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A question about Mistresses - 11/25/2007 1:35:39 PM

sawsan

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Hi everybody,
I have been looking for a Mistress to enslave me for so long that I started to doubt that Mistresses do it for any pleasure. They might be doing it only for money.
Is there Mistress who dominates slaves only for pleasure or fun ? Or is it all about money ?

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RE: A question about Mistresses - 11/25/2007 1:42:24 PM

RumpusParable

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Well, there's myself and the other gazillion dominant female profiles that state they do on the others side of this site, along with the multitutdes who post here... and all those you meet in real-time groups.

It just takes a while to find the right person for you, regardless of one's sex or orientation.

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RE: A question about Mistresses - 11/25/2007 1:43:57 PM

LadyPact

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I don't do a thing for money except go to My job.

If I wasn't having fun in this lifestyle, I doubt I'd be doing it.

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RE: A question about Mistresses - 11/25/2007 1:44:30 PM

Bloodrose88

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It seems this question is asked at least a dozen times a day on the boards. Start reading the forums, you will see that most Dominant women on this site (at least the ones that participate on the boards) do it purely for pleasure.
If seeing a Pro-Domme is not your cup of tea, then don't pay for it. But don't whine about not being able to find a Domme either. Unfortunately, the numbers are not in your favor. Just be sweet, honest and not whiny...and you should meet some interesting and wonderful women.
Have a good day!

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RE: A question about Mistresses - 11/25/2007 1:45:48 PM

LadyHibiscus

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There are precious few decent submissive men out there, and many many many selfish whining jerks who want things from women. Decide which one you are, and focus your search.

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RE: A question about Mistresses - 11/25/2007 2:39:08 PM

GoddessDustyGold

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Huh?
According to your profile you are 19 years old and living in Cairo, Egypt. You also joined the site today. At least under this nick.
So how long have you been looking? What are you asking for? I get letters from boys like you all the time, that read something like this:

quote:

Hi Mistress...I am looking to be completely enslaved and will come to you on your command to serve you for the rest of life. I am a true slave.

Of course I have cleaned up the grammar and punctuation and may have even given more information than I might get in an actual email from your part of the world. And this same info applies to all the boys who write from Spain, Japan, Africa, Italy, France, Australia. I am not picking on Egypt or the Middle East.

If you are looking online and you are living in Egypt,(or anywhere half a world away) you are going to run into those who will cam or cyber dominate and most of them, unfortunately, are going to expect money. *shrug* Be patient and look in your own neighborhood. I'm willing to bet your odds of success will increase significantly.

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RE: A question about Mistresses - 11/25/2007 2:49:02 PM

thetammyjo

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I only get involved with real people who are sincerely interested in serving me and joining my family.

That means I need to meet then and get to know them in meatlife.

I have never in 16 years in the community found someone online, only in my local or near local community so anyone who is farther away than a couple hours drive is out of the question.

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RE: A question about Mistresses - 11/25/2007 2:51:03 PM

LadyHibiscus

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I have my mail controls blocked to foreign countries, but most of the men who look at my profile are young and from Europe or the Middle East. *shrug*

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RE: A question about Mistresses - 11/25/2007 2:51:48 PM

mnottertail

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Why you wanna be hating on the Egyptians, GDG?

I could see you donning the cobra cap and slinging a striped towel about your loins............

That is how I would top you from the bottom, at any rate.

Ron(ne)

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RE: A question about Mistresses - 11/25/2007 2:56:52 PM

TexasMaam

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Ronster,

You are sooo baaad.

lolol

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RE: A question about Mistresses - 11/25/2007 2:59:17 PM

RumpusParable

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quote:

ORIGINAL: GoddessDustyGold

Huh?
According to your profile you are 19 years old and living in Cairo, Egypt. You also joined the site today. At least under this nick.

On seeing this and checking your profile, OP, I have to say that GDG hit the nail on the head for me, at least.

If you were nearby and wanted to serve me personally and we cliqued? Would require no cash on your part.

If you want to "serve" me by me watching you play with yourself various ways on cam or otherwise by me effectively providing you with porn? Tribute is expected, there's just nothing else you can do for me from Egypt. When those from overseas contact me for this sort of thing, I tell them "fine, you understand you have to tribute, right?" or "write me when you've moved to the US".

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RE: A question about Mistresses - 11/25/2007 3:06:22 PM

GoddessDustyGold

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

Why you wanna be hating on the Egyptians, GDG?

I could see you donning the cobra cap and slinging a striped towel about your loins............

That is how I would top you from the bottom, at any rate.

Ron(ne)

Oh, dear sweet Ron(ne)! You only think you would be able to top Me from the bottom.
What a lovely daydream!

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RE: A question about Mistresses - 11/25/2007 3:11:20 PM

mnottertail

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LOL,

with offers aplenty worldwide----

Ok,

a poll:

London
New York
Oslo
Paris
Beijing
Richville, MN (pop 164)

please order these in descending order of your interest and percieved areas sophistication.

Mr.Geo.Gallup

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RE: A question about Mistresses - 11/25/2007 3:28:19 PM

MsSonnetMarwood

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sawsan

Hi everybody,
I have been looking for a Mistress to enslave me for so long that I started to doubt that Mistresses do it for any pleasure. They might be doing it only for money.
Is there Mistress who dominates slaves only for pleasure or fun ? Or is it all about money ?

