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RE: Coming Out as Kinky - 11/26/2007 2:30:17 AM

MissMagnolia

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I'm with you denouement.

I have no shame about who and what I am, but it isn't something that comes up in conversation with my folks. I don't tell my mum what brand of pads I buy, if I have a vaginal problem or how many guys I screwed this century (she's probably getting more action than me and she's nearly 80, LOL

). Why would she need to know about my being a Domme?

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RE: Coming Out as Kinky - 11/26/2007 11:34:21 AM

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A two week visit is everyone on best behavior, it isn't a true reflection of who any of you are. If my 18 year old announced she was moving to the other side of the country to live with someone she'd met once for a two week vacation, I would think she had lost her mind.

I would find it easier if she announced she wished to transfer to a college there and study a program they had, if she had arranged a job transfer there, if she had enough money to rent an apartment and live for six months without calling me at three in the morning to bail her out of trouble.

21 is legally adult, which means that you and not your mother is responsible if you hate the situation and need to escape out a window in the middle of the night with no belongings. Think about the worst possible case scenario and plan for it if you want to convince your mother you are an adult. But if you're going from living at home, to living with someone else, you aren't acting in a responsible, adult manner.

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RE: Coming Out as Kinky - 11/26/2007 11:50:40 AM

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In response to the last reply, i have already been living on my own for more than 8 months. i don't live with my parents, and haven't for awhile.

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RE: Coming Out as Kinky - 11/26/2007 11:55:18 AM

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That's an important piece of info, and rare in a 21 y. o. Have you savings to go there and get a ticket back if you don't like the situation? Are you planning on job hunting while there? Because when you ask how to minimize the worry your family will have, these are the kinds of things that will help. Being able to say you have a job offer, or at least interviews set up, you have the money to get back if you decide it isn't for you, you are self supporting. Basically, you are pro-active and give them the answers to the questions they would ask before they have a chance to ask.

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RE: Coming Out as Kinky - 11/26/2007 7:08:44 PM

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Don't come out. Don't hide.

Do you need to be explicitly told that your parents have a traditional relationship, or your friends? Why would they need to be told that you don't?

If it becomes known, it becomes known. Skip the 'tell the mailman' phase of things.

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