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sexyone4you -> It's not cheating?!? (11/25/2007 10:19:36 PM)
I wanted to share my most recent online encounter with a Top from here on CM with the group. Someone please enlighten me with WTF this means. I chatted with a man, no, I won't give his ID, that wants to find a slave & have a sexual relationship with her, but somehow he says it's not cheating. I am the queen of excuses, justifications, & loop holes, but this one eludes me. Can anyone fill me in on how sleeping with a slave doesn't equal adultery? (Or have I just spoken with someone who crawled out from another rock?)

denouement -> RE: It's not cheating?!? (11/25/2007 10:21:41 PM)
Rock.

simplyeli -> RE: It's not cheating?!? (11/25/2007 10:21:50 PM)
ask to meet his wife...if he introduces you to her, its not adultery. if he doesnt...it is.

AquaticSub -> RE: It's not cheating?!? (11/25/2007 10:22:48 PM)
Did he say why it's not cheating? Is it not cheating because whoever he is with knows and approves or has agreed to a relationship where he gets to do whatever he likes? Is it not cheating simply because you are a slave?

CalifChick -> RE: It's not cheating?!? (11/25/2007 10:23:01 PM)
You didn't mention his marital status or relationship status. Is he committed to someone? Cali

simplyeli -> RE: It's not cheating?!? (11/25/2007 10:23:05 PM)
either way...always, always, always...go with your gut feeling.

sexyone4you -> RE: It's not cheating?!? (11/25/2007 10:23:48 PM)
No intentions to meet the wife, simplyeli. He wanted "discretion." I think it was a rock creature.

sexyone4you -> RE: It's not cheating?!? (11/25/2007 10:24:55 PM)
Sorry, CalifChick, he's married.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: It's not cheating?!? (11/25/2007 10:29:46 PM)
There are wives who are fine with their husbands having other lovers and being kept in the dark- they are very rare however and it would be up to that particular slave as to whether they needed to meet the wife or have a relationship with the wife first. 99% of the time though, it's just cheating.

denouement -> RE: It's not cheating?!? (11/25/2007 10:33:05 PM)
Just for the record here : "adultery" is sex outside of marriage, whether the wife knows about it or not isn't relevant to the charge. Now "cheating" on the other hand... sure, it matter if the wife knows.

simplyeli -> RE: It's not cheating?!? (11/25/2007 10:36:49 PM)
very rock....and not in a good way at all, hunny. RUN! i say RUN!

Estring -> RE: It's not cheating?!? (11/25/2007 10:38:20 PM)
More importantly, how do you feel about it? Just because a wife may be fine with it, you don't have to be.

sexyone4you -> RE: It's not cheating?!? (11/25/2007 10:38:25 PM)
Don't worry. I ran. It's just been a day of rock dwellers.

azropedntied -> RE: It's not cheating?!? (11/25/2007 10:38:25 PM)
when a guy says i really wish this to be discreat ,please use discresion , that means don't tell my wife and keep my secrets .A cheater .If one does not value a spouse why would they value and honor and respect you ?

simplyeli -> RE: It's not cheating?!? (11/25/2007 10:38:38 PM)
and very well put, denouement...very well put indeed...

sexyone4you -> RE: It's not cheating?!? (11/25/2007 10:40:07 PM)
I just want to say TY to Brookstone for making the best vibrator ever. Keeps me from following my hormones!

IrishMist -> RE: It's not cheating?!? (11/26/2007 4:39:29 AM)
As already mentioned; it really depends on his wife. She may be well aware that he has partners on the side; She may even encourage this; It may also be that at one time she told him 'take all the partners you want, but do not tell me about them; be discrete and considerate of my own reputation' And then it may also be that she has no idea of his extracurricular activities [:)] Either way, I would simply state that I wanted to speak with the wife. If it was refused, then I would say good bye. End of dilemma [8D]

LATEXBABY64 -> RE: It's not cheating?!? (11/26/2007 4:41:57 AM)
divorce court

DiurnalVampire -> RE: It's not cheating?!? (11/26/2007 4:47:34 AM)
Im with the others. Some women dont mind other partners, or maybe the wife isnt into the lifestyle and doesnt mind him keeping a slave. But, you need to hear it from her, not him. My ex said hookers werent cheating because it was just sex and not an emotional relationship. One mans excuse is anothers belief... DV

domiguy -> RE: It's not cheating?!? (11/26/2007 5:42:23 AM)
Maybe the guy feels it's not cheating because he feels no connection to the women that he is fucking. Maybe his wife is in a coma.....I think I've fucked a few of them in my career. Maybe his wife is incarcerated for the next fifty years for murder? Thanks for bringing this to the attention of others. I'll keep an eye out for this guy. If it's raining outside and I walk out into it.....Will I get wet?

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