Subs who have realistic expectations about how to establish and maintain a BDSM relationship have a hard time finding a lifestyle domme for such a relationship because there's just not a lot of dommes out there. These are the subs that educate themselves, pursue careers, are well-rounded, have friends in and out of the lifestyle, and have something to offer in a potential relationship, because they know it's not all about them and their kinks.   They understand that relationships take work on both their parts, are never 100% perfect, and can be wonderful regardless.

Subs who have unrealitic, fetish and fantasy based expectations about how a Domme is going to swoop down and claim them and they won't have to make any efforts themselves to make this happen may, on occasion, find a domme they can pay to feed their fantasies, but will never find a r/t domme for an ongoing, healthy relationship because they do not have any concept of what it takes to be in an ongoing, healthy relationship. These boys will miss life because they spend years fantasizing and sitting on their computers, and never learn to relate to women.

Which one do you want to be?

My suggestion:   turn off your computer, go to college, study hard, and learn how to court vanilla women and treat them wonderfully. When you've finished college, have a viable career started, and start to understand how you can possibly work being submissive within the context of a real, workable relationship with a woman who is not some fantasy figure of a Domme but a real person, THEN you can start looking.    If you ultimately want to emigrate to another country, then explore those options about how you're going to make that happen without expecting someone to move you.

In the 12 years or so I've been active in the lifestyle, I have never known a Domme who would even entertain the concept of snatching up some youngster from another country to be their slave, let alone have actually moved some kid from another country to serve them.

There are so many prodommes out there because, frankly, there's a market for them.   Many MANY boys are not interested in putting the time and effort it takes to be in a r/t relationship with a Domme (or just can't), and therefore seek the venue of professionals to meet their kink needs.    That's actually a good thing, because they recognize that what they're seeking is something that is more realistic within that context, and are comfortable providing that level of reciprocation for having their needs met.

< Message edited by MsSonnetMarwood -- 11/25/2007 3:38:55 PM >

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RE: A question about Mistresses - 11/25/2007 3:34:21 PM

LadySeraphina

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I too get tired of hearing from boys who want my to dominate them online, and think that somehow that is interesting enough that I would want to do it for free. If you aren't paying me, what exactly do you think I get out of online domination?

In the real world, I am a professional Domme, but also have a consort and a slave, and seek one more. Frankly, the quality of most of the boys who want to be my other slave is not very high. Would I even consider a boy from overseas? Nearly never. Then again, I'm talking to one from the UK right now. It has nothing to do with which country he's from, and everything to do with how he communicated with me, and how readily he will come visit me.

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RE: A question about Mistresses - 11/25/2007 4:22:19 PM

GoddessDustyGold

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

LOL,

with offers aplenty worldwide----

Ok,

a poll:

London
New York
Oslo
Paris
Beijing
Richville, MN (pop 164)

please order these in descending order of your interest and percieved areas sophistication.

Mr.Geo.Gallup

*laffing* I will play your game since My dinner is not ready, I'm bored, and you did say "please". .
Also, I like ya, Ron(ne)!

In order of at least an initial interest? Anywhere in the USA where the boy is open to and not afraid of relocation.
In other words, I am being approached with the forgone conclusion that if things were to go in the right direction, he already knows and is prepared for a move to My neck of the woods. And there are not difficult legal roadblocks to that relocation. An important consideration for Me.

Therefore: Tied for first place! New York and Richville, Mn (pop 164)
Tied for last place! London, Oslo, Paris and Beijing

Sophistication? I am never one to assume. I would posit that the one in Richville, Mn (pop 164) might be enough of a sophisiticate for Me, and the one in NY or Paris or London or Oslo might be a complete dolt with his own selfish agenda.
Beijiing is a tough one. I would probably shut that down without a second glance as the likelihood of that one ever being able to relocate is too remote...Besides the more mature residents of a "Beijing" never write to Me. Only the young ones looking for a way out. Ya know what I mean, jellybean?
Suffice it to say that I am always open to any who write with the correct attitude and a realistic sense of what I want along with the explanation of how they can fulfill that.
Most never figure that out whether they are in Beijing or Richville, Mn (pop164).

Yes, I get lots of mail and lots of offers! But that doesn't mean I have very many options. I am content with eric ( he is a very comfortably local boy!) who may lack a certain amount of sophistication, but his heart is good and he really wants to please Me (And does!). He has My collar around his neck and that is enough to keep Me content for now...

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RE: A question about Mistresses - 11/25/2007 5:38:00 PM

MasterFireMaam

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If you're not getting the results you want, start looking at your process. Change your process (such as the criteria on which you base your decision to contact her) and you'll get different results.

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RE: A question about Mistresses - 11/25/2007 7:32:07 PM

SeraphinaKrow

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sawsan

Hi everybody,
I have been looking for a Mistress to enslave me for so long that I started to doubt that Mistresses do it for any pleasure. They might be doing it only for money.
Is there Mistress who dominates slaves only for pleasure or fun ? Or is it all about money ?

I do have my own personal submissive just for my pleasure, and I met her from this site. There are tons of Mistresses out there looking for their perfect personal pet/sub/slave/science experiment... just keep looking.

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RE: A question about Mistresses - 11/25/2007 7:59:29 PM

TNstepsout

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You know what? Being pampered and spoiled is hard work. I should get paid for it!

Pleasure Smleasure. BAH!

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