmaan -> Do You Need to Love Your Dominant? (11/22/2007 9:54:27 AM)
Greetings to all: My question is pretty simple, I think. I believe that interpersonal relationships are fueled by love, or at least by great affection. My question to submissives is, do you have to, or even want to, love your Dominant? Does it make it easier to serve him/her and to want to make him/her happy, or does it complicate things more than it's worth, or is it just not relevant at all? Thanks to all who reply, and Happy Thanksgiving, everybody!

IrishMist -> RE: Do You Need to Love Your Dominant? (11/22/2007 9:55:43 AM)
quote: My question to submissives is, do you have to, or even want to, love your Dominant? No; I don't have to No, I don't want to

breatheasone -> RE: Do You Need to Love Your Dominant? (11/22/2007 10:02:14 AM)
For me...yes I would have to...i guess it makes it easier...and yes I want to make Him happy.

sexyred1 -> RE: Do You Need to Love Your Dominant? (11/22/2007 10:08:05 AM)
Well, yes, I would like to be in love with someone I am in a D/s relationship with, that would be ideal, but do I have to? No, it can still work, just not as perfectly.

RCdc -> RE: Do You Need to Love Your Dominant? (11/22/2007 10:28:30 AM)
Hello Blaakman Do I have to or want to? For me in a LTR, yes - but I don't believe everyone has to. I don't believe it makes it easier or harder. Love simply 'is'. It is relevant, but I don't believe it has to be and it can have absolutely nothing to do with my service or BDSM in general. the.dark.

boy46 -> RE: Do You Need to Love Your Dominant? (11/22/2007 10:32:34 AM)
Yes i need it. No doubt of it. But love towards your owner is made with time.

julietsierra -> RE: Do You Need to Love Your Dominant? (11/22/2007 10:52:24 AM)
Do I "have" to? Probably not Do I "want" to? I wasn't sure at first (all that "protect yourself from the unknown" stuff going on back then) Do I now? Absolutely Would I change a thing? Never. As far as whether loving him makes it easier to serve or not... well, it makes it more passionate. However, sometimes, it makes serving harder - and that's a good thing too. juliet

Hergirl0824 -> RE: Do You Need to Love Your Dominant? (11/22/2007 11:04:46 AM)
for me personally yes it is a requirement, i do not function completely without loving

akisha -> RE: Do You Need to Love Your Dominant? (11/22/2007 11:13:53 AM)
To just submit and play with someone no. I have to have a general liking for the person and respect. To be in a commited relationship with them and be owned by them? Yes

esmerelda -> RE: Do You Need to Love Your Dominant? (11/22/2007 11:21:44 AM)
I don't think i could be truly owned by someone i don't love and respect......

lanie38 -> RE: Do You Need to Love Your Dominant? (11/22/2007 11:27:42 AM)
Don't have to or need to...it usually really complicates things... ~lanie

southernhart -> RE: Do You Need to Love Your Dominant? (11/22/2007 11:31:41 AM)
i love my Owner, that's what makes D/s so special to me and takes me to unbelieveable heights and highs. Everything i do i do because of my love for him. i can't see myself just playing with someone and enjoying it without special feelimgs for them. It woul;d be empty and unsatisfying. This completes me. Happy Thanksgiving.

agirl -> RE: Do You Need to Love Your Dominant? (11/22/2007 11:37:42 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Blaakmaan Greetings to all: My question is pretty simple, I think. I believe that interpersonal relationships are fueled by love, or at least by great affection. My question to submissives is, do you have to, or even want to, love your Dominant? Does it make it easier to serve him/her and to want to make him/her happy, or does it complicate things more than it's worth, or is it just not relevant at all? Thanks to all who reply, and Happy Thanksgiving, everybody! I haven't ever thought about having to or wanting to. I probably wouldn't be with him after all this time if there wasn't mutual affection. We most certainly like each other, a lot. I don't want to make him happy and I don't particulary want to serve , either, so they aren't relevant, in terms of affection etc. agirl

rubberpet -> RE: Do You Need to Love Your Dominant? (11/22/2007 11:50:01 AM)
For me, my submission is dependent on whether I'm in love with my domme. I can submit to a certain extent if my heart is not involved, but the level I reach will never be anywhere close to the level if I am in love with her. For it to be completely fulfilling, I need love from my mistress. She gives me all the love I could ever hope for, so that helps me to completely immerse myself in submission to Her. That is when I am at my happiest.

justnewsub -> RE: Do You Need to Love Your Dominant? (11/22/2007 12:22:13 PM)
Do i have to? i don't feel i have to love to serve, but definatly respect and trust... i agree that the stronger the feelings of affection the deeper i could submit... Do i want to? yes i would some day love to be in a loving relationship with a Dom and hope to build up to that some day. Also no matter what i do, i want to make my Dom happy, there is nothing like getting that pat on the head or a "good girl", for a job well done :)

Slavor -> RE: Do You Need to Love Your Dominant? (11/22/2007 12:26:51 PM)
I can love woman who like BDSM , but without influence on my personal life , I mean only at night with this or other free time at home with her .

winterlight -> RE: Do You Need to Love Your Dominant? (11/22/2007 1:09:46 PM)
I wouldn't want to be in a relationship where there isn't love, commitment, and mutual respect and admiration for each other.

Shawn1066 -> RE: Do You Need to Love Your Dominant? (11/22/2007 1:11:08 PM)
Do I have to? Yes. Do I want to? Of course. Do I? More and more every day. :-)

laurell3 -> RE: Do You Need to Love Your Dominant? (11/22/2007 2:00:15 PM)
Do I have to? No. At the same time, I don't want a relationship where love will not be accepted or is limited. Do I want to? Yes. I think often times we put so much faith in the words "I love you" that we forget that many things people do are loving, caring and desired. That is what I seek, not the words per se.

RRafe -> RE: Do You Need to Love Your Dominant? (11/22/2007 2:06:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: laurell3 Do I have to? No. At the same time, I don't want a relationship where love will not be accepted or is limited. Do I want to? Yes. I think often times we put so much faith in the words "I love you" that we forget that many things people do are loving, caring and desired. That is what I seek, not the words per se. Love isn't just about words, or sappy romance. It's about how you live.

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