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RE: How to say hi - 11/26/2007 1:03:36 PM

charlotte12

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My Master and i found eachother on the boards. He noticed something i had posted and so read my profile and sent an email. He had nothing in his profile but i had noticed him around the boards and enjoyed his posts so i responded. Neither of us was desperate to find someone and we approached it from getting to know someone who we had both already noticed.

So i would say spend time on the boards learning and discussing. I always responded to people who showed an interest in who i actually was and not just my bdsm interests.

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RE: How to say hi - 11/26/2007 3:04:02 PM

utterlybutterfli

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fast reply.

'little subbie'.eek.
fold before the flop, ladies.

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RE: How to say hi - 11/26/2007 3:40:46 PM

LadyLynx

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lol. if a Domme waits for the guy to make the move, no that doesn't necesarily mean she is a sub. I am a switch, I always contacting people for something, whether it is to comment on something in their profile, or on the threads. or they seem interesting and I want to get to know them better. I have known female subs who contact Doms all the time, male and female.

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RE: How to say hi - 11/26/2007 4:04:18 PM

restrainedslave

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sexyred1

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ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

Might help to follow your own advice and put all that stuff in YOUR profile instead of simply asking saying "put your butts up for inspection." Just a thought. You'll get out of it as much as you put into it.

Master Fire

Really. I was just wondering how such a charming and intriguing profile could fail to produce flocks of submissive women lining up for inspection.

Yeah... I was thinking that myself.

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RE: How to say hi - 11/26/2007 6:49:31 PM

Solipsistic

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ORIGINAL: topcat
I also never make the first 'move'- though I will send the first note, I expect them to petition me- a male dom is about the rarest bird in the scene, and one that chases submissives really isn't all that domly IMO. Put it out there, but make them come to you.

This was an interesting comment that I would love to see explained more in depth. I agree with it, and my interpretation of it (and how I act on it) is that while I may be the first to initiate conversation, I am not the first to imply anything more than friendly chatting. Having a casual friendship that slowly develops overtones of submission is exactly the kind of thing that appeals to me the most. Still, I'm curious if that's what you were getting at.

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RE: How to say hi - 11/26/2007 8:03:34 PM

TemptingNviceSub

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To astarri,Topcat, and Jefff...:0)..You all have me utterly blushing by your sweet compliments..I thank you all...~wanders off looking for a crane to now carry my big head..:0)~Tempting

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RE: How to say hi - 11/26/2007 8:18:06 PM

juliaoceania

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I echo the others that talk about only two weeks after leaving a significant relationship to start looking for a new one.. it seems a little fast to me. I understand sometimes people look to replace one person with another very quickly.. I refer to these situations as rebound relationships, and they are usually ill-advised. In fact they usually end up with hurt feelings because you just cannot replace someone, even if you may end up in some mad infatuation... these things tend to burn themselves out within weeks.

I am a person that licks her wounds and rethinks things before jumping in so soon... I found out rather young what rebounds lead to.

Good luck, but perhaps it is best to date and play around rather than look for a replacement sub right away.... pingpong should never have been your sub if she can be so easily replaced... and if she can't perhaps you shouldn't of let it go in the first place? Just sayin.

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RE: How to say hi - 11/26/2007 11:48:01 PM

StarlightSoul

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the emails that turn me off (and end up getting ignored) are the ones that either demand instant submission and/or start off talking about filthy, kinky sex (at least one or two conversations first, please)

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RE: How to say hi - 11/27/2007 3:37:45 AM

Maya2001

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And finally I will have to post constantly for the next few hours… I HATE being called vanilla.

31 hours and a total of 9 posts LOL the hate must be turning to acceptance of your fate here I would definitely leave out reference to the length of time since your sub left unless you plan to be editing your profile every week , most subs tend not to enjoy being called subbie, it is about as offensive as referring to a Dom as Dommie.

I tend to enjoy receiving emails come with a question that is humorous and silly it makes for a great opener when responding to, and can make for some light enjoyable conversations.

I do get quite a few short one liners such as "I like your pics" or "nice pics" for me I am not sure if the person is simply expressing an appreciation for the pic or wanting to possibly consider a relationship so if I respond to it will often be nothing more than "thank you" But ig they say "I liked your pics , did you have the one professionally done? How long have you been in the lifestyle" I know they have a personal interest in me and I am forced if I respond to, with more than just a short one liner

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